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I thought man code over ruled chick code
 
alanf85 said:
Never ceases to amaze me what some people can turn a blind eye too :eek:
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Why should he say something? Little tell tale.
Maybe he wanted some action to and was jealous!!:p

Guys have to keep their friends business amongst friends. If a friend of mine had to blurt out something stupid that I did to my Gf/Potential wife, I would beat the crap out of him. I wouldnt tell on him. Id tease him but thats as far as it goes.
 
JK8 said:

Why should he say something? Little tell tale.
Maybe he wanted some action to and was jealous!!:p

Guys have to keep their friends business amongst friends. If a friend of mine had to blurt out something stupid that I did to my Gf/Potential wife, I would beat the crap out of him. I wouldnt tell on him. Id tease him but thats as far as it goes.
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Because it's the right thing to do. A person's health is at risk. Some obviously have no respect for other people's health or dignity.

Of course you'd be fine with your friend if you picked up aids from your gf whos friend's bf(your friend) knew she was sleeping around with high risk individuals :o
 
Velenoso said:
So what has this achieved? The friend's girlfriend did not believe killa's girlfriend. Now it just seems like killa is an ******* who is purposefully causing trouble for his friend. He should have just kept quiet/made his girlfriend swear to keep quiet about it. It is between his friend and his girlfriend to resolve.
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How are they going to resolve something when he is not completely open with her? It would be interesting if six months or a year down the line, the truth really did come out, because he caught an STD from his stupid one night stand. Then that g/f will be apologizing to killa's fiance for not believing her in the first place.

And just for the record, I am female ...

I have read through most of this thread and feel that killa did the right thing. Killa did say he would be quiet about it, but when your own morals come into question, then there is not much you can do - you need to live with a clear conscience. Maybe killa did not approach the situation right. Maybe he should have gone to that friend directly and taken it from there.

Had he gone to his fiance and said, "Don't tell anyone I told you." and the truth then did come out, I would have been upset. But he left it open, and of course, best friends talk, but this time, it did not have the desired consequences.

With all said and done, when the **** hits the fan, you find out who your real friends are. And it seems killa is in need of some new friends. Sorry, dude.
 
bwana i told her because i didnt want to go to his g/f who would not believe me which she didnt anyway

i knew my chick would go and tell thats why i did it

also i have seen some comments about pillz and moral and what not, no where does it say taking pills is immoral

drinking is just as bad as chowing a couple of pills but that is acceptable, drinking and pillz are the same thing just one is legal and the other is not

if you think taking pillz and screwing around on your g/f with a hooker are in the same league u need your head read :)

anyways some good comments thanx guys :)
 
Second time in my life I agree with JK8 ...

Probably because we're not in the car section
 
I haven't read everything but in case someone posted it already I apologize.

The definition / difference between ethics and morals is that the ethical man knows he shouldn't cheat. The moral man doesn't.
 
i get pretty bleak with guys who cheat on their girlfriends. its even worse if they have to wear a radiation suit to keep from getting something while they're cheating! you should've kicked some sense into your mate before he loved her long time.

my opinion:

to start off, you should've told your fiance. maybe not about who did what etc but just enough so she can be sure you didnt do anything. then you should've told your friend to tell his gf. if he didnt tell her, it would be your moral obligation to tell her.
but seeing as thats not how things ended up...
your mate cheated on his gf with a WHORE. thats scum right there.
he's mad at you because you are the reason why his gf found out... but she wouldnt have known this if he hadnt stuck it in the WHORE. so its still his fault.
and your mates being mad at you because you were honest with your fiance so you dont end up potentially losing the most important person in your life? if they cant understand that then they're not worth the trouble.

my dad had this thing he always said about my friends in high school: "the quality of those you surround yourself with will determine the quality of your life" if you hang with guys who feel its cool to screw around, you're going to get screwed.

and for those of you who are pulling the "bro code" and "bros before hoes" cards...
you dont marry your bro, you marry your fiance. bro code doesnt apply when it can end up in someone getting aids or lose their fiance. its only bro's before hoes when it doesnt actually involve a hoe... and if you're in highschool (even then its circumstantial!)
 
killadoob said:
bwana i told her because i didnt want to go to his g/f who would not believe me which she didnt anyway

i knew my chick would go and tell thats why i did it
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Oh - so you wanted his g/f to know?
 
Can't say your response surprises me, killadoob. I agree, it's pretty much the same thing. Getting f*cked up on pills/booze/weed/speed/acid/coke/heroin is all the same, isn't it? All of them make you lose a certain aspect of control and take you out of your "normal" mindset. I hate when people use that as an excuse. I'm really not claiming superiority here or anything. I'm merely stating the facts.

Anyway, like I said earlier, you should have approached the person directly and if he insisted on doing what he did, you should have just left.
 
Nocturnity said:
Can't say your response surprises me, killadoob. I agree, it's pretty much the same thing. Getting f*cked up on pills/booze/weed/speed/acid/coke/heroin is all the same, isn't it? All of them make you lose a certain aspect of control and take you out of your "normal" mindset. I hate when people use that as an excuse. I'm really not claiming superiority here or anything. I'm merely stating the facts.

Anyway, like I said earlier, you should have approached the person directly and if he insisted on doing what he did, you should have just left.
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I agree with this - you condoned his actions when you said you wouldnt say anything and then covered your own butt by telling your fiancee.
 
When he asked you would you keep quiet about this, you should have said no, what you're about to do is wrong... Not only to his gf but because of the position he will be placing you in...

But after that point, its all messed up... Depends how good friends you are with your fainces best friend... But telling your faince put her in even a worse position than you and the fact that you wanted her to tell her friend (You buddies gf) makes you kind of a bad friend...

Why? Because you said you would keep quiet... The mistake you made wasnt telling your fiance it was not telling him that evening, dont care how messed up you were...
 
Nocturnity said:
Can't say your response surprises me, killadoob. I agree, it's pretty much the same thing. Getting f*cked up on pills/booze/weed/speed/acid/coke/heroin is all the same, isn't it? All of them make you lose a certain aspect of control and take you out of your "normal" mindset. I hate when people use that as an excuse. I'm really not claiming superiority here or anything. I'm merely stating the facts.

Anyway, like I said earlier, you should have approached the person directly and if he insisted on doing what he did, you should have just left.
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im not using anything as an excuse, its just that when your drunk high whateva your up for anything, i would never in my life take even my closest buddie to whore house and ask him to lie for me, your mindset is way different your on something or drinking

yea i know i messed up by saying i would not tell anyone, for that i know i did wrong but the next morning i could not stop thinking about what u can catch without knowing someone is screwing around and i just felt i had to say something

it also annoyed me that he waited for the pills to kick before we missioned to the strip joint come whore house

im not using it as an excuse but i was pretty whacked man by the time we got there

also what pissed me off is that he thought we where such good friends and that means i would let him do what he wanted and not ever say anything

i also thought if your going to do this dont take your friends with you, go and do it on your own

we where having a great time dancing and what not at the club and then once the pills started kicking we went across the road

what gets me about this whole situation is i have said sorry for the way i went about it

his reply was i'll never trust anyone again

he could have said, im sorry for putting you in that position and asking to lie for me

i did what he wanted me to do for him

i lied to his face just the same as i would have done when we got home and my g/f had ask where we had been
 
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I take it your buddy won't be asking you to buy "meat" for him again.
Is this what that other thread was really about?;)
 
So is it just because he cheated or because of what he cheated with?
Coz if it was a hawt chick, would you have still kept quiet?
 
Ah, I think I see what you're getting at. I still disagree with you about the drug thing but aside from that it sounds to me like you're upset because you've hurt your friend and you realize you've probably lost him. That's perfectly understandable. You made the judgment call to tell your girlfriend so that his girlfriend would find out. You can't take action and not expect it to have consequences. Did you expect him to thank you for betraying his trust? Yes, he trusted you enough to share his (weird) secret with you and he made a mistake by misinterpreting your level of commitment to him. That was his mistake.

Anyway, you've done what you've done and you now need to deal with the consequences. Depending on how strong your friend and his girlfriend's relationship is, you've potentially estranged yourself from him and your girlfriend from her. That means you need to accept it and get on with your life.

Just my opinion...
 
JK8 said:
So is it just because he cheated or because of what he cheated with?
Coz if it was a hawt chick, would you have still kept quiet?
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Interesting Spin you have just put on this JK8, very interesting.....
 
im not sure to be honest jk, i think alot of it has to do with the hooker, i dont mind hookers and what not but its dangerous man

i think it is was with another chick i would have gone and said you better tell her or break up, i would not have wanted it to come out this way

i just feel if you can screw a hooker once, how many times is he doing it or has he done it

aggg at the end of the day the way i went about it was totally wrong because i have messed up a good friend group and his g/f thinks im talking bollocks

guess u live and learn
 
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