question about friendship

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Nocturnity said:
Ah, I think I see what you're getting at. I still disagree with you about the drug thing but aside from that it sounds to me like you're upset because you've hurt your friend and you realize you've probably lost him. That's perfectly understandable. You made the judgment call to tell your girlfriend so that his girlfriend would find out. You can't take action and not expect it to have consequences. Did you expect him to thank you for betraying his trust? Yes, he trusted you enough to share his (weird) secret with you and he made a mistake by misinterpreting your level of commitment to him. That was his mistake.

Anyway, you've done what you've done and you now need to deal with the consequences. Depending on how strong your friend and his girlfriend's relationship is, you've potentially estranged yourself from him and your girlfriend from her. That means you need to accept it and get on with your life.

Just my opinion...
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yup very true exactly what has happened

sometimes you need to think before you act, something i have learned
 
killadoob said:
yup very true exactly what has happened

sometimes you need to think before you act, something i have learned
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Well at least you know you can never trust that friend of yours even if he accepts you back.

Why on earth you'd want to be a friend with a person like that is another matter
 
killadoob said:
im not sure to be honest jk, i think alot of it has to do with the hooker, i dont mind hookers and what not but its dangerous man

i think it is was with another chick i would have gone and said you better tell her or break up, i would not have wanted it to come out this way

i just feel if you can screw a hooker once, how many times is he doing it or has he done it

aggg at the end of the day the way i went about it was totally wrong because i have messed up a good friend group and his g/f thinks im talking b*llocks

guess u live and learn
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Yip! Coz of your spying none of your GFs friends will trust you...
They will think you gonna tell your GF everything...
That wont be good. Sooner or later they wont want you around them even though you did a "good" thing.
 
yea jk thats true

in my defence though i have never told anything about my GF's to the chicks

there have a few incidents but thats guy stuff

what he did aint got to do with bro's before ho's

but you are right :(, agg well i made my bed i must sleep in it

sometimes the right thing is not always the right thing i guess
 
Moederloos said:
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:D

killadoob said:
no but i wanted it to come out thats why i told her

my question is am i in wrong for telling ppl what he has done?

as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
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Personally I think you did the right tihng, although others will definitely disagree.

killadoob said:
because i think its wrong and my fincee is like best friends with his g/f

i just think with all these diseases around that doing this is not something that should kept secret

so you guys think i broke a cardinal male rule?

what he does is his business but not when he takes me with him and asks me to keep quite about it
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What he does is his business but when he puts his gf at risk she has a right to know.

Nick333 said:
I'm sorry I think honesty with your significant other trumps all. The bro's before ho's nonsense is infantile.
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Yeah.
 
I don't want to be harsh but I am gonna call it as I see it.

Your friend has no fidelity and you have no integrity, sounds like you're perfect for each other.
 
sabagamma said:
I don't want to be harsh but I am gonna call it as I see it.

Your friend has no fidelity and you have no integrity, sounds like you're perfect for each other.
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No integrity? Sorry - I see it different. It takes integrity to right a wrong and not run away from it (something our "leadership" can take note of).
 
Moederloos said:
No integrity? Sorry - I see it different. It takes integrity to right a wrong and not run away from it (something our "leadership" can take note of).
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I agree with you, but your example and the thread topic are not closely related.

Let me explain, if I give you my word Moede and go back on it then I have no integrity. The reason for me going back on my word could be the best reason in the world, but that is exactly what makes keeping my word so difficult. That is why we value integrity, not because it is so easy but because it is so difficult.
 
U should not have told ur gf knowing she and that chic are good friends. that will only FORCE her to tell.

What your friend did he probably deserved it tho.

But still, your GF would prolly never have found out, and if she did you could explain you didn't do anything but vowed not to tell about said friends doing.

It all depends on how good of friends you are.... if you were golden, unbreakable, long time BFF's (lol) then you screwed up big time.

it all depends...
 
Good call imo. Would have been far better to stop him before he hits the w-house...but to late for that now.

Had you kept quite, they might have married without her knowing his secret...which would also have been cruel to her.
 
sabagamma said:
I agree with you, but your example and the thread topic are not closely related.

Let me explain, if I give you my word Moede and go back on it then I have no integrity. The reason for me going back on my word could be the best reason in the world, but that is exactly what makes keeping my word so difficult. That is why we value integrity, not because it is so easy but because it is so difficult.
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You do have a point. Although one can argue that a "deal" brokered on the spot and under the influence is not worth much. There is also the inherent "word" one has in a relationship - not to harm another and so forth.
 
rofl at everyone who expects killa to respect the sanctity of his friendship with his buddy; but does not expect the same to apply to the friendship between killa's gf and the buddy's chick.

good for you killa! you did the right thing. if i was your gf and i started hearing bits and pieces of this story 3 months after it had happened, i would also question whether you had also slept with a <insert word of choice>.

agree with nick333- your relationship with your fiancee is primary, and should always be primary.
 
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@killa
maybe if you weren't such a pil-kop you would have gone home and saved yourself all the trouble...

I dunno... use it ... don't use it...
 
im not a pillkop it was the first time in like 2 years i had taken

i do it once in awhile for something different but i hear you man :)
 
Skeptik said:
You broke confidence dude, how is he going to trust you again. Bad move ... even if you were doing a stupid thing, this is probably worse.
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Isn't it slightly ironic to worry about breaking the trust of someone who's broken the trust of his gf in an infinitely worse way?
 
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