question about friendship

[Alan]

Crap. One lives by one's own moral code - not by some fictitious "guy code".
If my friends behaved like that I would kick them to the curb lickity-split.

Agreed

Killa you should have stood up to your 'friend' and told him straight that screwing whores behind his gf's back is not on. The fact the guy would even contemplate doing that would result in me having nothing do with him. If he could do that to his gf what stopping him from betraying you or anybody else

Some friend.

 

[Nick333]

Both guys were on pills. One guy slept with a hooker in addition. Quality if friends hardly comes into play when both were on drugs to start of with, bit like the pot calling the kettle black no?

Being high/drunk/whatever is not an excuse for bad behavior. If you do stupid **** when you're drunk take responsibility or don't drink/ get high.

 

[xrapidx]

I'd think my fiance broke my trust.

Fiance > best friend? or not?

 

[Scooby_Doo]

You need better quality friends.

Yip i was gonna say interesting kinda friends.

 

[Moederloos]

I'd think my fiance broke my trust.

Fiance > best friend? or not?

Yeah. But then again, some secrets are not meant to be kept. Moral choices are not black and white.

 

[Nocturnity]

I agree with some of the posts here, however, you should have told him to leave his girlfriend. Screwing someone behind her back is not on, whether it's a prossie or some 2-bit ho. Makes no difference. If he was single, there wouldn't be a problem (other than you warning him of STDs because he's your friend).

That said, you were also in the wrong. You can't go out and get f*cked up on drugs and claim moral superiority. That's ridiculous. The lines of morality in this world are seriously warped...

 

[Nick333]

I'd think my fiance broke my trust.

Fiance > best friend? or not?

Thats what I'm thinking. Unless he specifically asked her to.

But then again it comes down to what you want and expect from your relationship.

 

[Moederloos]

I agree with some of the posts here, however, you should have told him to leave his girlfriend. Screwing someone behind her back is not on, whether it's a prossie or some 2-bit ho. Makes no difference. If he was single, there wouldn't be a problem (other than you warning him of STDs because he's your friend).

That said, you were also in the wrong. You can't go out and get f*cked up on drugs and claim moral superiority. That's ridiculous. The lines of morality in this world are seriously warped...

I did not see him claim moral superiority - although some posters did do that on his behalf.

 

[Alan]

Being high/drunk/whatever is not an excuse for bad behavior. If you do stupid **** when you're drunk take responsibility or don't drink/ get high.

Wow we agree on something

I'd think my fiance broke my trust.

Well telling your fiancé would really be sticking her between a rock and a hard place. How could somebody expect her to keep quite about her friend's bf screwing whores . It's literally a life and death situation.

I think Killa has learned a harsh lesson

 

[Nick333]

Wow we agree on something

It was bound to happen eventually.

 

[JK8]

You not supposed to say anything.
Thats how I would have felt about it. Its none of your business.

If it was family thats another story.

Just my opinion.

 

[Velenoso]

I'm sorry I think honesty with your significant other trumps all. The bro's before ho's nonsense is infantile.

I agree with you, that is beside the point, he told his girlfriend without warning her not to say anything to the other guy's girlfriend. i.e. he basically screwed the guy over when he promised he wouldn't do so.

So what has this achieved? The friend's girlfriend did not believe killa's girlfriend. Now it just seems like killa is an ******* who is purposefully causing trouble for his friend. He should have just kept quiet/made his girlfriend swear to keep quiet about it. It is between his friend and his girlfriend to resolve.

 

[Nick333]

I agree with you, that is beside the point, he told his girlfriend without warning her not to say anything to the other guy's girlfriend. i.e. he basically screwed the guy over when he promised he wouldn't do so.

So what has this achieved? The friend's girlfriend did not believe killa's girlfriend. Now it just seems like killa is an ******* who is purposefully causing trouble for his friend. He should have just kept quiet/made his girlfriend swear to keep quiet about it. It is between his friend and his girlfriend to resolve.

Oh well none of us is perfect. He did what he thought was best and he's learnt something. Life go's on.

 

[Alan]

You not supposed to say anything.
Thats how I would have felt about it. Its none of your business.

If it was family thats another story.

Just my opinion.

Never ceases to amaze me what some people can turn a blind eye too

 

[Alan]

So what has this achieved? The friend's girlfriend did not believe killa's girlfriend. Now it just seems like killa is an ******* who is purposefully causing trouble for his friend. He should have just kept quiet/made his girlfriend swear to keep quiet about it. It is between his friend and his girlfriend to resolve.

and if the gf got aids?

Jeez and people wonder why it's so prevelant

Also why are people so concerned about this 'buddy code' and 'betrayal of trust' of a guy who does exactly that to his gf

 

[doobiwan]

You did 100% the right. Sorry, but your mate is scum and you'll be better off without him.

If it were me and it came down to it, I would have told the girlfriend myself.

These 'kids' on this forum need to get it in their own thick skulls, that while he's lying about his commitment to his girlfriend, he's not only endangering his own life, but hers as well. That's besides putting you in a position that no real friend would ever ask, jeopardising your relationship with your fiance in the process. It's the kind of thing that hangs like a dark cloud over a relationship and it will come out.

And I'll say right now, if anyone even thinks that what you mate did was acceptable, they're a ****ing lowlife and need their heads checked.

 

[Ou grote]

On the bright side, you found out that u can't trust your fiance to keep her mouth shut.

 

[Alan]

You did 100% the right. Sorry, but your mate is scum and you'll be better off without him.

If it were me and it came down to it, I would have told the girlfriend myself.

These 'kids' on this forum need to get it in their own thick skulls, that while he's lying about his commitment to his girlfriend, he's not only endangering his own life, but hers as well. That's besides putting you in a position that no real friend would ever ask, jeopardising your relationship with your fiance in the process. It's the kind of thing that hangs like a dark cloud over a relationship and it will come out.

And I'll say right now, if anyone even thinks that what you mate did was acceptable, they're a ****ing lowlife and need their heads checked.

Exactly

 

[Ecco]

I dont think many guys here said what killa's friend did was acceptable. I dont think its acceptable that killa was on pills either.

What i did say was that i didnt think killa should have intentionally told his gf so that the friends gf would find out.

The friends gf should find out about this from her bf. Killa should have told him to tell her, and if the guy didnt want to say anything to his gf thats the end of it.

 

[bwana]

Killa . . . you forgot about chick-code. By telling your fiancee you put her in the position of having to disclose all to her friend.