3 Questions before long term dating

Dolby

Dolby

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AcidRaZor said:
I everyone has at some point in their life cheated
the more you date the better chance in finding "the one"
length of relationship has nothing to do with committment or indication thereof
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I've never cheated ... never even had an urge or come close in almost 10 years. I've got a feeling I never will either *shrug* You have a point regarding you mere morals though ... ;)

I think it's an indication of how we'd fair? If she's 25 and had a new boyfriend every 3 or 4 months, I'd know not to get my hopes up or expect it to work. Again, an indication

Third question relates the 2nd : if she's had something that's lasted, I know she'd more than likely be serious. Neither question is a guarantee - but it is surely as indication?

I'd be more inclined to want to start something serious with a never cheated, 6 boyfriends, longest 2 years than a always cheating, 15 boyfriends and 2 months.
 
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Dolby said:
I think it's an indication of how we'd fair? If she's 25 and had a new boyfriend every 3 or 4 months, I'd know not to get my hopes up or expect it to work. Again, an indication

Third question relates the 2nd : if she's had something that's lasted, I know she'd more than likely be serious. Neither question is a guarantee - but it is surely as indication?

I'd be more inclined to want to start something serious with a never cheated, 6 boyfriends, longest 2 years than a always cheating, 15 boyfriends and 2 months.
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Ur questions would most likely form opinions that could inhibit a long term relationship. If u reckon she would not be serious jsut because she has not been before, you would prob not take it seriously....

the cheating thing is tough, i cheated once, straight afterwards i phoned my g/f had coffee and told her, it inevitably ruined our relationship. But i learnt my lesson from it. I think cheating is something that cannot be recovered from. If a girl has cheated, depending on how she handled it and reacted etc it might actually end up a plus. I am in a sick and odd way glad i did, because now in my current relationship, it really is the last thing my g/f has to worry about
 
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CathJ said:
No, it's just that the men here bring out that side of us.
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//takes bow :D

To answer the op (tongue firmly in cheek)

1. Do you have any aversion to wearing white everyday? (has to match the other kitchen appliances)

2. Can you program a DVD recorder?

3. Can you open a beer without breaking a nail?

Disclaimer: This post in no way reflects my own views, and is meant as a joke.
 
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I dont bother asking questions anymore. I dont trust the answers anyway. I used to ask if the guy in question would stand by me when I lose my mind for a few weeks / months at a time. They always say yes and then leave anyway. So what's the point? I told my last partner that he would eventually leave and I told him why he would leave. He of course denied it. He left. He left for the reasons I said he would. I guess its taken me this long to realise that it is unfair to expect anybody to stand by me when I'm like that. *shrug* It's sad but it's also a lesson I've needed to learn. I've finally let go of my naive fantasy that some day somebody will want me warts and all. This isn't said with self pity, maybe cynicism, but not self pity. I can be pretty fscking horrendous when I'm mad.

But the ballons wing it down the lollipop circle.
 
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superB said:
I dont bother asking questions anymore. I dont trust the answers anyway. I used to ask if the guy in question would stand by me when I lose my mind for a few weeks / months at a time. They always say yes and then leave anyway. So what's the point? I told my last partner that he would eventually leave and I told him why he would leave. He of course denied it. He left. He left for the reasons I said he would. I guess its taken me this long to realise that it is unfair to expect anybody to stand by me when I'm like that. *shrug* It's sad but it's also a lesson I've needed to learn. I've finally let go of my naive fantasy that some day somebody will want me warts and all. This isn't said with self pity, maybe cynicism, but not self pity. I can be pretty fscking horrendous when I'm mad.

But the ballons wing it down the lollipop circle.
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Whether you think you can or can't. You're right.

You make your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

"You will leave me because of XYZ"

And then you make sure it happens.
 
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