Adults without friends.

[ponder]

At the risk of sounding like a cynic... Good on ya to all the posters here extolling the virtues of being married to your best friend or soul mate... BUT... Like TJ99 pointed out, there is a high probability that for half of you the shoe might be on the other foot someday. If you've narrowed your life down to a circle of two, you'll find things a bit sticky when that day comes. While women (or men) come and go, your real mates are mates for life... After your first divorce you'll realise that too.
Hell, two of my best friends live in Cape Town and I fly down three or four time a year for a boys weekend with them.

This ^^

 

[Nerfherder]

Nothing to pity, being single is awesome. The people who think you somehow need to be in a relationship (or sign a contract to be in a relationship) to be happy are usually exactly the types I'm talking about, who get married too easily just because they're scared of being alone, and then end up miserable.

Single is great while you are young.

I'm not putting it down, I just feel that some of my friends hide behind that because they are too scared to commit. For me that is quite sad, they always go home with some one but end up alone.
I always go home too some one.

As for being independent within a relationship... yes, if you don't do that then its going to fail. You need your own space to do your own things.

 

[Cool E]

Join facebook or stir this forum like there is no tomorrow.

Middle age adults are in hospital.

 

[zululami]

I'm a loner, always have been.
I have three friends, one lives in Scotland (30 year friendship), one lives in London (20 years friendship) and one in Cape Town, also 20 years. I rarely see them, maybe once every few years. (the friend in Cpt more often lol)

The friend in Scotland was my only friend ever in school. Why did I not make friends ?
I was a reader, alt thinker and escapist (live mostly in my head) from a very young age.

There are many people who tried to cultivate a friendship with me over the years, but I
found them false and boring and I was uninterested lol

I often go for up to 2/3 weeks without seeing any other people, since I stock up and then don't go out my door, no shops, no restaurants, no nothing, just home with books and broadband. (Door bell disconnected and telephone on silent - always)

A hermit.

 

[Nanfeishen]

they always go home with someone but end up alone.

For many, a brief encounter is preferable to a long term commitment.

Just because someone is alone doesnt automatically mean they are lonely.

 

[BobsLawnService]

There is the whole died or left or just forgot to stay diaspora which happens as you get older. Unless you and your friends live a stagnant life people tend to just go their own ways. Jobs and relationships take them to different towns, cities and countries. You lose touch.

I also got married, had a kid while some of them just kind of stayed in the same spot, single, etc. Kind of drifted apart which is sad. It gets difficult to do the whole drink-until-you-crash braai thing every weekend when you have a wife and baby in tow. You turn down one too many social events and you stop being invited. Been reaching back out to them lately without too much success now that the kid is a bit bigger though.

 

[Picard]

There is the whole died or left or just forgot to stay diaspora which happens as you get older. Unless you and your friends live a stagnant life people tend to just go their own ways. Jobs and relationships take them to different towns, cities and countries. You lose touch.

I also got married, had a kid while some of them just kind of stayed in the same spot, single, etc. Kind of drifted apart which is sad. It gets difficult to do the whole drink-until-you-crash braai thing every weekend when you have a wife and baby in tow. You turn down one too many social events and you stop being invited. Been reaching back out to them lately without too much success now that the kid is a bit bigger though.

Kind of like my university friends. Basically all of them got married straight after studying and got on with their complex lives (lawyers and engineers).

Me ... I went on to become what I seem to be here. Half a teacher, one-quarter of a computer professional and **** knows what the rest is.