Am I going to hell?

Just like.. dont play any computer games before you go all "lets kill all the students in this school cause my mother makes me angry" moods.

Blame the government or something when it comes to your insanity plea in court :D
 
*Starts singing*

"hiiiiiiiiiiiiighway to hell.......i'm on the hiiiiiiiiiiighway to hell....."
 
superB said:
.... I can see that and accept that as such, but they still hold on to the archaic view that as parents they are faultless. That is simply not true. Just because they are parents does not give them the right to enforce their will AT ALL TIMES. I have a child of my own so I understand the difficulties and sacrifices that come with parenthood. But I do not believe that that gives parents carte blanche in their dealings with their kids.
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I totally hear you on this point. It took me a very very very long time to be able to decode my fathers decrees and orders as advice and constructive input. He's not used to giving advice so his advice / counsel comes out as a direct order and anything different is just wrong. I eventually figured out that it's just his way of giving advice to his son (who is still a child in his eyes) and since then our relationship has been much better.
 
I find that it is amazing how when ones gets older the kids start taking the parent role!
 
well if you're going to hell make sure you come say hi. I'll also be in those parts. Oh and to the person that said respect is earned, exactly! Some people think age earns respect, so wrong *sigh* I respect some people that are half my age, ok make that 3/4 my age
 
Its ok. I love my mom but we are not friends, never will be. Can't spend any significant amount of time with her, without feeling drained and tired of high drama. If there's a God, He can see both sides of whats going on & I doubt not liking mom would be what lands us in hell.

One of my biggest fears is becoming her.
 
SuperB...you say in one post you have a child who lives with your parents and then in the next post you say you know the sacrifices you have to make having children.

If your parents are raising your daughter you don't know how difficult it is...you're not dealing with the day to day problems that are part of parenting (and believe me it's endless).

I think you are indebted to your mother for the continuing sacrifice she's making for you. Maybe her attitude towards you is as result of feeling unappreciated by you. At her age she should have raised her kids and look forward to a peaceful retirement, instead she has another 16 yrs of raising YOUR kid.

Give her a break, suck it up and apologise to her for your behaviour. Why should she sacrifice her twilight years for a "mistake" you made?
 
i am in a similiar boat. i have not spoken to my mom in a year now as for my brother its about 15 yrs.

things happen on both sides to cause grief but who knows maybe one day those things that made you upset bring you closer..or not.
 
I went through a stage when I didn't speak to both my parents for close to two years. I was very upset with them...long story. Anyway, over the years we realised that we were both right in our own right...we did the whole sit down and talk about it. It helped.
 
I have not seen my mother for about 15years now.
I speak to her about twice every 3 months or so.
I prefer not to have any contact with my father but unfortunately I tend to run into him every now and then.

We have absolutely nothing in common anymore, the person that they remember is not the person I am now. Too much have happened and I have experienced too much since the last time I saw them for any existing relationship to continue.
 
The point of my post was actually that some people are just not meant to be together and people grow apart.
Dont get angry though, acceptance is better than forgiveness I feel.
 
I'd be more worried about your fits of anger. With guys if you find a guy throwing around stuff and breaking things when angry its kinda a bad sign of things to come :s Women who do the same are often still acceptable by society but really it is a big problem as it could and is likely to spiral out worse and remember you have a kid who is likely to do something to upset you(inevitable part of life).
 
Gazer said:
SuperB...you say in one post you have a child who lives with your parents and then in the next post you say you know the sacrifices you have to make having children.

If your parents are raising your daughter you don't know how difficult it is...you're not dealing with the day to day problems that are part of parenting (and believe me it's endless).

I think you are indebted to your mother for the continuing sacrifice she's making for you. Maybe her attitude towards you is as result of feeling unappreciated by you. At her age she should have raised her kids and look forward to a peaceful retirement, instead she has another 16 yrs of raising YOUR kid.

Give her a break, suck it up and apologise to her for your behaviour. Why should she sacrifice her twilight years for a "mistake" you made?
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There are a number of reasons why my child lives with my mother none of which are about an abdication of duty from my side. I have raised my daughter from day one until 8 December 2008. Your assumption that there has been no sacrifice on my side is just that - an assumption. The biggest sacrifice I have made for her is actually the one that has lead to her being in the Netherlands while I am still here.

Please try and get a better idea of the bigger picture before implying that I am not living up to my role as a parent.
 
krycor said:
I'd be more worried about your fits of anger. With guys if you find a guy throwing around stuff and breaking things when angry its kinda a bad sign of things to come :s Women who do the same are often still acceptable by society but really it is a big problem as it could and is likely to spiral out worse and remember you have a kid who is likely to do something to upset you(inevitable part of life).
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My fits of anger? Lol... I'm sorry? I dont throw stuff or break stuff.. What on earth was said to lead you to that conclusion?

EDIT: Sorry I see where you got that from - It was said in the same way you say you want to kill your boss etc. It was an expression of the level of frustration. Not an accurate description of desire.

But I guess the subtlety of those kinds of remarks are lost on you...
 
waynegohl said:
i am in a similiar boat. i have not spoken to my mom in a year now as for my brother its about 15 yrs.

things happen on both sides to cause grief but who knows maybe one day those things that made you upset bring you closer..or not.
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That is sad, Waynegohl.

Sorry to hear. Similar on my side.
 
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