Am I too young?

tau1z said:
let him know whats going on in ur head....cause i can guarantee he has no clue
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+1

I still say you can't choose something like that so young :/ My thought process was different at 20 to 24 to 28. I still seeing things changing in future. I bet you thought differently at 17, to 19 to 23.

But is it only words? If you decide you want no more at 23, is it only words or do you plan to do something medical about it that can't be reversed? If it's only words, then great - choose not to have. You can (and probably will) change your mind later. Just don't do something that can't be reversed.

My 2c
 
CathJ said:
Not true - I decided in my early twenties, if not earlier, that I didn't want kids. I still don't.
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For every one of you, I can probably dig up 3x girls who have changed their life choice that they made young.

A simple thing like a new relationship could change your mind entirely. Perhaps you don't want now with this person, but start going out with another and it all changes.

You're just 1 in a million, CathJ :P
 
You should look at falling preggies as a blessing :)

Loads of people have unprotected sex and never fall pregnant, i feel if you do it was meant to be :). At 23 how can you be sure you would not want another kid at 30?

Your far to young to make the decision if you ask me.
 
Dolby said:
For every one of you, I can probably dig up 3x girls who have changed their life choice that they made young.

A simple thing like a new relationship could change your mind entirely. Perhaps you don't want now with this person, but start going out with another and it all changes.

You're just 1 in a million, CathJ :P
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Awww, thanks (wait, was that a compliment or not? :D)

No, I realise that many people will change their minds. But some won't, so saying you can't make a life-long decision at that age is a bit too dogmatic for me.

I also find that there's this attitude of, oh, when you find the right guy you'll want his babies. Or, when you see all your friends' babies you'll want one too. No, I won't (again, some might change their minds, some won't). It's not some built-in biological thing that the sight of a baby, or marrying the right guy, suddenly switches on the desire for a baby.
 
killadoob said:
You should look at falling preggies as a blessing :)

Loads of people have unprotected sex and never fall pregnant, i feel if you do it was meant to be :). At 23 how can you be sure you would not want another kid at 30?

Your far to young to make the decision if you ask me.
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Yip at 30 when the biological clock starts ticking louder she will change her mind
 
Pooky said:
She started it.
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If it's any consolation your comment didnt bother me, but how gallant of Linoman to take a stand...

*hits on Linoman*

^ - and that's how I got preggers at 17 ;)
 
Cath i am telling you when a chick/girl/lady etc finds a good man she falls in love and the baby time bomb kicks in, finding a good man is the key element in wanting a baby :).

If you have a good man and you see a baby something happens in your brain and then you will change your mind. Women are made like this, it's hard coded because lets be honest if it was not the world would not be nearly as populated :p

Ummm super i don't think hitting on someone got you preggies hahaha its what happened after that :), pooks if you need to know what happened after the hitting be sure to pm me for the bees and birds talk :p
 
killadoob said:
Cath i am telling you when a chick/girl/lady etc finds a good man she falls in love and the baby time bomb kicks in, finding a good man is the key element in wanting a baby :).

If you have a good man and you see a baby something happens in your brain and then you will change your mind. Women are made like this, it's hard coded because lets be honest if it was not the world would not be nearly as populated :p
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No, it's not hardcoded. No, the only reason I don't want a kid isn't because I haven't met the right guy.

I don't want kids. I have nieces, they're great, I love them to bits, but don't want any of my own.

SuperB, I don't think you have to make a final decision yet. But it's something you should think about, as it is something that can be very important in a relationship. But think about what you want, not what you think other people think you should want, or will later later. It's a very personal thing, and you have to figure it out for yourself.
 
superB said:
If it's any consolation your comment didnt bother me, but how gallant of Linoman to take a stand...

*hits on Linoman*

^ - and that's how I got preggers at 17 ;)
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And how did you feel about this 6 years ago?
 
superB said:
If it's any consolation your comment didnt bother me, but how gallant of Linoman to take a stand...

*hits on Linoman*

^ - and that's how I got preggers at 17 ;)
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SuperB

You are not to young to be thinking things like this, you are way to young to be making these choices perm. Pls do not have yourself sterilized, you might change your mind further along the line. All woman I know who's children are big teens now and hardly at home, they always say they wish they could have a little one now just to keep them busy.
 
Please dont decide to have kids either just because u want this relationship to work, resentment will occur, blood will be shed, divorce lawyers will make money.

U dont want, maybe he is not that interested either and is jsut doing the "i love kids" thing because u already have one. We are all doing speculating here, talk to him, situation will be clear quickly...
 
Pooky said:
She started it.
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Yeah yeah yeah, go off and try not to insult people. It is not very nice, anyway a real gentleman wouldn't do that to a woman/women.


@superB: No problem it is a pleasure. Don't like it when people twist things.
PS rather wait and see what happens, what you want to do is a huge step and will change your life forever.


*Mutters something, should practice my own advice*
 
UPDATE:

He definitely wants kids.

Now what?

Do I stay in the hopes that I'll change my mind or pack my bags now?

I really didnt want to do all this thinking today :/
 
superB said:
UPDATE:

He definitely wants kids.

Now what?

Do I stay in the hopes that I'll change my mind or pack my bags now?

I really didnt want to do all this thinking today :/
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Now you have to think about what you really want, and whether you're likely to change your mind or not.

If you know, 100%, that you really truly don't want another kid and that you will not change your mind; and that you don't want to risk falling in love and getting together and then breaking up because of this, then yes, leave now.

If you're not sure for now, and aren't 100% convinced that you'll never want another kid - think about it. Give it a chance. You might change your mind, you might not, but you might have some good times in between. Or you might get hurt later.

You have to know what you want, and how strongly you want it, before you can make any real decisions here.
 
killadoob said:
May i ask why you don't want kids?
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Well as I've mentioned in previous threads I'm bipolar. I feel like this has really stood in the way of me being the kind of mother my daughter deserves. Why do I want to do this to another child?
 
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