Are you happy?

I am happy when I am spending time with my kid. The rest of the time it's hit and miss. Mostly miss, thanks to stress from work and the demands from responsibilities.
 
It's called chasing happiness syndrome or something to that effect.

"I'll be happy when..." we all do it to some degree :(

Though not on that aspect of happiness, this TED talk from 2004 was good too http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy

Dan Gilbert, author of "Stumbling on Happiness," challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our "psychological immune system" lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned.
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No

Turns out i don't want mindless sex or to be with my ex :p

or maybe that's the period talking :p
 
Not really.

career wise, I'm not where I want to be. On a personal level I'm in a great relationship with the SO but she's moved to JHB recently and I haven't seen her in 4 weeks! :(
 
I couldn't be happier. Ok, if SOMEONE would propose I'd be happier but other than that I'm good. Not exactly where I would like to be in life but I'll get there eventually - no use sulking about it.
 
Not happy and probably wouldn't know what would make me happy anyway. I should write a book.
 
About to start dealing with building contractors - so NO.
 
Perhaps you are only happy when you are dead. We should be looking at ways to kill yourself :D
 
about to start Vista install - FML
 
I believe that technically you are not meant to be happy. At least not for extended periods of time.

Happiness "informs" your psyche that you are surviving well. That is it's primary, if not only, function. The intrinsic meaning of "survival" is to constantly strive to be better than before...ALWAYS without exception.

Thus when happiness is attained then slowly novelty will fade. You may start to take things for granted again or become lazy/comfortable in your new circumstance. You will then desire more once again.

Somewhere in there perhaps is a hidden formula for the right balance. But to expect to be happy all your life is not realistic as you cannot always be in a state of advancement, usually there is a threshold or real life circumstances in the way.

There is an alternative way, and that is to fool your psyche into believing it is happy. i.e. Drugs :p But this is also not sustainable and comes at a price.

Disclaimer: This is simply my personal understanding that is an extension of evolution into the way the human psyche works. It could be BS.
 
Saltex said:
How many of you can say that you are happy? I've been waiting for that feeling for long now, even moved to a new country, better money etc, everything I have and have accomplished should make me happy, but never do I get that feeling of waking up and just be like ah things feel good,instead everyday is just the same old sh** and not much motivation every morning when you wake up because you always know what lies ahead through out the day. Everyday I am just living on hope that I can find or do something that give me that "feel good" feeling. Four years ago it was my dream to be where I am now, and I am close to achieving my goals that I set for myself and yet I can't say I am feeling any better to what I did 4 years ago.

So what makes you happy?
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I am relatively happy. Career wise I could be doing better but barring that I am very happy.

May I ask what line of work you are in?
 
I wish I was, such a roller-coaster ride ATM.

First find out my girlfriend cheated on me and fell pregnant with another guys baby (now my ex), then get a new boss who is an absolute d1ck and is out to make my life living hell.

Personal life is a utter mess, not nearly where I want to be emotionally and financially things are starting to look bleek.

There are a couple of things that make me happy (family and.....ya family)

But I am still hopeful that things will turn around and trying my best to turn it around but it is not easy.
 
Wezzy777 said:
I wish I was, such a roller-coaster ride ATM.

First find out my girlfriend cheated on me and fell pregnant with another guys baby (now my ex), then get a new boss who is an absolute d1ck and is out to make my life living hell.

Personal life is a utter mess, not nearly where I want to be emotionally and financially things are starting to look bleek.

There are a couple of things that make me happy (family and.....ya family)

But I am still hopeful that things will turn around and trying my best to turn it around but it is not easy.
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Sorry you're having a difficult time. Strength to you and try to focus on the joys.
 
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