Are you happy?

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How many of you can say that you are happy? I've been waiting for that feeling for long now, even moved to a new country, better money etc, everything I have and have accomplished should make me happy, but never do I get that feeling of waking up and just be like ah things feel good,instead everyday is just the same old sh** and not much motivation every morning when you wake up because you always know what lies ahead through out the day. Everyday I am just living on hope that I can find or do something that give me that "feel good" feeling. Four years ago it was my dream to be where I am now, and I am close to achieving my goals that I set for myself and yet I can't say I am feeling any better to what I did 4 years ago.

So what makes you happy?
 
For me it's a no...career wise I'm doing well but in my personal life, I'm far from where I want to be. It's depressing.
 
Happiness is very subjective most of the time. For me it's my immediate family, the wife and kid. Seeing their smiles gives me great pleasure because it reassures me that I'm on the right track in fulfilling my role as husband and father.

Understanding and knowing your purpose in your current position in life should provide you with goals. Working towards and achieving those goals, no matter how small or complex those goals are, should provide you with happiness.

Being content with who you are, where you are, and what you have seals the happiness.

Other than that, when SA beats Australia in anything it gives me a supreme feeling of mental orgasm
And when Alonso wins (touch wood)
 
I'm content. To me that's better than being happy because it's a more chilled, relaxed feeling. There's the occasional hiccup but in general i have no complaints.

i'm fortunate.
 
I can confidently say that I'm happy. There is just so much in life to be happy about.

Not always easy but one must learn to look past the everyday 'problems' and the mundane and appreciate what you actually have going for you. There is always somebody worse off than you and that alone should be enough reason to be thankful and happy.

Also, remember that happiness is not always of your own making. Often happiness is found when making other happy.
 
It's human nature to want more, if you achieve set goals then then there will be new ones, it's what drives us. Been at the bottom end a while back and got a lucky break I'm very happy. Sure I'm working 12hour days and there's always new crap but overall can't complain, I don't go hungry, no debt, and great people for whom I work.. only need to find that special one then I'll be sorted! :D

Just remember it doesn't matter how tough things get, there is always someone out there worse off than you are.. we'll that's just my opinion!

Hope everyone enjoys the long weekend!
 
Im pretty happy in most spheres of my life. Life is getting better.
 
All I can say at this stage is that life is getting better and better for me, one small step at a time :)
 
I am happy with the things that I have acquired. Material, qualifications and drive.

However in my career, I think that I have reached a point where my career won't go any further unless I jump. That is the un-"happy" part at this moment.
 
Saltex said:
How many of you can say that you are happy? I've been waiting for that feeling for long now, even moved to a new country, better money etc, everything I have and have accomplished should make me happy, but never do I get that feeling of waking up and just be like ah things feel good,instead everyday is just the same old sh** and not much motivation every morning when you wake up because you always know what lies ahead through out the day. Everyday I am just living on hope that I can find or do something that give me that "feel good" feeling. Four years ago it was my dream to be where I am now, and I am close to achieving my goals that I set for myself and yet I can't say I am feeling any better to what I did 4 years ago.

So what makes you happy?
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I hear religion helps. Or cutting yourself
 
maumau said:
I'm content. To me that's better than being happy because it's a more chilled, relaxed feeling. There's the occasional hiccup but in general i have no complaints.

i'm fortunate.
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Content is a much more appropriate description.

If we out it to percentages I always think that happiness would be everything going your way 90-100% of the time such that the few things that do go wrong don't really bother you.

Being content though is hitting that 70-90% mark where you know everything won't always go your way but you ACCEPT that and therefore come off happier for it.

It's when things start dwindling under 70% and closing in on half the things in your life not going as planned where misery starts setting in.

I think pure happiness is a pipe dream and people inability to accept that is one of the things not going right in their lives which ultimately throws out the balance mentioned above.

Acceptance leads to happiness, while trying to fight "the system" is what makes us miserable.
 
SauRoNZA said:
Content is a much more appropriate description.

If we out it to percentages I always think that happiness would be everything going your way 90-100% of the time such that the few things that do go wrong don't really bother you.

Being content though is hitting that 70-90% mark where you know everything won't always go your way but you ACCEPT that and therefore come off happier for it.

It's when things start dwindling under 70% and closing in on half the things in your life not going as planned where misery starts setting in.

I think pure happiness is a pipe dream and people inability to accept that is one of the things not going right in their lives which ultimately throws out the balance mentioned above.

Acceptance leads to happiness, while trying to fight "the system" is what makes us miserable.
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Exactly! Well said. I've just had a tattoo done on my arm - kanji acceptance symbol because I've finally accepted two extremely major things in my life which I have been fighting for 15 months. I found the acceptance recently and am now a much happier person.
 
Picard said:
About some things. But about some things ... no.
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It's a choice Picard. You make the choice to be happy and deal with what life throws at you or you curl up in a corner and cry about it. You don't need to be a strong person to do this either...just think about what other people have to endure and you'll realise how fortunate you are...and stop thinking about killing those little monsters that are driving you nuts :p
 
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Saltex said:
I've been waiting for that feeling for long now, even moved to a new country, better money etc, everything I have and have accomplished should make me happy, but never do I get that feeling
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I think you hit on something very important here. People expect a change of country, change of jobs, having kids, getting married or anything of the sort to suddenly make them happy but happiness is a state of mind, not a place nor a job. These may bring you momentary distraction as they provide a change of scenery but it is likely your feelings of being unfulfilled will return.

I regularly see people going through the motions of life here in SA and saying they are so unhappy. They emigrate and expect a dramatic change but unless it changes their mindset nothing will change.
 
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