Asking someone to marry you

AcidRaZor said:
I'm kind of feeling negative about this now. 2nd of May, around 34 days before I'd know for certain and 34 long days to think things over.
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Don't think yourself out of what might be the best thing in your life. ;)
 
AcidRaZor said:
Thanks for the input, you misunderstood. I'm not 100% sure if she will say yes or not. But it won't bother me to ask ANYWAY even if it's a no. ;)

I'm definately 100% sure I'd want to marry this girl.
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I must admit that I didn't read all of the posts, because eish...me got betta things to do :p But still I thought I would add my two cents because I've "known" you for a little while now AR (That's short for AcidRazor, by the way). Why in the world do you want to marry her now all of a sudden? Why the rush? What's the hurry? I'm not sure if she is just coming for a visit or actually moving to Dubai but why marry somebody that you only dated for a relatively short period of time (7 months) and then broke up for various reasons, now somewhat together but not really. Sounds way complicated. Aren't you missing a few steps in between? Like actually dating her for a longer period of time to see if you really mesh in the long run. Why not move in together for a while first (ie 3-5 year) and see how that goes before entering a binding contract. I just don't get it, I think you're being silly. If you are serious about this girl and really want it to last, then go step for step. You're going from step 1 to step 50 in one move.
 
its not that im rushing at all. I just feel its a 'now or never' situation. And i reckon we'd stay engaged for a while before getting married. Thats not my worry for now though. I realize all the consequences this might have but if my friend can marry his wife after 6 weeks. Why not. They been together 9 years. And its not all lovey dovey all the time. He said i should go for it, even if she says no, that i should just be prepared for any answer
 
just go for it. Like you said, now or never. You'll regret it if you don't and she hooks up with some loser later.
 
Drink it while it's fizzy! Let us know how it goes though.
 
well. She knows me well. Anticipated this and just now out of the blue textd me and said the answer is no and it wont happen. Ah well. Back to my dayjoa
 
She's reading this for sure. Maybe she's means No to something else ... like puppies or spandex.
 
Debbie2 said:
No, it means he thought he was being subtle, and maybe to another man he was, but not to a not-brain-dead woman.
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Not actually. We talked about this in the last few days. And I think she just assumed I'm going to do the same **** as her dad and ask her infront of everyone at her 21st bday party or something.

Not the reason why she said no though, but she said that if I were to ask the answer would be no and that she doesn't feel the same.

Strange woman this one, first she loves me then she doesn't. Then she does and then she changed her mind again.

I'm ok though, not sure whereto from here. As I'm not the most social person on earth and moving on is a process for me, quite difficult. And being in a new country with nobody I know really makes it near impossible :)

I think I might go watch Iron Man tonight at a cine
 
Sorry to hear that acid.sounds like she as issues with marriage so dont take it to hard.Try to start dating her again and work your way up from there buddy.
 
Yea I'm not sure if that's going to happen, but thanks for the kind words. Can we lock this topic now? Thanks :)
 
Hi Guys, sorry to bring this up again and I would appreciate it if you let it die.

I've been explaining this to my friends as well and I want you to get clarity on the situation as well.

1) I never expected anything to happen between us again after we decided to stay friends
2) I'd do ANYTHING to keep the friendship we've built up and had. This to me is more important than anything else.

So yea, just had to get that off my chest. I'm not even hurt that she said no as it was a drunken outburst which got me to think about my future with her and what _might_ be. It's more important having someone like her in my circle of friends than not at all. She's been a positive influence in my life. I'm off my anti-depressants, I quit my job and moved to a different country (somehow never thought it would be possible!) and I'm losing weight and eating right and making plans to improve myself mentally and physically.

Anyway thanks for reading and not replying :P
 
I wonder how many people here have had someone say no? I've asked twice and got two yeses.
 
well me and the misses dated for about 6 years before I asked, actually did it very casually.

Lucky for me, she detests jewelry, so she designed a tattoo design for her ring finger, and designed one for my arm (no names, just symbols).

And we have been married for 5 years now, and every day is a constant uphill battle for dominance!!!!! Would not change a single thing
 
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