Being sick in SA is really painfull - help

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DarKWateR

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I can write a book here but I'm going to try and keep it as short as possible. I was fairly healthy all my life until about 22 (I'm 25 now). I developed severe depression, anxiety, stress, etc. I tried 6 different anti-dep meds which all just made me worse. In the end I just had to cope with it myself.

Problem is that due to the above mentioned problems I've developed severe physical issues that have basically taken over my life. I suffer from stomach pains, excessive gas, bloating, constant nausea, headaches, etc. for the past 2-3 years now. I've tried so many medications and been to so many doctors but still I'm plagued with these problems and my lifestyle his turned into one antisocial mess. I don't go out (can't), I lost my job, lost my friends and obviously my general outlook on life.

The doctors suck and the state hospitals are even worse but since I don't have money to afford better I'm stuck in the position and it's only getting worse. The doctor made an appointed so that the hospital could do a stomach (camera) check. The soonest I could go was 3 damn months later! and by that time I've already gained some new symptoms. The test was anyway unsuccessful.

Moral, if you're sick in SA and have lost your job/life/friends due to this, prepare yourself to die like this. :(
 
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Smoke a J and chill out :D Dont take life too seriously. Seems like the more anxious you get the worse you get.
 
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Try some excercise.

And don't listen to Wizard.

Forget the J and try alcohol instead.
 
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It's hardly sunshine and roses overseas, I'll have you know. One of my uncle's closest friends died from cancer because he had to wait 4 months to see a specialist. By the time he saw the guy, it was too late for any medication.
This is in the UK.
 
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Depression sucks man ;/ unfortunately its almost impossible to get out of it yourself.
 
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DarKWateR said:
Moral, if you're sick in SA and have lost your job/life/friends due to this, prepare yourself to die like this. :(
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If I lost my medical aid I'd have little choice but to relocate the family back to the UK and avail myself to the NHS (I'm paying for it so I might as well use it).

We've got friends visiting from the UK and the husband has had some serious health issues that would have bankrupted them had they been living in SA without insurance.
 
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DarKWateR said:
I can write a book here but I'm going to try and keep it as short as possible. I was fairly healthy all my life until about 22 (I'm 25 now). I developed severe depression, anxiety, stress, etc. I tried 6 different anti-dep meds which all just made me worse. In the end I just had to cope with it myself.

Problem is that due to the above mentioned problems I've developed severe physical issues that have basically taken over my life. I suffer from stomach pains, excessive gas, bloating, constant nausea, headaches, etc. for the past 2-3 years now. I've tried so many medications and been to so many doctors but still I'm plagued with these problems and my lifestyle his turned into one antisocial mess. I don't go out (can't), I lost my job, lost my friends and obviously my general outlook on life.

The doctors suck and the state hospitals are even worse but since I don't have money to afford better I'm stuck in the position and it's only getting worse. The doctor made an appointed so that the hospital could do a stomach (camera) check. The soonest I could go was 3 damn months later! and by that time I've already gained some new symptoms. The test was anyway unsuccessful.

Moral, if you're sick in SA and have lost your job/life/friends due to this, prepare yourself to die like this. :(
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All of this over a woman :eek:

You need to go see a shrink, no doctor can help you mate ;) Honestly, this is the best advise I've got.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I can somewhat relate. I am the same age as you and this year i also have gotten very sick and has lead me to feeling depressed. I have always suffered from stress/anxiety and have the same symptoms as you. A doctor also tried to get me to have a scope done but i know i do not have an ulcer. There is always hope though. I think a lifestyle change is in order. Take vitamins and eat healthier and start exercising. I am doing this.
 
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w1z4rd said:
Smoke a J and chill out :D Dont take life too seriously. Seems like the more anxious you get the worse you get.
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No thanks

Picard said:
Try some excercise.

And don't listen to Wizard.

Forget the J and try alcohol instead.
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I want to exercise but due to the physical pains etc. I can't. No booze thanks.

Morgoth said:
Depression sucks man ;/ unfortunately its almost impossible to get out of it yourself.
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The physical problems are making me depressed to be honest.

Messugga said:
It's hardly sunshine and roses overseas, I'll have you know. One of my uncle's closest friends died from cancer because he had to wait 4 months to see a specialist. By the time he saw the guy, it was too late for any medication.
This is in the UK.
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That's just horrible!
 
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DarKWateR said:
I can write a book here but I'm going to try and keep it as short as possible. I was fairly healthy all my life until about 22 (I'm 25 now). I developed severe depression, anxiety, stress, etc. I tried 6 different anti-dep meds which all just made me worse. In the end I just had to cope with it myself.

Problem is that due to the above mentioned problems I've developed severe physical issues that have basically taken over my life. I suffer from stomach pains, excessive gas, bloating, constant nausea, headaches, etc. for the past 2-3 years now. I've tried so many medications and been to so many doctors but still I'm plagued with these problems and my lifestyle his turned into one antisocial mess. I don't go out (can't), I lost my job, lost my friends and obviously my general outlook on life.

The doctors suck and the state hospitals are even worse but since I don't have money to afford better I'm stuck in the position and it's only getting worse. The doctor made an appointed so that the hospital could do a stomach (camera) check. The soonest I could go was 3 damn months later! and by that time I've already gained some new symptoms. The test was anyway unsuccessful.

Moral, if you're sick in SA and have lost your job/life/friends due to this, prepare yourself to die like this. :(
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YOu are going to the wrong places try a place like weskoppies they take out patients.
 
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DarKWateR said:
Not really. I'm depressed, stress, and anxious due to my bad health.
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However the tests came back clean ?

Sorry not trying to sound mean or unsympathetic. But there is different causes to the things you are experiencing right now. But as you mentioned, money is the problem. And with losing all your friends the problem just keep on stacking up.

Have you considered a support group or a "meet friends" social event. I think what you need now more than anything else is the will to live. Having someone that makes you want to get up in the morning and just the thought of them motivate you do go through the day.

That is the biggest problem you have now. Start there ?
 
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Pitbull said:
However the tests came back clean ?

Sorry not trying to sound mean or unsympathetic. But there is different causes to the things you are experiencing right now. But as you mentioned, money is the problem. And with losing all your friends the problem just keep on stacking up.

Have you considered a support group or a "meet friends" social event. I think what you need now more than anything else is the will to live. Having someone that makes you want to get up in the morning and just the thought of them motivate you do go through the day.

That is the biggest problem you have now. Start there ?
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According to the test results there were little tiny holes in my stomach lining although nothing really serious or that abnormal. In terms of social events, yes I do want to meet people, yes I do want to go out and have fun and all that but since I'm always sick/ill I never seem to be able to do so.

Imagine sitting with a group of people all worked up and stress out since you're experiencing nausea, pains, and that awful tiredness feeling.
 
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Do yourself a favour and get Patrick Holfords book, "What you need to know before visiting your doctor".
 
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