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Nick333 said:
I either remember two similar threads or it was one and I don't remember it that well. Someone started a thread about having sex with a guy or a prostitute and not using a condom. I think.

Frankly, I'm regretting mentioning the condom thing a bit. I was kind of hoping someone would say that it's a bit bad but probably not such a big deal. It kept me up a bit last night. I messaged the guy last night but he was asleep already and I didn't really feel like broaching the subject when he got back to me this morning. I'll feel a lot better after I've asked him his status. I don't really want to talk about him that much on an open forum but, I didn't get the impression that he's a massive slut or risk taker. I think it was just two guys feeling comfortable with each other, being a little drunk and taking a relatively, considered risk. I may be wrong of course.
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Nick333 said:
I either remember two similar threads or it was one and I don't remember it that well. Someone started a thread about having sex with a guy or a prostitute and not using a condom. I think.

Frankly, I'm regretting mentioning the condom thing a bit. I was kind of hoping someone would say that it's a bit bad but probably not such a big deal. It kept me up a bit last night. I messaged the guy last night but he was asleep already and I didn't really feel like broaching the subject when he got back to me this morning. I'll feel a lot better after I've asked him his status. I don't really want to talk about him that much on an open forum but, I didn't get the impression that he's a massive slut or risk taker. I think it was just two guys feeling comfortable with each other, being a little drunk and taking a relatively, considered risk. I may be wrong of course.
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I am really sorry for upsetting you or making your worry. I am just concerned meneer. I am so happy that you are exploring....but I want you to be safe and not take risks. That is all. You probably dont have anything to worry about. But you just never know.

Just broach the subject gentrly. Just say that you are a little worried about the fact that a condom was not used and if you could please know what his last known status is.

Sorry to have made you worry man.

/hug
/starts rubbing Nicks back .... but switches to patting it to make it a manly hug. :D
 
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
 
padjakkels said:
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
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I say go for it. But see what his mood is first. Wait till he has two or so drinks in him and mellow.
 
Ockie said:
I am really sorry for upsetting you or making your worry. I am just concerned meneer. I am so happy that you are exploring....but I want you to be safe and not take risks. That is all. You probably dont have anything to worry about. But you just never know.

Just broach the subject gentrly. Just say that you are a little worried about the fact that a condom was not used and if you could please know what his last known status is.

Sorry to have made you worry man.

/hug
/starts rubbing Nicks back .... but switches to patting it to make it a manly hug. :D
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Ag, it's ok. I probably need to grow up a little, especially if I'm going to go down this road.
 
padjakkels said:
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
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If he is your best friend, it shouldn't be a problem.

The very first person I told was my best friend and he just laughed at me :p We're still best friends and nothing has changed except them I talk about sex, he now knows I'm not talking about girls :D

Friends can be a greater pillar of support than family :)

Ockie said:
I say go for it. But see what his mood is first. Wait till he has two or so drinks in him and mellow.
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Don't do it when he is drunk :p It just makes things awkward when you're sober again.
 
padjakkels said:
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
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Yeah, if you trust him and have a good feeling about it I'd say go for it.

As to not hitting on him, I find the thought of hitting on my guy friends a bit icky. I don't know why.
 
padjakkels said:
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
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i know it's a big deal to you, but it may not be a big deal to him, or he may not understand.

i think some things people just shouldn't know, or it's on a need to know basis. if he asks "howz the love life", then tell him. otherwise dropping it unexpectedly may not be such a good idea. you know him better than us tho.

some things are a big deal, but they're not a big deal for other people
 
Ockie said:
Me and a friend (she was my manager at that time) went to Primi after work and had those jam jars with long islands. jirre....I walked out of that place completely po$s faced as they say in Bellville. :p
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hahahaha, those things are potent :D

Jigsaw_Killer said:
i know it's a big deal to you, but it may not be a big deal to him, or he may not understand.

i think some things people just shouldn't know, or it's on a need to know basis. if he asks "howz the love life", then tell him. otherwise dropping it unexpectedly may not be such a good idea. you know him better than us tho.

some things are a big deal, but they're not a big deal for other people
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I agree here. If he mentions the love life or something, then tell him. No need to advertise it. It's nobody's business.

I only told my best friend when I was going out 2 nights in a row (we live together) and he asked if I was seeing someone :p
 
Method said:
hahahaha, those things are potent :D



I agree here. If he mentions the love life or something, then tell him. No need to advertise it. It's nobody's business.

I only told my best friend when I was going out 2 nights in a row (we live together) and he asked if I was seeing someone :p
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Problem is when is he going to see his friend again? The man is only passing through. This is something you want to do in person, not over the phone. He might not be able to share this with his friend again in a while.
 
padjakkels said:
Having one of my best friends staying over tonight, he is coming through town for work.

Thinking of telling him I'm bi... don't think it will change anything, hopefully it will make our friendship stronger, as he will understand me a bit better. Oh, and he is married and straight, so I'm not trying to hit on him....

Wise idea?
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Thanks for all the input!!! Really appreciate it! :D
 
Ockie said:
Problem is when is he going to see his friend again? The man is only passing through. This is something you want to do in person, not over the phone. He might not be able to share this with his friend again in a while.
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I see him about once a year... but we speak about once a month over the phone, and chat lots over whatsapp. Its actually a strange friendship, even if we don't see each other much, we are very close. One of those genuine friendships.
 
Ockie said:
Problem is when is he going to see his friend again? The man is only passing through. This is something you want to do in person, not over the phone. He might not be able to share this with his friend again in a while.
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True.

Do it casually then. Somehow get him to talk about love/girls and then drop it like it's hot (kidding).
 
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