Crossroads, advice needed

You mean we have to wait longer for the happy ending?!?!?
This really is a soapie :p
 
requiem said:
I see the thread has taken a whole new direction in my absence :)

Thank you guys for the entertainment.

So I managed to see her for a few minutes before she had to go to work.

Shes been distant lately because she started exams last week, (honours), we spoke for a short while, and we agreed to speak about everything when her exams are finished.

It is not right to lose a friend, or start a relationship right now in the middle of her exams.

Which means either she feels nothing for me, or she's really stressed about her exams.

Either way, thank you all for the encouragement, it took a lot to get there, will see what happens...
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Oh you sad, sad case. You just got the "sorry, I've got a headache" treatment. You had your chance, and you just blew it unfortunately. She'll move on - you had to catch her while the fire was still alight...
 
I'm glad my life can bring some joy to you guys :)

Going to be a bit of a boring time till then though
 
DJK said:
Oh you sad, sad case. You just got the "sorry, I've got a headache" treatment. You had your chance, and you just blew it unfortunately. She'll move on - you had to catch her while the fire was still alight...
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You are probably right....

We live we learn, I will cling to my hope. A month is not that long
 
requiem said:
You are probably right....

We live we learn, I will cling to my hope. A month is not that long
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Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuude? A month? How am I ever going to get any work done? Congrats on seeing her and talking a bit. Sounds like there's hope some at least. I get the no upheaval because of exams etc, however as DJK says the fire it may be dimming... I'd suggest that in a non stalkerish way you do some nice things like sending her a text now and again wishing her good luck for the exams, ask how they went etc etc.

You may be right she may be pre-occupied, but dude, the longer you leave it the longer we have to wait for the outcome :D Kidding, kidding just keep subtly reminding her that you're there, and that you're there for support.... other than that dude looks like you're going to be tugging the baloney for a month best case scenario while you wait...
 
Another way for me to look at it is if after her exams / there is no fire / then quite frankly all i've lost is a misbegotten expectation.

Thanks guys.

Will wait and see, wait and see...
 
requiem said:
Another way for me to look at it is if after her exams / there is no fire / then quite frankly all i've lost is a misbegotten expectation.

Thanks guys.

Will wait and see, wait and see...
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I reckon leave her alone now, and let her chase you.

You've done your bit.
 
alf101 said:
I reckon leave her alone now, and let her chase you.

You've done your bit.
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Well he hasn't really done all that much to be honest. But yes, let her make the moves now if she wants. No point chasing after her any longer...
 
Just spoke to my woman about thsi whole episode and she reckons the reason she's avoiding the whole thing is because she regrets it.

That's from a woman, granted not every woman has the same view but just thought you needed to know so you have extra tools.

PS, I would send her a bunch of flowers wishing her good luck for her exams.
 
Juggy, it is quite possibly she regrets it.

If that is the case, then nothing I do can possibly change that.

However there is another possibility and I have to wait till her exams are over.

And its not easy to let go, to move on, to do anything at this stage, its been an interesting two weeks.

Wish me luck people.
 
Hey, I just saw this thread is rated as 5 *'s

Thats a first for me.... :)


Thanks to everyone who rated it
 
tbh, I wouldn't leave things and wait for her to move. I'd try to stoke the fire, but use subtlety.

The things she said while she was under the influence of truth serum were more than likely truth...
 
This is going to be a long wait. The exams thing is a shyt excuse. If she was busy with her exams, she would have told you long time ago that she'd be busy with her exams. She wouldn't have waited for you to talk to her first.

Forget about her. Go out with your friends to have some fun. You might just find someone. But you need to up your game, that's for sure.
 
True, this might simply be an excuse.

A month, is not the longest wait ever, waiting that long might be worth it, and I might regret waiting.

But if her exams are truly the reason, and I move on, I will forever regret not having waited, and at least this wait is a defined period, i.e. a step forward from what was / wasn't there.


I know I could have acted sooner, and I have some regret for that, this at least gives me a bit of time to get my own head right, to get over the last relationship, (only ended a month ago) lasted 9 months.....

Either way, you guys have encouraged me to do something about this situation, something I haven't been able to do for a really long time.

At gsw - we just spoke for a few minutes, said hi, how goes, etc, Then I said we must have coffee, or just sit and talk, and she told me about the exams etc, and then said, she knows we must talk, but it must wait, but she will make it up to me, after her exams.
 
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