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Has anyone here dated multiple partners at the same time?

I want to date girls but really don't want to settle down and get a girlfriend right now. Do you think it's acceptable if you are completely honest up front.

Also if you do think it's acceptable what is the best way to approach it to make sure you don't hurt anyone or become known as that "player" guy.
 
You'll be lucky to date one.

And honestly - one at a time is more than enough admin.
 
No, and any "girl" who think it's acceptable is probably ****ed in the head
 
TheGuy said:
Has anyone here dated multiple partners at the same time?

I want to date girls but really don't want to settle down and get a girlfriend right now. Do you think it's acceptable if you are completely honest up front.

Also if you do think it's acceptable what is the best way to approach it to make sure you don't hurt anyone or become known as that "player" guy.
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There's the crux of the matter. If you're honest about it from the start they have NO right to be upset about it. If they choose to be with you they accept the terms and conditions.

It would be the same as if you tell a girl you smoke, then she gets upset when you smoke.

I'm not saying it's a GOOD idea, but it's not wrong.
 
I don't see why you can't date multiple girls, especially if you don't want to settle down. Just make sure they don't get the idea of exclusivity, that's all. If they ask to be exclusive and you not sure about her, just show her out the door.
 
No, you are probably in favour of polygyny as well.
 
LaraC said:
No, you are probably in favour of polygyny as well.
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Did you not read the part where he said he wasn't ready to settle down? Polygyny, albeit with multiple women, is still settling down.

What is wrong with him choice if he is open about it? Nobody is forcing the girl to date him.
 
Most people don't date multiple partners at once. It's just ethically wrong. Good luck.
 
Voicy said:
There's the crux of the matter. If you're honest about it from the start they have NO right to be upset about it. If they choose to be with you they accept the terms and conditions.

It would be the same as if you tell a girl you smoke, then she gets upset when you smoke.

I'm not saying it's a GOOD idea, but it's not wrong.
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lol - rookie error. ;)
 
Thanks guys some interesting comments. I'm not saying I going to do it 100%.

So it seems that most people are against dating people if you are not going to be exclusive?
 
TheGuy said:
Has anyone here dated multiple partners at the same time?

I want to date girls but really don't want to settle down and get a girlfriend right now. Do you think it's acceptable if you are completely honest up front.

Also if you do think it's acceptable what is the best way to approach it to make sure you don't hurt anyone or become known as that "player" guy.
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A few times I've had multiple partners, felt more like a fb's type thing instead of "dating". Although honesty is of utmost importance for things like these, there are some things to take note of:
1. Always use condoms and other contraceptives for the girl,
2. Always assume that every partner of yours has another partner,
3. That one partner who thinks she can change you will get hurt,
4. Moreover, assume someone will get hurt,
5. Beware of psychos. Crazy eyes are a very real thing and they will be devious in their attempts to trap you,
and finally,
6.It may end up that you fall totally for a particular partner who cannot provide you with what you want, i.e. exclusive relationship. Don't be that guy who hounds her.

If you and them can roll with that then its cool, nevermind what others say.
 
pratlou said:
At first why do you want to date multiple partners?
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At second why would you want to date at all? The money could be used for hookers - they don't complain, they know how to get it on and you can do it whenever you want.
 
battletoad said:
A few times I've had multiple partners, felt more like a fb's type thing instead of "dating". Although honesty is of utmost importance for things like these, there are some things to take note of:
1. Always use condoms and other contraceptives for the girl,
2. Always assume that every partner of yours has another partner,
3. That one partner who thinks she can change you will get hurt,
4. Moreover, assume someone will get hurt,
5. Beware of psychos. Crazy eyes are a very real thing and they will be devious in their attempts to trap you,
and finally,
6.It may end up that you fall totally for a particular partner who cannot provide you with what you want, i.e. exclusive relationship. Don't be that guy who hounds her.

If you and them can roll with that then its cool, nevermind what others say.
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Thanks for the info.
 
HDS said:
At second why would you want to date at all? The money could be used for hookers - they don't complain, they know how to get it on and you can do it whenever you want.
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:erm:

Whatever works for you bro...
 
Voicy said:
Did you not read the part where he said he wasn't ready to settle down? Polygyny, albeit with multiple women, is still settling down.

What is wrong with him choice if he is open about it? Nobody is forcing the girl to date him.
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Let me rephrase...

No, I do not think it is acceptable to date multiple partners.
In reference to "You are probably in favour of polygyny as well" is an assumption.
 
LaraC said:
No, I do not think it is acceptable to date multiple partners.
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If both parties agree to it - then there's surely no issue? The issue probably comes in when the other party gets too attached / the love thing rears it's head and they want the relationship to continue, and you want to break it off after 6 weeks as per your T&C's established at the outset. By all means go for it if the other party agrees to it - but realize that things might get a little messy because often emotion will trump logic.
 
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