Dating multiple partners

PsyWulf

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As long as there is no deception involved it's all good,date whoever you like
 

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Isn't the point of dating partly to figure out if you would like to be exclusive with someone? So if after the first date You're not sure if you want to be exclusive with someone, why go on a date with them again?

I don't see the necessity of dating multiple people at once. Sounds more like you just want your bread buttered on both sides.

To me it's like having one friend at once, or one child at once, one boss at once, etc
 

Zewp

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but if you pay for it, you're paying to fulfill a fantasy rather than trying to bribe a woman to only half-put out ;)

But if you convince a woman to have sex with you there's a bigger chance that she'll actually be into it. I'd take that over a hooker hollering while pretending your 4inch penis is the best thing she's ever felt any day of the week.
 

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To me it's like having one friend at once, or one child at once, one boss at once, etc

To me it sounds like he wants to keep multiple people hanging while he makes up his mind.
 

TheGuy

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Hi Guys

I didn't mean that I want to have Sex with all of the people I want to date. Is it possible for people to separate emotions from the act of sex?

The reason I'm asking this is for the first time in my life I'm starting to be comfortable and confident in myself. Currently I just want to have fun a meet new people and not be in a long term relationship. Saying that I would also like to fool around but not hurt anyone or be an *******. Hence the reason I'm asking for advice.
 

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Hi Guys

I didn't mean that I want to have Sex with all of the people I want to date. Is it possible for people to separate emotions from the act of sex?

The reason I'm asking this is for the first time in my life I'm starting to be comfortable and confident in myself. Currently I just want to have fun a meet new people and not be in a long term relationship. Saying that I would also like to fool around but not hurt anyone or be an *******. Hence the reason I'm asking for advice.

well when you go on a date, you're getting to know someone. if someone feels uncomfortable with competition, then you already know that it's a mark against them. if someone enjoys spending time with you, they will spend MORE time with you and less with other people. no reason to exclusively date someone for 4 weeks, wasting precious days and free hours when you could be meeting more people
 

bokdrol

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I don't think there is anything wrong with it unless you try to hide it. Surely that is how most people start out: you date a few people, sometimes concurrently and then, if it becomes srious, you stop dating the others or get out? I have always assumed when I started dating that I was not the only one? If you are upfront about it, and they agree, then surely that is OK?
I know many men equate dating with sex, but for women, not so much.
 

Zewp

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Hi Guys

I didn't mean that I want to have Sex with all of the people I want to date. Is it possible for people to separate emotions from the act of sex?

The reason I'm asking this is for the first time in my life I'm starting to be comfortable and confident in myself. Currently I just want to have fun a meet new people and not be in a long term relationship. Saying that I would also like to fool around but not hurt anyone or be an *******. Hence the reason I'm asking for advice.

This isn't about sex. Most people see dating as an act of getting to meet people in order to possibly establish a romantic relationship in the future. This is how most of your dating partners will also likely see it.

It sounds like you're looking to make friends, not date. Be upfront about that and it should be fine. Most people make a distinction between making friends and dating and this will probably cause you trouble if you're not honest about your intentions.
 

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well when you go on a date, you're getting to know someone. if someone feels uncomfortable with competition, then you already know that it's a mark against them. if someone enjoys spending time with you, they will spend MORE time with you and less with other people. no reason to exclusively date someone for 4 weeks, wasting precious days and free hours when you could be meeting more people

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As long as the other person knows your not exclusive why tie yourself down :confused:
 

RichardG

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I am against it! Don't have the cream and the cake. Just have the cream and let someone else have the cake... Sharing is caring :) don't be selfish now :)

We already running out of stock
 

Mila

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Hi Guys

I didn't mean that I want to have Sex with all of the people I want to date. Is it possible for people to separate emotions from the act of sex?

The reason I'm asking this is for the first time in my life I'm starting to be comfortable and confident in myself. Currently I just want to have fun a meet new people and not be in a long term relationship. Saying that I would also like to fool around but not hurt anyone or be an *******. Hence the reason I'm asking for advice.

Go for it.
 

CamiKaze

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Isn't the point of dating partly to figure out if you would like to be exclusive with someone? So if after the first date You're not sure if you want to be exclusive with someone, why go on a date with them again?

I don't see the necessity of dating multiple people at once. Sounds more like you just want your bread buttered on both sides.

haha your tone pretty much depicts your avatar.

@OP, do whatever you like to get some excitement out of life, but in this case, always use a condom and show them that you came inside the condom :whistling:.

Also, never admit to any one of your girls that you are seeing others.
 
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Zemco

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You can date two people provided you have a good memory for all the lies and the money for all the costs that are involved in dating.Oh and not forgeting the midnight calls when you with the other woman.For me personally its a lot of work unless you still in highschool and you have no responsibilities.
 

STS

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You can date two people provided you have a good memory for all the lies and the money for all the costs that are involved in dating.Oh and not forgeting the midnight calls when you with the other woman.For me personally its a lot of work unless you still in highschool and you have no responsibilities.

What if they know about each other? :whistling:
 

zolly

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Most people don't date multiple partners at once. It's just ethically wrong. Good luck.

How so?

We're all adults here and can make our own decisions. Some people like sexual variety and others don't, and as long as you're honest about it there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
 

zolly

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You can date two people provided you have a good memory for all the lies and the money for all the costs that are involved in dating.Oh and not forgeting the midnight calls when you with the other woman.For me personally its a lot of work unless you still in highschool and you have no responsibilities.

Wow. It's seriously like you guys have never heard of polyamory. There's quite a few people who are into it and do so without cheating or lies to their other partners.
 

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Just make damn sure you don't get them preggy all of them at the same time. I had a good friend who had three of his girlfriends pregnant at once. Cost him a packet for maintenance claims as he did not marry one of them.
 
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