Dating multiple partners

LaraC said:
Let me rephrase...

No, I do not think it is acceptable to date multiple partners.
In reference to "You are probably in favour of polygyny as well" is an assumption.
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Unacceptable by whom? Society? Or the willing partners who were informed of it before signing on?

Personally I think it's a dumb idea as people's emotions are and always will be involved. But there are tons of dumb ideas that are perfectly acceptable in life. I just don't like the fact that people want him to force to change. Be honest, yes. Change? That's not cool.
 
What does "dating multiple partners" mean? Going out on dates with different girls? Fornicating with different girls? Going on dates with more than one person at a time?

If you mean having sex with different people, why not say so? Then your question is "having multiple sex partners".

Don't beat around the bush.

:confused:
 
Arthur said:
What does "dating multiple partners" mean? Going out on dates with different girls? Fornicating with different girls? Going on dates with more than one person at a time?

If you mean having sex with different people, why not say so? Then your question is "having multiple sex partners".

Don't beat around the bush.

:confused:
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Now that's getting right to the point! :p If this is the case then save your dating money and spend it on hookers. They're not going to suddenly decide they want 'more'.
 
TheGuy said:
Has anyone here dated multiple partners at the same time?

I want to date girls but really don't want to settle down and get a girlfriend right now. Do you think it's acceptable if you are completely honest up front.

Also if you do think it's acceptable what is the best way to approach it to make sure you don't hurt anyone or become known as that "player" guy.
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Dating the husband and wife....hmmmm...kinky.
 
Singal said:
Now that's getting right to the point! :p If this is the case then save your dating money and spend it on hookers. They're not going to suddenly decide they want 'more'.
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I personally don't believe in paying directly to have sex. Indirectly is fine.

Also...it is more fun getting women to get in on this than to pay for it.

I still say, go for it, it will be fun for you as the guy at least.
 
Tinuva said:
I personally don't believe in paying directly to have sex. Indirectly is fine.

Also...it is more fun getting women to get in on this than to pay for it.

I still say, go for it, it will be fun for you as the guy at least.
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More work, more monies and it's bloody awkward when the person in question is inexperienced.
 
If you date a person your intention is to form a long term relationship if it works out otherwise you are just engaging in a fling.
Maybe the OP should have said having a fling with multiple partners, that would have cleared up his intentions.
 
If the OP thought it was perfectly acceptable, this thread wouldn't exist. Maybe he looking for justification??
Just a thought.
 
Use condoms
Don't be exclusive
Don't date stalker/ crazies
If they don't know about each other, use a calendar and good planing.

Most people in their 20's should do this. Being serous with one person is stupid when you are still figuring out who you are.

Oh and please don't let them catch you with the "I'm using the pill" story. You don't want babies.
 
Tinuva said:
I personally don't believe in paying directly to have sex. Indirectly is fine.

Also...it is more fun getting women to get in on this than to pay for it.

I still say, go for it, it will be fun for you as the guy at least.
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Sex is like airtime...you can either have it on contract or pay-as-you-go.
 
Voicy said:
Sex is like airtime...you can either have it on contract or pay-as-you-go.
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Hahahahahahahahahahaaha :-D

But on a serious note, just make sure she knows it's not exclusive if dating > 3 times besides the advice given above.

It's funny I dated a lady last yr and she basically asked me this which kinda caught me of guard as I always assumed people never date (beyond the 1-3 times) if not exclusive as then it's kinda like/is cheating. And with the way karma works, if you cheat you get cheated on eventually. (Well just how I think it works)
 
Amazing how many people equate dating with sex.

To anyone who isn't quite sure what you want. Date as much as you want. If and when you find the right person and are willing to settle down then you can get serious.
 
i've dated multiple partners at once when my girlfriend opened up to the idea of seeing other people. she enjoys meeting new people and going out with them, but we also still love each other and being with each other, so we support each other when we've had other relationships or met other people. i have no problem with it so long as we're open about it and if one relationship isn't suffering because of another relationship.

people have different needs and desires. there is polyamory and then there is **** buddies, and people must learn the difference. there may come a stage in your life where you may want something different, there may come a time when you want a different sexual partner, and these are normal desires. people get so used to comfort and routine that they never shake up their life or change, and people see change in other people and possible relationships. i've met many poly people and their lifestyles are as unique as anyone's "ordinary" relationship.

i also believe you can't choose who you love, you just end up caring about someone deeply because of who that person is, and i don't understand this concept where you have to lock your spouse away in a metaphorical tower and hide her from the rest of the world because you're insecure or think she can only love one person at a time.

dating multiple people has its pitfalls, drama and time management being the biggest, but if you know what to expect from the beginning of the relationship and you genuinely care about someone, multiple relationships can work
 
Tinuva said:
I personally don't believe in paying directly to have sex. Indirectly is fine.

Also...it is more fun getting women to get in on this than to pay for it.

I still say, go for it, it will be fun for you as the guy at least.
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but if you pay for it, you're paying to fulfill a fantasy rather than trying to bribe a woman to only half-put out ;)
 
Isn't the point of dating partly to figure out if you would like to be exclusive with someone? So if after the first date You're not sure if you want to be exclusive with someone, why go on a date with them again?

I don't see the necessity of dating multiple people at once. Sounds more like you just want your bread buttered on both sides.
 
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