Dealing with a bully at work

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zippy

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googoodoll said:
ag seriously get a life. The guy can hardly speak english, let alone type it.

And he isn't my boss. Neither of us have authority over the other
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this is exactly how you should respond to the bully. Laugh in his face. put chewing gum on his chair. unplug the mouse from his pc. lots of fun you can have with this :D
 
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I'll confront him directly and tell him to stop his childish **** in front of the boss if I have to.
 
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Stand up to him. I had a similar incident with friends of mine who basically turned me into an emotional punching bag.

I called them out on it. It was a bit *** at first because I was used to be extremely non-confrontational. I ended up being in a much better space afterwards, and sorted out the problem. I'm still on good terms with the one guy, and the other guy I don't see too often this days, and when I do he never gives me issues.
 
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zolly said:
Stand up to him. I had a similar incident with friends of mine who basically turned me into an emotional punching bag.

I called them out on it. It was a bit *** at first because I was used to be extremely non-confrontational. I ended up being in a much better space afterwards, and sorted out the problem. I'm still on good terms with the one guy, and the other guy I don't see too often this days, and when I do he never gives me issues.
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Yep - this.

You have to stand up for yourself in whichever way you feel comfortable - you can't allow yourself to continue to be used as a punchbag.

The risk that you may alienate some people is worth it - you don't need those kinds of people in your life anyway.
 
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envo said:
One thing I've noticed from people like the OP is they subconsciously do stuff that actually portrays them differently to the person (or persons) and actually get people aggravated because of it

Not saying that it is happening in this case. I'm just cautioning that your attitude/body language/way you say stuff could be construed as being aggressive and aggressive people will act out aggressively towards you in that case because they feel you are the one attacking them.

By being conscious of your tone of voice, your facial expressions and body language, you can quickly diffuse most tense situations.

Then again, some people are just *******s and should be treated as such and I would definitely start a list of facts and present them to your boss saying you are working under hostile conditions and you fear for your life and job and think that if nothing is done about the situation a constructive dismissal would be in order so you can continue your life without worry
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But on this subject, some of the things mentioned like the ko.... comment suggest that he other issue with her, in other words it could not be anything you do or say... it could just simply be that he has an issue with you. Tough situation, but all conflict situations are tough, ever thought of having a sit down with him. But firstly I would suggest looking inward first (to yourself) and see if there are any behaviour and/or things you do that might be considered as offensive to him. It will definitely be very difficult to identify the issue as there seems to be firstly a cultural divide based on race, secondly a cultural divide based on age, possibly cultural divide based on religion extra
 
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systemofpurplelimpminion said:
But on this subject, some of the things mentioned like the ko.... comment suggest that he other issue with her, in other words it could not be anything you do or say... it could just simply be that he has an issue with you. Tough situation, but all conflict situations are tough, ever thought of having a sit down with him. But firstly I would suggest looking inward first (to yourself) and see if there are any behaviour and/or things you do that might be considered as offensive to him. It will definitely be very difficult to identify the issue as there seems to be firstly a cultural divide based on race, secondly a cultural divide based on age, possibly cultural divide based on religion extra
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erm - ain't no culture divide from what I can see

All the victim blaming stuff just pi$$e$ me off - guy is douche - sort him out.
 
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TehStranger said:
But then you took an arrow to the knee?
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Lol this comment is awesome

chromedome said:
Get your big boet to wait for him after work..
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sigh.. Nostalgia

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Lots of good advice here really, most of the things would solve the situation for you.

I'd say the situation was still debatable until he made you cry, for me that would be a " no going back " event. I would have done anything it takes to deal with this person.

Same thing happened to my actually but my boss cared, it was picked up before I even opened my mouth.
 
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