Divorce

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Stop overthinking and if anything happens go with it.

Worst case scenario is that you both end up having a little fun which it sounds like you both need.
 
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BrendanD said:
Stop overthinking and if anything happens go with it.

Worst case scenario is that you both end up having a little fun which it sounds like you both need.
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Actually, right now he is desperate and he's looking for a vulnerable chick who is more desperate because he reckons he can't get a normal one.

But he probably will find the right chick some day.
The journey is pretty entertaining so far.
 
Sorry to say this, but anybody in a bad relationship, who immediately latches on to someone else, - is trouble.

A mentally healthy person, will leave the bad relationship and take time out to be alone for a while (several months at least), to sort themselves out and to get over their experience.

However, if she needs to be confirmed as still being attractive and appealing to other men (like you), then by all means stroke her ego and have some fun, but just be aware of what I said above. :)
 
Mila said:
Sorry Pic. But I loled so hard. Jsut because you are loosing out on nookie does not mean everybody has to.

Think about it. Say you start at 18. That means it's nine years of great sex you have missed out on if you are 27. Shame.
Say you have sex once a week that will be about 468 great shaggs you have missed out on.

Or do you want to marry a girl when she is 14?
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Didnt Zuma :confused:
 
wrathex said:
Sorry to say this, but anybody in a bad relationship, who immediately latches on to someone else, - is trouble.

A mentally healthy person, will leave the bad relationship and take time out to be alone for a while (several months at least), to sort themselves out and to get over their experience.

However, if she needs to be confirmed as still being attractive and appealing to other men (like you), then by all means stroke her ego and have some fun, but just be aware of what I said above. :)
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Not all women are basket cases who latch. If she has been trapped in a bad marriage for a while and doesn't have kids there is a good chance that she is going to want to get out there and just enjoy her new freedom and just mess around to experience some of the things she has been missing.

The trick is that you go into a relationship with a woman like this without preconceived notions of being her next husband.
 
Don't listen to the nay sayers. You are both adults who can make up your own mind. If the chemistry is there and the opportunity arises hit it like the fist of an angry God. Or fist it like the hit of an angry God or something...
 
Don't get your hopes to high, I've got a friend who's married to Mr Slime, every time I ask her if they are okay she tells me they're not okay, can just as well get divorced. She only stays beacause she wouldn't cope financially, and she doesn't have a car or licence. Make sure your not just another shoulder she's crying on.
 
Geriatrix is right, BCO is talking nonsense. Picard I have to say what concerns me is that you want someone unsullied, but you're actually going after an already married woman yourself. You're hovering over the corpse and wishing it was a steak. If you want to marry someone without experience then forget about this woman, batten down the hatches and prepare to wait for the perfect one. But in all honesty the past doesn't matter so much as finding the right one. Everything else sort of melts away when you do meet your mate.
 
chrissy said:
Don't get your hopes to high, I've got a friend who's married to Mr Slime, every time I ask her if they are okay she tells me they're not okay, can just as well get divorced. She only stays beacause she wouldn't cope financially, and she doesn't have a car or licence. Make sure your not just another shoulder she's crying on.
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How did she cope before she got married to him ?
 
cerebus said:
Geriatrix is right, BCO is talking nonsense. Picard I have to say what concerns me is that you want someone unsullied, but you're actually going after an already married woman yourself. You're hovering over the corpse and wishing it was a steak. If you want to marry someone without experience then forget about this woman, batten down the hatches and prepare to wait for the perfect one. But in all honesty the past doesn't matter so much as finding the right one. Everything else sort of melts away when you do meet your mate.
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This news just in - There is no such thing as "the perfect one". Everyone is f u cked up in their own special way. If you have great chemistry with a person and you refuse to give it a shot because he or she is flawed in some way then you are running a good chance of throwing your future happiness away.

We should be kicking the snot out of Picard for this ridiculous notion that being a virgin somehow makes a woman special. It's rubbish, superstitious, anti-sex bull that needs to go back and die in the Middle Ages.
 
He has a different set of values to you and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people think it's worthwhile to only be with one person in their lives. I do. But I tend to think he's being too naive, too idealistic and too judgmental about what he wants this woman to be.

And no there isn't such a thing as a perfect one but there is the right one. I firmly believe that, and believe that I'm married to the right one for me.
 
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cerebus said:
Geriatrix is right, Picard I have to say what concerns me is that you want someone unsullied, but you're actually going after an already married woman yourself. You're hovering over the corpse and wishing it was a steak. If you want to marry someone without experience then forget about this woman, batten down the hatches and prepare to wait for the perfect one. But in all honesty the past doesn't matter so much as finding the right one. Everything else sort of melts away when you do meet your mate.
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Ill +1 this.
 
cerebus said:
He has a different set of values to you and there's nothing wrong with that...
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Some people have a different set of values and think that sleeping with virgins will cure aids, or that if they find out their wives weren't virgins when they were married they get to stone them to death. Values can be flat out WRONG and in this case Picard is wrong. He is saying that the value of a woman lies in whether he was the first person to have sex with her or not and that is utterly absurd if not downright repugnant.
 
blunomore said:
How did she cope before she got married to him ?
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what blue said. whole people make better couples. as much as you care for her, how would you feel if it was you and her together and she was crying on some other man-teacher's shoulder :D
rather let her grow up, sort out her own ****, take charge of her life and meet her at the end of that road.
she doesn't need a saviour, she needs to realise that she is worth more, deserves more. only she can take the steps which make that happen for herself.
if you care about her, her independence, self-reliance and intact-ness should be valued higher than your own desire for companionship and intimacy.
 
I don't think he was valuing her in terms of her sexual history - if he was it's indeed repugnant. And yeah, wishing that she was a virgin isn't really on at all is it. But it's understandable that if someone values monogamy and saves themselves to be with one partner, that they'd look for similar values in the one they'd aspire to.
 
wrathex said:
Sorry to say this, but anybody in a bad relationship, who immediately latches on to someone else, - is trouble.

A mentally healthy person, will leave the bad relationship and take time out to be alone for a while (several months at least), to sort themselves out and to get over their experience.
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So true
 
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