Engagement ring question

Mike Hoxbig

Mike Hoxbig

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Hey guys,

I'm planning on popping the question next month :)

Seeing that I would like to keep it a surprise, I'd like to find out how to go about measuring my gf's finger without giving anything away? How did you guys do it? Will the jeweller take it back to get it re-sized if it doesn't fit properly?

Thanks!
 
The Jeweller will resize it rather get it slightly too big than too small then its an easier task to resize it...
 
Steal one of her other rings for a day ;) (like if she has one she wears on the opposite hand, same finger)
 
Tough one. I had the same problem because my wife (gf at the time obviously) doesn't wear jewellery of any kind, not even rings. If your gf wears rings just borrow one of those that she wears on the right finger and take it to the jeweller. What I ended up doing is just really taking notice of her hands at every possible time I could. For example when I held her hand I would try to figure out which of my fingers was closest in size to her ring finger. (not an exact science but I obviously wanted to keep it a secret). In the end I figured that my small/pinky finge was about the size of her ring finger. Turned out to be very accurate.

Like someone else said, rather make it slightly too big than too small. Resizing the ring down once isn't a problem. It's when you start resizing more than once that possible problems could happen.
 
Just pop the question, then go and chose the ring together. It's better that way. Hollywood started the buy the ring first nonsense. If the ring isn't to her taste, it will be hard for her to tell you that.

"If a man is alone in the forest, and he says something, and there's no woman there to disagree with him. Is he still wrong?"
 
Howard Neill said:
Just pop the question, then go and chose the ring together. It's better that way. Hollywood started the buy the ring first nonsense. If the ring isn't to her taste, it will be hard for her to tell you that.

"If a man is alone in the forest, and he says something, and there's no woman there to disagree with him. Is he still wrong?"
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BS . I had that discussion with my girlfriend - and she expects the ring with the question.
 
Howard Neill said:
Just pop the question, then go and chose the ring together. It's better that way. Hollywood started the buy the ring first nonsense. If the ring isn't to her taste, it will be hard for her to tell you that.

"If a man is alone in the forest, and he says something, and there's no woman there to disagree with him. Is he still wrong?"
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dude, thats the logical thing to do, love isn't logical, buy the ring, it only happens once and when she tells the story she'll have to say "oh he didn't have a ring we bought it afterwards"...not cool
 
lol, i bought a ring for my then GF about a month before popping the question and about a week before popping it, we were walking passed a jewellery store and she wanted to look inside, you know how unmarried chicks are, so i humored her, to my horror there was a ring exactly like then one i had already bought, so i told her that is a nice ring and she was like WTF, thats the ugliest ring i have ever seen!!!!!


FFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU i had to beg and plead with the jewellery store owes to take teh ring back, they did, but i lost a few K :-(

So fingers burnt, i popped the question with a dummy ring and we went to get her a ring of her choice at my price :-)

DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR DONT BUY A RING, CHANCES ARE SHE WONT LIKE IT!!!!! LET HER CHOOSE!!!!!!

or if you have to, try get her to show u a ring she would like you to give her one day if she gets the nod :-) Dont get burned dude, dont!
 
Wow happy feelings abound here.

Surely you've spent some time sussing her out, so you know her likes and dislikes? Besides, she'd have treasured any ring you gave her, since it's the thought that counts. Not having a ring is just poor form.
If the ring isn't to her taste, melt it down and design your own. It's far better than asking for her hand and then not having anything to put on it!

Just make sure you get a valuation certificate for it. I bought one a few months back (popping next month too :)) and didn't get a certificate for the diamond. I eventually had to trek back to the store and raise hell.

It is a diamond, before you jump on the bandwagon. :) (That or a store owner is gonna get in beeeg trouble.)
 
Howard Neill said:
Just pop the question, then go and chose the ring together. It's better that way. Hollywood started the buy the ring first nonsense. If the ring isn't to her taste, it will be hard for her to tell you that.

"If a man is alone in the forest, and he says something, and there's no woman there to disagree with him. Is he still wrong?"
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Nah I don't think it has anything to do with Hollywood. Even if it does, I figure that it's her day and her moment and I want her to remember it forever. It would kind of feel like buying house furniture if you go and buy the ring together.
Chunkyfeather said:
lol, i bought a ring for my then GF about a month before popping the question and about a week before popping it, we were walking passed a jewellery store and she wanted to look inside, you know how unmarried chicks are, so i humored her, to my horror there was a ring exactly like then one i had already bought, so i told her that is a nice ring and she was like WTF, thats the ugliest ring i have ever seen!!!!!


FFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU i had to beg and plead with the jewellery store owes to take teh ring back, they did, but i lost a few K :-(

So fingers burnt, i popped the question with a dummy ring and we went to get her a ring of her choice at my price :-)

DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR DONT BUY A RING, CHANCES ARE SHE WONT LIKE IT!!!!! LET HER CHOOSE!!!!!!

or if you have to, try get her to show u a ring she would like you to give her one day if she gets the nod :-) Dont get burned dude, dont!
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Hahaha thanks for the laugh :D

I love the dummy ring idea, something to definitely consider! Was also thinking that I'll take a look at some of the styles of her existing rings and enlist the help of a few people who know her. Besides she'll love whatever I get her, even if just for the thought, 'cos it's not like she owns any diamonds right now anyway :D
 
Howard Neill said:
Just pop the question, then go and chose the ring together. It's better that way. Hollywood started the buy the ring first nonsense. If the ring isn't to her taste, it will be hard for her to tell you that.

"If a man is alone in the forest, and he says something, and there's no woman there to disagree with him. Is he still wrong?"
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I agree 100% - most fun we've had (discretely looking for rings while nobody else knew!). In the end she chose a much different ring than what I ever envisioned!

Other alternative is to ask a friend of hers to help you figure out her ring-size.
 
EnchanterG said:
Wow happy feelings abound here.

Surely you've spent some time sussing her out, so you know her likes and dislikes? Besides, she'd have treasured any ring you gave her, since it's the thought that counts. Not having a ring is just poor form.
If the ring isn't to her taste, melt it down and design your own. It's far better than asking for her hand and then not having anything to put on it!

Just make sure you get a valuation certificate for it. I bought one a few months back (popping next month too :)) and didn't get a certificate for the diamond. I eventually had to trek back to the store and raise hell.

It is a diamond, before you jump on the bandwagon. :) (That or a store owner is gonna get in beeeg trouble.)
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I read somewhere that you get a certificate with a 0.30ct diamond and above :) Not sure if that's store specific or a general trend.

edit: here it is http://www.diamondrings.co.za/diamondcertificates.aspx
 
When my wife and I got engaged, we had a ring designed by a jeweller incorporating both our birthstone, diamond and emerald. Far more personal and not as expensive as you would think. Certainly better prices than the chain "jewellery sellers" Unique and no size problem!
 
hoegh said:
dude, thats the logical thing to do, love isn't logical, buy the ring, it only happens once and when she tells the story she'll have to say "oh he didn't have a ring we bought it afterwards"...not cool
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Or she'll say "yes, we spent a lot of time looking around and shopping and eventually picked this great ring together!"
She's gonna wear the thing the rest of her life - not you. ;)
As somebody else said - it is an idealized American movie idea to go on your knees and show a ring. But obviously, if she is completely sold on that idea, then you'd better find out exactly what she wants!
 
ebendl said:
Or she'll say "yes, we spent a lot of time looking around and shopping and eventually picked this great ring together!"
She's gonna wear the thing the rest of her life - not you. ;)
As somebody else said - it is an idealized American movie idea to go on your knees and show a ring. But obviously, if she is completely sold on that idea, then you'd better find out exactly what she wants!
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Fsck going down on a knee - that looks ghei, sounds ghei, kills the surprise, and we're both not the type to attract any attention :D

I was thinking more like a casual stroll at night on the beach, reflecting on the last two years, and then BAM! :)
 
xrapidx said:
BS . I had that discussion with my girlfriend - and she expects the ring with the question.
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Nope I would have to agree with Howard Neill. Their taste is alot different to ours, and what you like she might not. Rather take her with when deciding on a ring so she can get exactly what she wants, and not a ring that is "ok".
 
This is like the fourth of fifth engagement ring thread the last couple of weeks... is there something in the air?
How sure are you your girlfriend is not on mybb and has cracked your identity?
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Fsck going down on a knee - that looks ghei, sounds ghei, kills the surprise, and we're both not the type to attract any attention :D

I was thinking more like a casual stroll at night on the beach, reflecting on the last two years, and then BAM! :)
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Sjoe - make sure you choose a safe beach or "BAM" might mean someone going after that brand new ring of yours!
 
Or better yet just don't pop the question at all, enjoy things as they are and save yourselves the time, hassle, obligation, expectation and money that marriage will cost you...
 
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