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wrathex

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I've joined the local electronic dating scene.

I joined two different types, one is international with a South African section, and the other is a local e-dating scene.

The first thing I did was fill in the basic profile questions and then upload three photos of myself to each site.

Once my profile was ready I started browsing the gallery, looking to see if anyone caught my attention, the people in my age search criteria (37 - 50) all seemed to old for me lol, and I'm 43.

So I have a little mini 'omg I'm a dinosaur' midlife crisis, now I'm single for the first time in 22 years and I'm a cougar, I giggle at myself in embarrassment, then dismiss the thought with a 'naaah, I'm not a cougar', I'm just a desperately lonely person from the future, trapped in the amber of this era in the body of an ageing teenager, or something like that.

It's been three days and I've had three contacts (4Kuba's Contact playing loudly in the background) out of a handful of visitors. Visitors are people who viewed your profile, but passed it by.

I check out a few profiles, I read what they write about themselves, look at the photos and shake my head, I LIKE TO WATCH RUGBY, AM ROMANTIC AND WILL MAKE YOU A NICE BRAAI, shame, I think, I wonder who will respond to that?

There's a photo of man standing in his kitchen, clever move I think, makes you look all domestic, then I wonder whether I should change my profile photos, look for a photo where I look younger, but I decide not too, what the hell, I am what I am finish and klaar, I'm not going to photoshop myself into a futile misrepresentation of anything, what you see is what you get.

I feel out of time and place, everything has happened in my head in the last two decades, and suddenly it's time to step into the mainstream reality. I'm not sure I'm capable of making the transition, I'll have to see whether I remain a recluse or manage to break out of my comfortable virtual existence.

The truth is, even though I'm happy to live a reclusive lifestyle, I do get very lonely at times.

So, maybe this risky electronic dating experiment will manifest something. Hold thumbs for me ;)
 
Good luck, wrathex! I've never tried electronic dating, so don't have an opinion there, but holding thumbs for you :D
 
I wonder how successful e-dating is?

Success meaning that the two people who met up actually did marry in the end...

But good luck nevertheless - just be on the watch for all those weirdos who trawl the internet :p
 
My experience on this topic so far, everybody is looking for the perfect person, while they themselves are imperfect..... not impressed at all. ....
 
If you're a femal just make it public on here and your single life will be sorted :D

Lot's of [-]horny[/-] [-]deperate[/-] good guys on here. No need to join dating sites if you have MyBB :)
 
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Chris said:
I wonder how successful e-dating is?

Success meaning that the two people who met up actually did marry in the end...
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Of course success is whether one marries or not!
 
Cool, keep us up to date with whats happening. Best is to be as truthful as possible with your info. Don't give too much away, your profile should be short and sweet in such a way that people will want to find out more about you by messaging or adding you or invites to chats.
 
My experience on this topic so far, everybody is looking for the perfect person, while they themselves are imperfect....
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+1.
 
Pitbull said:
If you're a femal just make it public on here and your single life will be sorted :D

Lot's of [-]horny[/-] [-]deperate[/-] good guys on here. No need to join dating sites if you have MyBB :)
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Tough one ;)

Would you rather say I met my SO on MyBB or a dating site? ;)
 
Just look out for the:
1. widow hunters
2. money grabbers (also see 1.)
3. crazy's
4. one-night-standers

But, on the other hand, I found my wife on the net, so not all bad :p
 
You seem like a cool person. Hope it works out for you.
Sorry, no advice/tips to give :p.
Most people these days seem to have met through some electronic medium, though not necessarily a dating website. Friends getting married in January met on Facebook, for example. So it does seem like a good option; well done you for exploring it.
 
E-dating: The fears, the scams and the cowardly

Update:

I deleted my IOL and Flirtbox accounts, due to a general anxiety about the issue, haha, cowardly I know, but both those sites were a bit tacky to my liking, so I found another site for mature people only (35 and older), where I got about 5 winks in two days, and when I tried to buy a subscription this morning, they couldn't accept my payment method, so I deleted that profile as well.

I have to share this one with you:
Hi My Dear, it's a great pleasure to get your email, Am so sorry that am just getting back to you now, Am not at home now, Am presently in NY now, I came down here to sign up a contract, So I have been really busy, I really appreciate your amicable response, It has been long I shared feelings with anyone, Well you might not understand, Being able to come home after work and have a nice conversation with someone special is something that has been missing in my life for a long time. After reading your profile and email it shows that you are an interesting woman, Well like I said before now, Am new to this online stuff, Don't really know how it works but I believe I will with time, Well I think the first thing to do is to tell you more about me, ------ -----, 41 years old, a Professional self employed., the I graduated from Catania University Italy. I Live in London , but won't mind relocating (don't have anywhere in mind and look forward to deciding that with miss right) now, I am 5"8. tall, Brown eyes, Single, I had to do it cos my ex cheated on me, being reflective, Its not the best of thoughts to remember all that she did to me, I'm very passionate, stable, and the photo is current.

Yes, I really do look some years younger than I am. I'm well read, intelligent and have common sense, English is not my first language My passions include reading inspirational books and clever mysteries, I love to lay low, I Am a movie Lover, I Love the cinemas, Am the comedy type, I also watch some actions packed thriller, Adventures and some decent Erotica. I Love to cook and love Mexican dishes because they are quite spicy. I Love to Travel for fun but haven't really had the time to travel so much, I have been to Germany and Greece . Well all I seek here is true love and happiness, I really want to settle down and be happy, All that I want in a relationship is honesty and care, meaning- to be up front with each other and open our hearts out to each other without the lies. Loving ... meaning - loving yourself, and each other and never letting the music in your heart stop. Being kind to others, these two things are more important to me than all of the rest. I will want my woman to be passionate, Loving, Romantic, Kind, Honest, Reliable, Unselfish, has sense of Humor, understanding and considerate, I hope am not asking for to much, Am a one man person, I just want someone that will hold on to what little we find cos that’s the way to move forward and as well make it big, I know that Rome was not built in a day and I am ready to start and stand all, And I want that from my woman, I will want us to keep in touch and see what happens and I predict all will go well, I will love to meet you in person, communication matters to me so much, Please take good care of yourself okay, I will be looking forward to hear more about your self.

Yours in New York
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Okay, in his first e-mail he said, he worked for Shell and that he had blue eyes.

and then

I am Originally from Italy. a family of 4, My Mom, Dad my Elder Sister and I, Lost them to an auto Crash, was in Canada at the Time (am Over that now and have Moved on)
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I goggled, and thought FAIL.

Anyway, my brief experiment has come to a snap end, and I now feel relieved :p
 
Having met you in person wrathex, I'd be hard pressed to imagine how someone on your typical dating site profile could possibly be a fitting counterpart for your particular erm... idiosyncratic melange of character traits :p. Not to mean that in a bad way - but most of those guys don't advertise themselves as Afrikaans sci-fi writers and MMORPG adherents.

In any case, having seen my mother go through some truly horrific dating experiences from those sites, my advice is perhaps if not to avoid it altogether, at least exercise circumspection. From above post it seems like my caution isn't needed, but want to make it anyway.
 
When I was single I tried the online dating thing. It actually worked out well but you need to take your time and be careful. I generally found cute woman with brains and wit as thats what I was looking for. Ironically I met my wife online, but not through a dating site.. but through a blog that deals with evolution :D
 
I tried these dating sties some 6 years ago and only got to meet the loonies - people always misrepresent themselves, its all bad - stay away I say!
 
One of my best friends met his current gf through an online dating site, and he's happy so from what I've heard about them it's not all bad.
 
One of my friends is a sucker for the dating sites. Every single woman he has met on there has either been desperate or a complete looney. He had to call the cops when he was involved with one of the looneys at one stage :erm:. He never learns though which makes me think he's a desperate looney himself. :p

Stay away from it. Profile pics are about 10 years old anyway (especially with 40+ year old women).
 
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