Friend needs help with abortion..

You should probably also offer to go with her to the clinic.

I imagine for anyone it is going to scary as all hell. Terrifying in fact. And she will be in no condition to drive home.

But yes, lend her the money. Unplanned pregnancies can destroy the lives of women who have them, and its not fair on the kid either.
 
Give her the money. Tell her that she never has to use it if she doesn't want to, but you want to give it to her regardless of her choice. And never ask for it back.

Ask her to go to a reputable clinic.
 
Def Lend her the money, with her knowing that its there if she wants to use it.. she doesn't have to.

If she chooses to use it, then offer to go with her to the clinic.
 
Tell her to think long and hard about it, if she wants to go through with it give her the money and your support. She may be an emotional wreck afterwards but keep reminding her of all the reasons she did it. Support her now and after, it could possibly haunt her for a long time. Unfortunately with the world we live in today, having a child is hard, especially without the support of your partner. You say she may not be able to have kids again...ouch, what a situation, she might become extremely depressed the moment she longs for one. So like I said, she needs support and love. Whatever she decides help her to feel good about it. At the end of the day if she was meant to have a kid she wont go through with it. If she is only a few weeks, they will give her a pill which makes it less traumatic than the procedure to terminate the pregnancy, so if she wants to do it she shouldn't wait long.
 
Geez what a terrible person the fling is(assuming he's aware)! He could at least offer to pay and provide some support before moving on to the next poor sod he'll get pregnant.

Now you have to man up for their shared pleasure... You didn't even partake in the events leading up to this!
Whats wrong with her parents also not providing support are they unaware or deceased?
 
IF she is desperate and you rather not give her the money, PTA Academic hospital does it for free. But you are awake while they do it.
 
Also, bear in mind that the kind of procedure she will have will depend on how far along she is. As far as I know, under a certain time, they will just give you pills which cause the abortion. But yeah, neither option is exactly pleasant.
 
That's quite a pickle. She has an unwanted pregnancy now and might not have another one if she wanted to in the future cause of her condition. Cystic fibrosis is also hereditary so imagine having a kid with it.

Give her the money.
 
Make the money available for her to decide; kids change peoples loves drastically and if you're not planning on one then often drastically in the wrong direction.

Definitely provide the emotional support on the day and afterward as she'll have many emotions to deal with.

If she doesn't pay you back you can go to bed peacefully knowing you enabled a friend to achieve the goals she's been working toward without derailing her life.

Also, I'd agree with what some of the others are saying - re-enforce the need for protection to avoid this and a myriad of other potential consequences in future.

If done early enough it can be as simple as a few tablets which means less of an ordeal.
 
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