Friendship poll pls ?

[MrG]

I cant actually answer this question because there are just too many angles and complex feelings involved between a male and a female.

Difficult to say.

There will ALWAYS be feelings there that are not the same as between a man and a man or female and female. Just depends how you really feel about the person.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder remember. Its shocking how you can become attracted to someone that you find fun entertaining and enjoyable to be with.

If they are somene you can call a great friends.. not just random person you speak to every month, but a good reliable friend you obviously share some common ground and that is a link that will automatically develop something, but it might not actually lead to a relationship (or anybody wanting one), but it can lead to feelings which are very special but cannot really be called out of the realm of platonic. It can fool you to think you actually like this person more than you do.

Its so complex I cant actually understand them.

 

[Padded Mouse]

Gosh ! It seems I must be abnormal.

I have always had good male friends in a purely platonic sense without ever having wanted to enter into any relationship other than platonic friendship with them.

I am also pleased to be able to say I am also friends on a purely platonic basis with several ex boyfriends. Men with whom I had very intimate relationships and who I now rate amongst my best friends. And it isn't a case of trying to supress any emotions when I am with them,I am just really no longer attracted to them in that sense.

Of course you might look at anyone from the vantage point of being a member of the opposite or even same sex and admire them in some way. And again as someone else has mentioned in this thread, you might even bring the "attraction" question up with a friend of the opposite sex and both agree that the friendship is far more important than any kind of fleeting intimacy.

Does that mean the resulting friendship is any less valid or less platonic because there as a fleeting interest or because they registered somewhere vaguely on one's "attraction"scale?



I can admire other women and in a conversation rate them as sexy and / or attractive. This doesn't mean I am gay in any sense, cos I am not. just have an appreciation of good / beautiful things in all areas of life... Good food, good music, good conversation, good clothing and home decor, attractive men and women ..

I do realise as I am typing this of course, that this is something no straight man wold be able to conceive and / or at least admit to even under pain of torture????