Getting over ex's: How do you do it?

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DrewChan

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Got painfully dumped yesterday - how does one stop the sleepless nights and "I just got hit by a truck" feeling.
 
DrewChan said:
Got painfully dumped yesterday - how does one stop the sleepless nights and "I just got hit by a truck" feeling.
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marine1 said:
Time heals all wounds. Believe it or not it gets better and easier as time goes on.
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1st thing pass her number on to me ....:p

and yes time heals all wounds ..have good friends go out enjoy yourself meet new people do new things and just enjoy life ...and how long were you guys together
 
There is no quick fix, when my fiancee of 8 years kicked me out i was a broken man, drinking was a bad. Talk about dronk for drit but a big mistake i made was going into my shell and not facing her.

Obviously all our friends are intertwined and what not so i just avoided the scene which was a bad idea. Don't drink and look at the positives. Focus on the bad stuff and focus on why the relationship went bad and try not to remember the good times and so on. Avoid trying to get her back, she broke up with you for a reason and more than likely won't be coming back. Make sure you don't caught hoping for a reconsideration that won't happen.

Time does heal but it can take a long time if you don't deal with it upfront.
 
Together only a year, but it was a really good year, break up blind sided me - everything was going well - then bam. Asked for a reason - reply - I don't know
 
DrewChan said:
Together only a year, but it was a really good year, break up blind sided me - everything was going well - then bam. Asked for a reason - reply - I don't know
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a year is a long time ....like killadoob said ...try think of what went wrong and stuff cause the good will kill you inside

just take your own time ....and not worry ...everything happens for a reason and just go out have fun forgot about what could have been
 
killadoob said:
There is no quick fix, when my fiancee of 8 years kicked me out i was a broken man, drinking was a bad. Talk about dronk for drit but a big mistake i made was going into my shell and not facing her.
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If she was your fiancee for 8 years I can see why she kicked you out...
 
Whatever you do don't try and contact her to get a reason. That is the hardest part, no one likes rejection and we all tend to want to know why.

What I'm saying is whatever she'll tell you you'll want to change in your next girlfriend, ie. you want her to define you.

Don't let that happen, son
 
I needed a thread like this a couple years ago.

It is difficult, but like others have said, don't think of the positive things. Try not to dwell. Carry on socializing. Whatever you do, don't withdraw inward.
 
I agree with killa - don't drink. It seems like the easiest way to dull the pain, but you will invariably end up drunk dialing or texting which will just drag the thing out longer. Nothing good will come from you trying to make contact and talk things out with her at this stage.

You need to get busy. Hobbies, socialising, reading, watching movies - anything to keep you from dwelling on your ex. I still think of mine every day after nine months, although it doesn't hurt that much anymore. It really does get easier. The only thing that really stops you thinking about an ex is a new romance.
 
Oh and never try to get her back. You'll never be the same trying to make yourself the guy you think she wants. Most important thing.
 
You can't stop a storm. Just got to keep yourself safe and wait it out.
 
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