Going to pop the question

I've just stumbed on this thread now (haven't read it all either) ...

But I see nothing wrong with Acids anger right now? Didn't a women do him over only a few months back? :/ If it goes on for 5+ year, then there may be an issue ;)

Could be wrong.
 
I'm with AcidRaZor on this one. I see way too many people getting divorced nowadays and the husband is always the one who gets off worse. The reasons he mentioned are also usually the reasons people fight. I've seen lots of friends go through that. Thing is, when everything's going fine and you're happily in love, you don;t think about these things but once it's over, you look back and kick yourself.

I'm not being cynical but the world isn't all roses and sunshine. Sh*t happens and when it does, it doesn't hurt to be prepared. Sort of like life/disability insurance. You can do everything right but you still never know what's going to happen, so, just in case...
 
Nocturnity said:
I'm with AcidRaZor on this one. I see way too many people getting divorced nowadays and the husband is always the one who gets off worse. The reasons he mentioned are also usually the reasons people fight. I've seen lots of friends go through that. Thing is, when everything's going fine and you're happily in love, you don;t think about these things but once it's over, you look back and kick yourself.

I'm not being cynical but the world isn't all roses and sunshine. Sh*t happens and when it does, it doesn't hurt to be prepared. Sort of like life/disability insurance. You can do everything right but you still never know what's going to happen, so, just in case...
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The problem is that people are no longer comitted and no longer are prepared to work at anything..

It is an easy come, easy go world... Instant gratification..
 
thatdamnJoe said:
I dunno- the part where you've already decided how both of you will live your lives maybe?
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Well if she can't accept that marriage is a UNION of two people (ever been to a wedding where the priest says that and reads out the bible and stuff??) then she doesn't deserve (or want) to be married.
 
Natasha H said:
The problem is that people are no longer comitted and no longer are prepared to work at anything..

It is an easy come, easy go world... Instant gratification..
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Exactly, and thats why I thought about this for very long. I have carefully thought about the principles of my budget scenario and discussed this with several married couples who have said if they did what I proposed since the beginning they wouldn't have had endless fights about money.

I'm in no way trying to control anyone and I'm in no way saying that she won't have a say in anything, but doing it this way we have a crap load of savings, we both have money of our own which we can do our own things in, nobody has to answer to anyone before they decide to buy anything with their own money and all the bills get paid.

So you never worry about this huge bill because your wife spent R560 on her hair that month. Get it?
 
AcidRaZor said:
My wife is going to work (till we have kids)
We going to pool our money into 1 account
We take all expenses off of there at once (house/petrol/groceries etc)
75% of the money left over we put in a savings account
the other 25% we split 50/50

She can then go for a hair appointment, spa, buy new shoes, whatever she wants to do with her "cut" and I can do whatever I want with my cut.
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Acid, I'm not saying you have a kark plan. I agree that a variation of that is probably the best way to approach things (perhaps with some incentive for the one earning less to earn more). The point I'm trying to make is that you've already decided thats how it will be-> We going to do this, we going to do that. <-

You should be deciding these things together with your significant other and agreeing on it, not telling them how its going to go down.

If thats not what you meant, please accept my apologies.
 
AcidRaZor said:
Exactly, and thats why I thought about this for very long. I have carefully thought about the principles of my budget scenario and discussed this with several married couples who have said if they did what I proposed since the beginning they wouldn't have had endless fights about money.

I'm in no way trying to control anyone and I'm in no way saying that she won't have a say in anything, but doing it this way we have a crap load of savings, we both have money of our own which we can do our own things in, nobody has to answer to anyone before they decide to buy anything with their own money and all the bills get paid.

So you never worry about this huge bill because your wife spent R560 on her hair that month. Get it?
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I agree with your idea.. However, you need to discuss the amounts of the savings...

I do my hair for R560 every so often and I honestly don't see anything wrong with that.. Unfortunately for *a* woman that is what it costs.. I also do pedicures and waxes.. A woman with cracked heels and gross toes are not cool and I am sure youwouldn't want your wife walking around feeling negative.
 
Dolby said:
At least no one else will look at her and she won't stray easily ;)
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:D

"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty your wife,
A pretty woman makes her husband look small,
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her, then she starts,
To do the things that will break his heart.

But if you make an ugly woman your wife,
You'll be happy for the rest of your life.
An ugly woman cooks meals all the time,
She'll always give you peace of mind.

Don't let your friends say you have no taste,
Go ahead and marry anyway.
Her face is ugly, her eyes don't match.
Take it from me, she's a better catch
 
Dolby said:
At least no one else will look at her and she won't stray easily ;)
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Hrm, yes. How astute of you. All men should marry heinous unkempt women so that they need never fear being deserted.

However (and this might just be way out of the box) what if you love and trust your woman so that you need never fear that she might 'stray'? Some people DO trust their partners. And even better yet, some people believe their partners to be moral and principled people who are worthy of the benefit of the doubt.

But you're probably right. If you want to feel safe and secure (or just misguided) marry an ugly woman. After all, ugly women dont cheat. :cool:
 
superB said:
Hrm, yes. How astute of you. All men should marry heinous unkempt women so that they need never fear being deserted.

However (and this might just be way out of the box) what if you love and trust your woman so that you need never fear that she might 'stray'? Some people DO trust their partners. And even better yet, some people believe their partners to be moral and principled people who are worthy of the benefit of the doubt.

But you're probably right. If you want to feel safe and secure (or just misguided) marry an ugly woman. After all, ugly women dont cheat. :cool:
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superB, that is exactly how it should be. And when you do find that person you need to hang on tightly.. Because, I think the point Dolby is trying to make, and Acid probably, is that those people are few and far between in todays times.
 
Dolby said:
I'm sure they do actually :(

Just less often.
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Less often than who? Hot women?

Tell me you don't seriously believe that prettier girls are more prone to cheating?

Your GF must be pretty miff looking :/ *run*
 
so - did the rubber ring work? scared already - i mean, tomorrow is the day isn't it?!
 
Dolby said:
Yup



Yup



Don't think I've mentioned I even have one ...
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You're kind of ... twisted. And sort of ... biased. And quite ... warped.

I hope you never fall in love with one of those devilishly good looking women. She'll just use and abuse you and then throw you out like a 2 day old party balloon.

Happy days :D
 
superB said:
I hope you never fall in love with one of those devilishly good looking women. She'll just use and abuse you and then throw you out like a 2 day old party balloon.

Happy days :D
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I have - and she did. Could it explain the twisted, biased and warped?
 
superB said:
You're kind of ... twisted. And sort of ... biased. And quite ... warped.

I hope you never fall in love with one of those devilishly good looking women. She'll just use and abuse you and then throw you out like a 2 day old party balloon.

Happy days :D
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:D Yeah I guess by his logic you and I must be as ugly as they get :D
 
killadoob said:
Dude on the ring side of things, you should maybe look at buying a cheap 200 buck ring and using that for your proposal and then telling her she can design the ring and get it fitted.
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Agreed, plus if she says "no", then you only wasted R200 :p
 
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