Help! I think I'm wanted...

[Grant]

Ok, I did some fishing.
I think I know the guy, but I doubt he could be gay !
This him ?

 

[d7e7r7]

/snip
Thirdly, "specialised hobby" is a little off in descriptive terms, but seeing as how it's irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, it'll suffice.
/snip

Still keen to know what this "hobby" is....

 

[copacetic]

Seriously though, just meet up, and if any advances are made, just gently turn him down, as you would anyone you were not interested in, regardless of their gender.

If he's a half reasonable human being, he will understand.

 

[OGroteKoning]

Maybe he knows the chick and wants to introduce you two

 

[Mortymoose]

Mmmmhw! What meeting would gay guys and pretty girls attend, do you guys collect those little plastc Smurfs?

 

[bromster]

Seriously though, just meet up, and if any advances are made, just gently turn him down, as you would anyone you were not interested in, regardless of their gender.

If he's a half reasonable human being, he will understand.

I have been invited for coffee like this before. Trust me, they know that you aren't gay. Just go and enjoy it. Somewhere in the middle of a conversation the person will slip in "You aren't gay, right?" Then you say "Correct." . Finished.

 

[MickeyD]

Seriously though, just meet up, and if any advances are made, just gently turn him down, as you would anyone you were not interested in, regardless of their gender.

If he's a half reasonable human being, he will understand.

^this^

 

[MickeyD]

I have been invited for coffee like this before. Trust me, they know that you aren't gay. Just go and enjoy it. Somewhere in the middle of a conversation the person will slip in "You aren't gay, right?" Then you say "Correct." . Finished.

^and this^

 

[Nick333]

I have been invited for coffee like this before. Trust me, they know that you aren't gay. Just go and enjoy it. Somewhere in the middle of a conversation the person will slip in "You aren't gay, right?" Then you say "Correct." . Finished.

This. It's highly unlikely the guy is convinced you're gay and is going to expect sex.

 

[KleinBoontjie]

I think he would know that you're straight in any case. If you don't feel threatened by him, go pay him a visit, he may need a friend. Life is already difficult enough for gay people, being shunned for who they are.
You wouldn't have givin this a second thought if he was straight, why does the fact of him being gay put you off so immensely?

 

[waynegohl]

Take a friend with and introduce them as someone also interested in this hobby or ask if you can bring a friend with, try make it the opposite sex just to play it safe.

 

[bwana]

Thou doth protest too much, methinks

 

[Alan]

Thou doth protest too much, methinks

Insecure perhaps. Might find himself enjoying the guy's company a little too much

I say go for it you might get yourself a free dinner at a fancy restaurant if you play your cards right

 

[azbob]

I think you need to open yourself up to new experiences...

 

[satanboy]

c'mon go...he may not be gay and only be a serial killer

 

[waynegohl]

c'mon go...he may not be gay and only be a serial killer

This hobby might not have been "so specialized" had all those other "invites for coffee" have lived to tell the tale or not gone into knitting doilies for fashion week.

 

[hambone]

Seriously?! What is wrong with a guy asking another guy over for coffee? If the friend is gay he's unlikely to rip your clothes off the moment you walk through the door and is more likely going to swing the 'you're not gay, are you?' at some point to test the waters. You'll simply reply, 'no', and quietly get get on with your coffee drinking and hobby-ing.

This thread illustrates the difficulties faced by gay men (and women, I believe) on a daily basis: prejudiced and ignorant opinions that can be downright hurtful. Essentially many of the posts here boil down to the inability of gay men to contain their sexual advances, are sex crazed maniacs that find any and every other male attractive and worth pursuing for sexual pleasures. Even if the friend is interested in pursuing something how is it so difficult for you to say 'no thanks' and get on with your life? The poor guy has probably been in a world of torment getting the courage to ask you around in the first place, being so fearful that maybe he's read you wrong.

If every gay man stayed at home and never asked anyone around for coffee unless they had a flashing gay light on their head then there'd be a bucket load of lonely people out there. Oh wait, there are, because of over-reactions like this one.

 

[Pooky]

I think it also illustrates difficulties faced by straight men who might get labeled as gay if they invite someone for coffee...

 

[KleinBoontjie]

I think it also illustrates difficulties faced by straight men who might get labeled as gay if they invite someone for coffee...

+1, or get labelled as gay if they accept the invitation

 

[bwana]

+1, or get labelled as gay if they accept the invitation

Maybe it's the choice of beverage.