How to get a gf

MrG said:
lol, sounds like people in Amsterdam are a little bit desperate :D Jeez... thinking of about that.. gives a new meaning to Quick Spar.. Get it.... In a hidden area of the Spar.. lol (sigh)
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LOL, what do you mean desperate? I reckon its a good idea, Checkers, Shoprite ;). Pick n pay wouldn't do though :sick:
 
Am I the only one who things "just being yourself" is the only real good way to pick up women who might be potental GF material.

When ever I was single and I went out with the boys to go pick up women, I usually ended up going home alone. Yet when you went out just to have fun, You end up having to fight them off.

Everytime I went out and I had a girlfriend, It was the same thing, The ladies just seem to be everywhere. Now that I'm married its even worse.

I think most women can "feel" when I guy is trying to pick them up, She has to then like them a lot to actually go ahead with his advances. But take somebody who is already taken, and seems to be enjoying themselves for who they are, then they are all over you.

Maybe its all about the chase? Or about having something you cant have that makes it that much more exciting?
 
@kalvaer - thats one lesson I've learnt in life - like me for who I am cause thats what you're going to end up with - I don't put on a show anymore - I'm just an ******* the whole time - Life with it.
 
xrapidx said:
@kalvaer - thats one lesson I've learnt in life - like me for who I am cause thats what you're going to end up with - I don't put on a show anymore - I'm just an ******* the whole time - Life with it.
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LOL Exactly.. Thats how I met my wife. My GF broke up with me as I got down to visit her in Durban. Phoned a few mates and told them I was down and that I wanted to party up a storm like no other. 3 Days later, and still drunk, we ran into a group of girls at the beach who were doing exactly the same thing. Just out to have a blast. They then proceded to drink us all under the table.. Never seen a group of women down so many castle drafts so quickly :D

Needless to say, that was 9 years ago and I'm now married to one of them, And one of my mates who was with me that day.. just asked one of the other girls there that day to marry him.

Be yourself.. saves a lot of explaining afterwards
 
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4cer.. we want the story.

I say lets all send 4cer a PM to tell his story.
 
thedutchman said:
wow thats amazing :)
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Well what was really funny was that we all though that the girls were all lesbian. Which was what made us party with them. It was meant to be a "guys only get drunk forget about back stabbing women" week.

We thought we never stood a chance with them, but was just great to have somebody to party with. While they were infact all pretending to be lesbian as they wanted a week away as well with out guys trying to pick them up.

(Of course I tell all my friends I converted a rug muncher.. But they all know the truth now)
 
Kalvaer said:
Well what was really funny was that we all though that the girls were all lesbian. Which was what made us party with them. It was meant to be a "guys only get drunk forget about back stabbing women" week.

We thought we never stood a chance with them, but was just great to have somebody to party with. While they were infact all pretending to be lesbian as they wanted a week away as well with out guys trying to pick them up.

(Of course I tell all my friends I converted a rug muncher.. But they all know the truth now)
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This story just gets better!
 
Waaib said:
Get a local pub to do a singles night. I went to one of those once. It was called a "stoplight party" . People got stickers at the door:
- Red - not available
- Green - single
- Yellow - open to distractions

What was great was there was no messing about with who's single or not. Green and Yellow stickers effectively mean - "Talk to me now dammit"
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LOL they seem to have those all over. :D

Kalvaer said:
Am I the only one who things "just being yourself" is the only real good way to pick up women who might be potental GF material.

When ever I was single and I went out with the boys to go pick up women, I usually ended up going home alone. Yet when you went out just to have fun, You end up having to fight them off.

Everytime I went out and I had a girlfriend, It was the same thing, The ladies just seem to be everywhere. Now that I'm married its even worse.

I think most women can "feel" when I guy is trying to pick them up, She has to then like them a lot to actually go ahead with his advances. But take somebody who is already taken, and seems to be enjoying themselves for who they are, then they are all over you.

Maybe its all about the chase? Or about having something you cant have that makes it that much more exciting?
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Very true, I guess you probably come across as less desperate if you're not trying to pick them up.

MrG said:
4cer.. we want the story.

I say lets all send 4cer a PM to tell his story.
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Don't think he's going to tell. ;)
 
Kalvaer said:
Am I the only one who things "just being yourself" is the only real good way to pick up women who might be potental GF material.

When ever I was single and I went out with the boys to go pick up women, I usually ended up going home alone. Yet when you went out just to have fun, You end up having to fight them off.

Everytime I went out and I had a girlfriend, It was the same thing, The ladies just seem to be everywhere. Now that I'm married its even worse.

I think most women can "feel" when I guy is trying to pick them up, She has to then like them a lot to actually go ahead with his advances. But take somebody who is already taken, and seems to be enjoying themselves for who they are, then they are all over you.

Maybe its all about the chase? Or about having something you cant have that makes it that much more exciting?
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I don't necessarily agree with you. Being yourself is good don't get me wrong but would work better in an ideal world where women go out with you because you are you.

I could be wrong but these days (maybe its always been like that) women know what they are looking for in a guy just as guys do(in a girl that is). If you have that they go out with you, if not then not.

The problem is that often you meet people for too short a time to know all the good qualities they have so they focus on first impressions and some people are practically wall paper when you first meet them but once you get to know them you see that they are great.

So it boils down to with how much you match what they're looking for at first glance and then you have em(or not), the problem with not being urself is that you could be caught out and the relationship might be over. But as many times as not(i think) they realise that you actually have the qualities they like and stick with you.

As they say it might be the taste that brings you back for more but it's the sizzle that hooked you the first time..or something like that.

While they were infact all pretending to be lesbian as they wanted a week away as well with out guys trying to pick them up
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If they weren't pretending you guys would not have thought they are lesbians and maybe you'd be single now :)
 
StellenboschStudent said:
My previous relationship of 4 years ended a couple of months ago, and now I am ready to face the music yet again. But the problem is, I have been out of the "game" for so long - actually, I never was in the "game" - that I don't know how to approach girls (I know, I am pathetic).
My question to all the guys are, how do you approach a girl? What do you do to get them interested in you?
And for the girls, what do we have to do to impress you, and get at least your number?
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www.datingbuzz.co.za :p
 
Krypto said:
I don't necessarily agree with you. Being yourself is good don't get me wrong but would work better in an ideal world where women go out with you because you are you.

I could be wrong but these days (maybe its always been like that) women know what they are looking for in a guy just as guys do(in a girl that is). If you have that they go out with you, if not then not.

The problem is that often you meet people for too short a time to know all the good qualities they have so they focus on first impressions and some people are practically wall paper when you first meet them but once you get to know them you see that they are great.

So it boils down to with how much you match what they're looking for at first glance and then you have em(or not), the problem with not being urself is that you could be caught out and the relationship might be over. But as many times as not(i think) they realise that you actually have the qualities they like and stick with you.

As they say it might be the taste that brings you back for more but it's the sizzle that hooked you the first time..or something like that.



If they weren't pretending you guys would not have thought they are lesbians and maybe you'd be single now :)
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I agree partially and think thats the problem with trying to pick up women at a night club.. its far to short a time to actually get to know each other. Which is why I said as well, If you dont have something that she likes right away, your advances on her are not going to work at all. Especially if she later finds out your not the person you were pretending to be. So rather let her get to know who you are straight away in the short period. If its going to work out, let it be truthful.

I have a friend who is the most outspoken "pig" you will ever meet. He tells women straight up what he thinks and is incredibly blunt about it. He proberbly gets laid more in a month though, than most married couples do in a year.

The catch is, its who he is always, not just on a special one night when he is trying to pick somebody up.

PS: About the girls pretending at first when we first met them... they weren't really pretending.. the 3 of them were actually together... I'll leave the rest though for you to work out :eek:
 
Kalvaer said:
PS: About the girls pretending at first when we first met them... they weren't really pretending.. the 3 of them were actually together... I'll leave the rest though for you to work out :eek:
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That sounds better than 4cer's story. :D:p
 
Yeah this was a nice filler story until THE REAL story comes.

4cer... 4cer... 4cer.. we continue to chant and scream for u :)
 
ernstn said:
Works like a charm, it appeals to women. They seem to spot it from afar and they all want to hold it up and cuddle it

That breaks the ice and within seconds you are chatting.
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...wonder if I can borrow my gf's... but its one of those small tampon like dogs... the furry little purse size terriers.
 
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