How to you handle constant set-backs?

You can't change what's going to happen to you in life, but you can choose your response.We know what happened to Christopher Reeve, Natalie du Doit and a whole host of other people and we we know how they responded.Hell there's even a guy with no arms and legs who motivates other people.
How will you respond today.
 
Found out about this guy Sean Stephenson on Reddit. Look for him on Youtube. If he can deal with the **** life throws at him like he does anyone can.
 
Acid money and success do not bring happiness, granted money and success will make you happy if you allow it to. You need to be happy with yourself and your situation. Looking at these mega stars and thinking o what an easy life is only going to put you down more. Thinking some people have certain things handed to them will only make you feel worse.

No point feeling sorry for yourself because it won't help. Positive thoughts are the only way!!!!! If you start to think negative things go for a walk and just marvel at the wonder that is life. Go play with the dog and don't abuse substances :D
 
I think that one of the best things to do is not see everything as a setback. I know its hard sometimes but a lot of things you have very little or no control over so there is not much point in taking them to heart. (or personally )

Some things might appear to be setbacks but often they are opportunities in disguise, don't focus on how something is negatively affecting your life, focus on how you can overcome this obstacle.
 
AcidRaZor said:
So Paris Hilton, with all that money and fame and a sex tape (so not much to discover there) has...what problems? Too much paparazzi? Too many choices of what to wear for the day? Have to yell at the chef for putting food on her plate that's not 100% organic?

I'd REALLY love to know what problem she'll have that is so big you'll lie awake at night worrying about how you're going to cope the next day.

Sure, maybe she has a drug problem (would explain a lot), but even if she gets arrested several times for it (and possession) the worst that can happen is she gets sent to rehab (Lindsey Lohan). "Oh I have daddy issues" *everyone* has issues sure, but she doesn't need to think twice before going out and buying the new line of Gucci/Prada shoes. Hell, one pair of her shoes would set me up for a month.

But yea... they wear masks and have issues. Definitely not money issues
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Her issues may seem stupid and ridiculous to you, but to her they are devastating. Its all relative.
Remember being a kid at school and worrying about some of the crap there? Kept you up at night, made you cry etc....that stuff to an adult seems small and petty, but to the kid its a massive deal.
 
AcidRaZor said:
So Paris Hilton, with all that money and fame and a sex tape (so not much to discover there) has...what problems? Too much paparazzi? Too many choices of what to wear for the day? Have to yell at the chef for putting food on her plate that's not 100% organic?

I'd REALLY love to know what problem she'll have that is so big you'll lie awake at night worrying about how you're going to cope the next day.

Sure, maybe she has a drug problem (would explain a lot), but even if she gets arrested several times for it (and possession) the worst that can happen is she gets sent to rehab (Lindsey Lohan). "Oh I have daddy issues" *everyone* has issues sure, but she doesn't need to think twice before going out and buying the new line of Gucci/Prada shoes. Hell, one pair of her shoes would set me up for a month.

But yea... they wear masks and have issues. Definitely not money issues
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It is a pity you use Paris Hilton as a reference point. Anyhow, yes, even she would have problems. She may be too dim to realise the true extent of her problems, but they exist nevertheless.
 
Paris is a shrewd businesswomen. She doesn't rely on family money. I don't think the dumb blonde image applies here, whatever we read in the media.
 
Lounger said:
Paris is a shrewd businesswomen. She doesn't rely on family money. I don't think the dumb blonde image applies here, whatever we read in the media.
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How did it turn into a Hilton debate? :)

Anyone with a brain would not do what she does day after day. How intellectually stimulating is her life in your opinion? No matter how rich, surely if you have a brain, you feel the need to occupy it with some meaningful activity.
 
blunomore said:
How did it turn into a Hilton debate? :)

Anyone with a brain would not do what she does day after day. How intellectually stimulating is her life in your opinion? No matter how rich, surely if you have a brain, you feel the need to occupy it with some meaningful activity.
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its called substance abuse
 
blunomore said:
How can that be a meaningful activity? No more than zoning out of reality.
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I highlighted the wrong bit.
My point is/was, that even smart people can occupy themselves completely with "meaningless activities". My example was substance abuse.
Especially with the money she has, a party lifestyle can take over your life. Doesn't mean she is lacking a brain (although she might be, i have no idea), just that she has fallen for a different path
 
tau1z said:
I highlighted the wrong bit.
My point is/was, that even smart people can occupy themselves completely with "meaningless activities". My example was substance abuse.
Especially with the money she has, a party lifestyle can take over your life. Doesn't mean she is lacking a brain (although she might be, i have no idea), just that she has fallen for a different path
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True.

If I had the Hiltons for a family, I would try to learn some business acumen from them and try to achieve my own successes - she has all these amazing opportunities.
 
blunomore said:
True.

If I had the Hiltons for a family, I would try to learn some business acumen from them and try to achieve my own successes - she has all these amazing opportunities.
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I would like to believe I would, but its hard to say, because I am older now and if I cam into a fair whack of cash I would probably keep myself busy.
Growing up with that much money though, i think its a disaster. I certainly wouldn't be the same person with the same work ethics I have now..
I actually think I might be a bit of a self indulgent prat
 
With all the money in the world Paris can only wish she had the respect and family which we have.
 
I was feeling similarly the other day. I was angry about my plans for life not having worked out, and being in a job I don't really like that much. I was on the train back home when I saw something that put everything into perspective.

For those of you who ride the trains in Cape Town, hawkers are a familiar sight. A hawker got on, but he was unusually quiet. Usually these guys are shouting what they have to sell and what their prices are, so it's really quite unusual to see one just walking along. As he got closer, I saw a sign around his neck that read:

"Hello, I am deaf. I sell sweets, chips and chocolates." The prices for what he was selling were below that, and at the bottom of the sign "Thank you."

Yes, our setbacks our important to us individually, but if it's anything that my Buddhist teacher has taught me, is that a lot of people think they need more than they do. So when I am feeling down about stuff not being right in my life, I do two things:

- Ask myself "What am I doing to rectify the situation?" and "Do I have everything I NEED?"
- Remind myself "It could be a lot worse."
 
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zolly said:
I was feeling similarly the other day. I was angry about my plans for life not having worked out, and being in a job I don't really like that much. I was on the train back home when I saw something that put everything into perspective.

For those of you who ride the trains in Cape Town, hawkers are a familiar sight. A hawker got on, but he was unusually quiet. Usually these guys are shouting what they have to sell and what their prices are, so it's really quite unusual to see one just walking along. As he got closer, I saw a sign around his neck that read:

"Hello, I am deaf. I sell sweets, chips and chocolates." The prices for what he was selling were below that, and at the bottom of the sign "Thank you."

Yes, our setbacks our important to us individually, but if it's anything that my Buddhist teacher has taught me, is that a lot of people think they need more than they do. So when I am feeling down about stuff not being right in my life, I do two things:

- Ask myself "What am I doing to rectify the situation?" and "Do I have everything I NEED?"
- Remind myself "It could be a lot worse."
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Very nice post.

If we look around us, and we see the immense suffering of other people, we get some perspective on how good our own lives actually are.
 
blunomore said:
Very nice post.

If we look around us, and we see the immense suffering of other people, we get some perspective on how good our own lives actually are.
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I agree, nice post, it's good to have perspective, it's good to really see the people around you and understand their plight and your own in context.
 
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