How's Tinder these days?

JuliusSeizure said:
Does it really work for anyone?

I have met people from Bumble and OKC but its very hard to get matches on Tinder. Its a sausage fest so women have a lot of options and men less.
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I was on Tinder twice once after a 9 year relationship then I took a years break because I actually wasn't ready for dating again and started again. After the 9 year I hit the gym hard I went from 110kgs to 75kg so that helped.

After the 9 year I got crazy matches and I lined up a date in morning and evening on a Saturdays for a few weekends. After I took a break Tinder was pretty dead and bumble was the new Tinder well for what I was looking for.

Used bumble for 3 weeks I think I did 5 dates and met someone who I marry tomorrow :) after dating for 2.5 years.

The only rule I had was I only did coffee times 10am and 2pm. Spending R800 (R400 x2) on a dinner/breakfast for someone who I may not speak to again is dumb. Also if I didnt like the person I could say I'm sorry I have to go I have x plans but if the date is going well coffee can lead to dinner etc.
 
Scary_Turtle said:
I was on Tinder twice once after a 9 year relationship then I took a years break because I actually wasn't ready for dating again and started again. After the 9 year I hit the gym hard I went from 110kgs to 75kg so that helped.

After the 9 year I got crazy matches and I lined up a date in morning and evening on a Saturdays for a few weekends. After I took a break Tinder was pretty dead and bumble was the new Tinder well for what I was looking for.

Used bumble for 3 weeks I think I did 5 dates and met someone who I marry tomorrow :) after dating for 2.5 years.

The only rule I had was I only did coffee times 10am and 2pm. Spending R800 (R400 x2) on a dinner/breakfast for someone who I may not speak to again is dumb. Also if I didnt like the person I could say I'm sorry I have to go I have x plans but if the date is going well coffee can lead to dinner etc.
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Damn that’s a massive cut down in weight.. Congrats on getting ripped and now getting married tomorrow!!


That idea to just get coffee on the first date is an excellent one, it takes away much of the pressure and such a good point that’s it’s an easy one to make a duck from if needs be. There’s few things worse than having to sit through an awkward meal, while knowing that you will soon have to pay dearly for the unfortunate experience.

You could also replace the coffee with a drink or two but it’s not the wisest thing considering alcohol adds uneccessay complications like beers goggles and other alcohol induced stupidity. Why make things harder than it already is but it is rather easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you need a drink to calm the nerves to be able to enjoy the experience :-/

But whatever it is making the first date something low pressure and not a full on date is a win.
 
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Scary_Turtle said:
I was on Tinder twice once after a 9 year relationship then I took a years break because I actually wasn't ready for dating again and started again. After the 9 year I hit the gym hard I went from 110kgs to 75kg so that helped.

After the 9 year I got crazy matches and I lined up a date in morning and evening on a Saturdays for a few weekends. After I took a break Tinder was pretty dead and bumble was the new Tinder well for what I was looking for.

Used bumble for 3 weeks I think I did 5 dates and met someone who I marry tomorrow :) after dating for 2.5 years.

The only rule I had was I only did coffee times 10am and 2pm. Spending R800 (R400 x2) on a dinner/breakfast for someone who I may not speak to again is dumb. Also if I didnt like the person I could say I'm sorry I have to go I have x plans but if the date is going well coffee can lead to dinner etc.
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Coffee? Yeah no it's not a job interview.
 
airborne said:
Damn that’s a massive cut down in weight.. Congrats on getting ripped and now getting married tomorrow!!


That idea to just get coffee on the first date is an excellent one, it takes away much of the pressure and such a good point that’s it’s an easy one to make a duck from if needs be. There’s few things worse than having to sit through an awkward meal, while knowing that you will soon have to pay dearly for the unfortunate experience.

You could also replace the coffee with a drink or two but it’s not the wisest thing considering alcohol adds uneccessay complications like beers goggles and other alcohol induced stupidity. Why make things harder than it already is but it is rather easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you need a drink to calm the nerves to be able to enjoy the experience :-/

But whatever it is making the first date something low pressure and not a full on date is a win.
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Coffee dates in that context are not actually dates, its more like an interview to see if the person is a psycho or not.

ShaunSA said:
See that's why I prefer Grindr. If you offer a guy coffee he knows the only thing he's getting is cream :cool:
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Why is your semen ice?
You should see a Dr about that.
 
Scary_Turtle said:
I was on Tinder twice once after a 9 year relationship then I took a years break because I actually wasn't ready for dating again and started again. After the 9 year I hit the gym hard I went from 110kgs to 75kg so that helped.

After the 9 year I got crazy matches and I lined up a date in morning and evening on a Saturdays for a few weekends. After I took a break Tinder was pretty dead and bumble was the new Tinder well for what I was looking for.

Used bumble for 3 weeks I think I did 5 dates and met someone who I marry tomorrow :) after dating for 2.5 years.

The only rule I had was I only did coffee times 10am and 2pm. Spending R800 (R400 x2) on a dinner/breakfast for someone who I may not speak to again is dumb. Also if I didnt like the person I could say I'm sorry I have to go I have x plans but if the date is going well coffee can lead to dinner etc.
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Pics or it didn't happen:whistling:
 
Polymathic said:
Coffee dates in that context are not actually dates, its more like an interview to see if the person is a psycho or not.
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Yip, or the ones fixated on consumerism, Veganism, CrossFit, some weird bent of feminism, animal cruelty, green peace, global warming, or whatever it is.
 
backstreetboy said:
Coffee? Yeah no it's not a job interview.
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Each to their own but like I said coffee can easily turn into lunch or dinner.

Lets say someone turns up 40kgs heavier than their photos or like my one experience every 5 minutes said "I will choke you in your own cum" and preceded to laugh like that as actually funny. This eliminates an hour or more of an awkward evening.
 
Scary_Turtle said:
Each to their own but like I said coffee can easily turn into lunch or dinner.

Lets say someone turns up 40kgs heavier than their photos or like my one experience every 5 minutes said "I will choke you in your own cum" and preceded to laugh like that as actually funny. This eliminates an hour or more of an awkward evening.
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WTF, where do you live?
 
Scary_Turtle said:
Each to their own but like I said coffee can easily turn into lunch or dinner.

Lets say someone turns up 40kgs heavier than their photos or like my one experience every 5 minutes said "I will choke you in your own cum" and preceded to laugh like that as actually funny. This eliminates an hour or more of an awkward evening.
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+1 on the coffee. Much easier to get out of a casual lunch meet and get a feel for the person than a dimly lit restaurant / bar over drinks. I'm also past the point in my life where I need alcohol to be the basis of everything.
 
Downloaded Hinge the other day and got a few matches and dates... tinder match algorithm still in the toilets
 
Scary_Turtle said:
Each to their own but like I said coffee can easily turn into lunch or dinner.

Lets say someone turns up 40kgs heavier than their photos or like my one experience every 5 minutes said "I will choke you in your own cum" and preceded to laugh like that as actually funny. This eliminates an hour or more of an awkward evening.
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That's a weird thing to say on a first date. How did you respond? "that's what she said", "I'd rather not Ma'am", "mmm salty"
 
randomcat said:
That's a weird thing to say on a first date. How did you respond? "that's what she said", "I'd rather not Ma'am", "mmm salty"
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I didn't have words I gave a ha..ha laugh, mixed with shock but by the tenth time in the evening when it was said I just wanted out. I'm sure she could see the look of me wanting to escape because we didn't have after dinner coffee and we both ghosted each other.

What a mess of a date.

@RunningFromFat she was originally from the Eastrand but was living in Fourways
 
Never mind @randomcat i took my meds. Was not as bad as they said it was. In fact I didn’t know I had anything until I was tested. No swelling, seepage or any of the normal horror pics you saw in biology class.
 
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s0lar said:
Never mind @randomcat i took my meds. Was not as bad as they said it was. In fact I didn’t know I had anything until I was tested. No swelling, seepage or any of the normal horror pics you saw in biology class.
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If you say so. Stay safe bru:)
 
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