How's Tinder these days?

I regained my bachelor status a few months ago, after more than 3 years...

Having been through the emotional wringer, I put the past behind me and availed myself to meeting someone again. I opted to try out various apps again, with no expectations. My experiences have been a mixed bag, to say the least.

I swiped right notably more often than I got matches. Of those matches, probably around half never bothered to reach out nor respond when I did.

Some have turned into pen pals, which I'm OK with. Not every connection needs to move beyond platonic status and I was open about making new friends first and foremost.
I've met four people in person via the apps and one outside the apps. One of the former and the latter I have a definite romantic interest in on my part.

All that aside, I sit disheartened though as the comms have by and large been erratic and meets are non-committal, at best, in spite of assertions that things have gone well and the interest is mutual.

I just don't get it. If the interest is mutual and things are flowing, why does the interest drop and the communication stall?

There is a definite pattern.

This topic has come up with two of the friends I've met via the apps, just this past week. Their experiences are similar.

Quite by fluke, I stumbled upon this article a few days ago and I have to say, I strongly agree with the conclusions that are reached within it.

www.theatlantic.com

Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?

Despite the easing of taboos and the rise of hookup apps, Americans are in the midst of a sex recession.
www.theatlantic.com www.theatlantic.com

There is a major problem with the way the we, as society, meet, communicate and connect with those around us these days.

I've been chatting with a number of friends over the past couple months, around my age (41) and older, for context. I'm both shocked and saddened by the number of them that have largely sworn off dating, coupling, fairytale romance notions and are, for all intents and purposes, jaded when it comes to love and romance.

I'm really trying to see past all this, however it's not easy.
 
Merlin said:
I regained my bachelor status a few months ago, after more than 3 years...

Having been through the emotional wringer, I put the past behind me and availed myself to meeting someone again. I opted to try out various apps again, with no expectations. My experiences have been a mixed bag, to say the least.

I swiped right notably more often than I got matches. Of those matches, probably around half never bothered to reach out nor respond when I did.

Some have turned into pen pals, which I'm OK with. Not every connection needs to move beyond platonic status and I was open about making new friends first and foremost.
I've met four people in person via the apps and one outside the apps. One of the former and the latter I have a definite romantic interest in on my part.

All that aside, I sit disheartened though as the comms have by and large been erratic and meets are non-committal, at best, in spite of assertions that things have gone well and the interest is mutual.

I just don't get it. If the interest is mutual and things are flowing, why does the interest drop and the communication stall?

There is a definite pattern.

This topic has come up with two of the friends I've met via the apps, just this past week. Their experiences are similar.

Quite by fluke, I stumbled upon this article a few days ago and I have to say, I strongly agree with the conclusions that are reached within it.

www.theatlantic.com

Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?

Despite the easing of taboos and the rise of hookup apps, Americans are in the midst of a sex recession.
www.theatlantic.com www.theatlantic.com

There is a major problem with the way the we, as society, meet, communicate and connect with those around us these days.

I've been chatting with a number of friends over the past couple months, around my age (41) and older, for context. I'm both shocked and saddened by the number of them that have largely sworn off dating, coupling, fairytale romance notions and are, for all intents and purposes, jaded when it comes to love and romance.

I'm really trying to see past all this, however it's not easy.
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These apps offer a paradox as such. They give you options and make it easier to talk to people but they simultaneously devalue that connection due to the ease of how it came to be.
 
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