I am having a breakdown

Good that you found out for yourself.
Your son doesn't need to be exposed to the tension or grow up to be like him.
Wishing you strongs and know we are here for shoulders to cry on or for perspective advice.
 
Good that you've managed to get out...

Strength to you, and we hope you can sort everything out that you need to, to move on with your life. Something better will come along in time... but the most important thing is your son.
 
This is why people need to pick their partners better. Especially women, as its they who would be responsible for rearing a child if the partner up and legged it.

Glad you got away but a lesson for next time, be sure before committing!
 
headache said:
Update:

I hate to say this but you guys were right. So go ahead and tell me “you told me so”.
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"I told you so" is only ever appropriate for smaller things in life. Like, if you run through the dining room you will stub your toe. Or something similar and inconsequential.

People gave you such strong advice, with such vehemence, because they wanted to help give you the courage and/or anything else you needed to make the best decision for yourself and your son. Whether any of the posts in this thread helped or not.

I think everyone that you might expect an "I told you so" from, will rather simply be thinking: "Thank goodness she turned out to be one of the strong ones". :)

Stay strong and take it one day at a time. Looking forward to seeing what your forum name change will be once the headaches are behind you.
 
This is one of those times when I wish we were all wrong & dude was a saint :(
Its never good seeing a family being torn apart :(
 
I just hope you decide to stay separated & dont cave into family pressure...or that *couples therapy BS*
 
SoulTax said:
"I told you so" is only ever appropriate for smaller things in life. Like, if you run through the dining room you will stub your toe. Or something similar and inconsequential.

People gave you such strong advice, with such vehemence, because they wanted to help give you the courage and/or anything else you needed to make the best decision for yourself and your son. Whether any of the posts in this thread helped or not.

I think everyone that you might expect an "I told you so" from, will rather simply be thinking: "Thank goodness she turned out to be one of the strong ones". :)

Stay strong and take it one day at a time. Looking forward to seeing what your forum name change will be once the headaches are behind you.
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My family must not have gotten the memo, especially my father.
 
Ho3n3r said:
My family must not have gotten the memo, especially my father.
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Hahaha, I know what you mean. Some people just really like to kick you when you are down. They think it reinforces the lesson or something. But sometimes all it does is erode your confidence in an area.
 
SoulTax said:
Hahaha, I know what you mean. Some people just really like to kick you when you are down. They think it reinforces the lesson or something. But sometimes all it does is erode your confidence in an area.
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There is kicking a person (usually a good mate) when they're down when they can see the humour, and understand it and it doesn't negatively impact them...

But most people really do not seem to understand that sometimes people need support rather than criticism when things aren't going well for them.
 
ice_cubes said:
I just hope you decide to stay separated & dont cave into family pressure...or that *couples therapy BS*
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My main reason why I am staying away from family now. I will only approach them when I am over the worst and can think straight.
 
headache said:
yes its a cultural obligation unfortunately. if we were not married i would be out of the door. but i cant just pack and go. Just as his parents/uncles were involved when we got married. they have to be involved when we are dropping each other off this journey. consulting the parents is a way of building a case, so that when i finally leave, there is already reasons put forward and its clear I have tried to make it work. same goes with him. If i give him issues in the marriage, he first has to inform my parents/uncles before running to the courts.
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What culture are we talking about here?
 
I'm glad that you tried to work things out, that you gave it a chance because no one can ever say that you didn't and that brings some strange comfort to during your time of healing. Be strong, be the wolf and stand proud because you didn't accept second best. We still here, we can help get you through the rough days until you are strong enough to stand up to the family.

Big squishy virtual hugs to you and smacking high five to sticking to your moral code!
 
an Update:

It’s been few months since my decision to end my union with him. Best decision of my life. I am happier and at peace.

Yesterday as I was going on with my life as usually, around 8 am. I get a WhatsApp text from him. A Picture of a Ferrari that he posted on his FB and screen shot it to send to me. I have deleted him from my FB so he figured since i can’t see what he does on FB he will WhatsApp me. Anyway so this Ferrari pic with some girl and a status reading “should i buy or not buy? my banker is gonna kill me".
That picture was followed by more pictures of different women, meals form different restaurants, couple of pula notes. With every picture that he sent, it got more ridiculous with comments like "since i left you, I am more successful", " I bought a factory and i am a wealthy man now." this went on from 8 o'clock till 11 am. Stopped for a while and started again at 3pm. with every text sounding more ridiculous than the previous one. it got to a point that he stopped calling me by my name and calling me Poor. Like “You were not contributing anything to my life Poor”. “That's what some of us wealthy men do poor” (this was accompanied by a pic of muffin from Mugg n Bean.) and a pic of Gucci Store taken from a distance. LOL

I thought of blocking him but I decided it’s more fun watching him go crazy. The whole day he texted me without a response from me. I have never laughed so hard. I think he is either on drugs or has gone crazy. But either way Karma has visited!!!
 
He sounds insecure, and ripe for the picking by a gold digger.

Ask him for a dick pic, and then forward it to his family.
 
headache said:
an Update:

It’s been few months since my decision to end my union with him. Best decision of my life. I am happier and at peace.

Yesterday as I was going on with my life as usually, around 8 am. I get a WhatsApp text from him. A Picture of a Ferrari that he posted on his FB and screen shot it to send to me. I have deleted him from my FB so he figured since i can’t see what he does on FB he will WhatsApp me. Anyway so this Ferrari pic with some girl and a status reading “should i buy or not buy? my banker is gonna kill me".
That picture was followed by more pictures of different women, meals form different restaurants, couple of pula notes. With every picture that he sent, it got more ridiculous with comments like "since i left you, I am more successful", " I bought a factory and i am a wealthy man now." this went on from 8 o'clock till 11 am. Stopped for a while and started again at 3pm. with every text sounding more ridiculous than the previous one. it got to a point that he stopped calling me by my name and calling me Poor. Like “You were not contributing anything to my life Poor”. “That's what some of us wealthy men do poor” (this was accompanied by a pic of muffin from Mugg n Bean.) and a pic of Gucci Store taken from a distance. LOL

I thought of blocking him but I decided it’s more fun watching him go crazy. The whole day he texted me without a response from me. I have never laughed so hard. I think he is either on drugs or has gone crazy. But either way Karma has visited!!!
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Haha what a tosser.
 
“That's what some of us wealthy men do poor” (this was accompanied by a pic of muffin from Mugg n Bean.)
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Really? Even UsernameLadiesMan217 can afford Mugg & Bean.
 
Ninja'd said:
Really? Even UsernameLadiesMan217 can afford Mugg & Bean.
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This
satanboy said:
But can he afford a muffin?
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Hell why not it's almost christmas


@op this is some wtf level ****
Didn't know you get men this ****ed up in life.

As for him messaging you, he's obviously jaded as **** and insecure. He can't handle the fact that you left him and he's only messaging you because he wants you back.

**** him he's a piece of **** bleagh

Thanks for the update though it makes me feel 100x better about this low life ****chimney ugh
 
headache said:
an Update:

It’s been few months since my decision to end my union with him. Best decision of my life. I am happier and at peace.

Yesterday as I was going on with my life as usually, around 8 am. I get a WhatsApp text from him. A Picture of a Ferrari that he posted on his FB and screen shot it to send to me. I have deleted him from my FB so he figured since i can’t see what he does on FB he will WhatsApp me. Anyway so this Ferrari pic with some girl and a status reading “should i buy or not buy? my banker is gonna kill me".
That picture was followed by more pictures of different women, meals form different restaurants, couple of pula notes. With every picture that he sent, it got more ridiculous with comments like "since i left you, I am more successful", " I bought a factory and i am a wealthy man now." this went on from 8 o'clock till 11 am. Stopped for a while and started again at 3pm. with every text sounding more ridiculous than the previous one. it got to a point that he stopped calling me by my name and calling me Poor. Like “You were not contributing anything to my life Poor”. “That's what some of us wealthy men do poor” (this was accompanied by a pic of muffin from Mugg n Bean.) and a pic of Gucci Store taken from a distance. LOL

I thought of blocking him but I decided it’s more fun watching him go crazy. The whole day he texted me without a response from me. I have never laughed so hard. I think he is either on drugs or has gone crazy. But either way Karma has visited!!!
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Priceless.

Douchebaggery summed right up!
 
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