this might get lengthy. be warned!
I have had it good in the last year. A new job, good salary, no debts, good family and a new marriage. However everything seems to be falling apart in the past week.
Let me give you a bit of a background. I have a child with my ex-husband and he is not helping me financially. My current husband is against filing for maintenance. His argument being, the child will grow up and make their own decision and see the truth. Which is all okay but the fact that the ex-husband is reaping all the benefits of having a child without losing any cent is killing me inside. Being a good wife, I can’t go behind my husband’s back and file for maintenance against the ex-husband. I have tried to reason with my husband about this but he is not budging. Every time the ex-fetches the child for the weekend, I die a little inside. Don’t get me wrong I have no feelings towards this ex, but he is living large, driving a new car every year. While we have to sacrifice to put the child through school and all other responsibilities that comes with having a child.
Another thing that is weighing me down is my husband. He is cheating. How do I know? In the past few weeks he has been acting strange. He is a business man, and in the few years that I have known him, he has never worked till late. Or had late meetings. Although that could explain why his business was suffering. In the past week, he partnered with a new partner and he has been signing new deals with this partner. Getting more business. Which is all great because there is more money coming in. however, he is working late. And doesn’t even sleep home some nights. This past weekend was his birthday, to be specific on Saturday. Friday he came back from work at around 1am (Saturday morning). Claiming that his friends took him out for a pre birthday dinner. Then come Saturday he had a funeral to go to. And he used my car to go there. I made plans to go celebrate his birthday with him, but he never returned. We spoke throughout the day and he was planning to come fetch me. But he never pitched. I had to cancel my dinner plans because he wasn’t picking up my calls anymore. The whole night I called, and he was on and off whatsapp but not taking my calls or responding to my messages. Sunday morning came and I had no means of transport, because he was still out with my car while his was left at his office. And he was still ignoring my calls still. I had to end up inventing a story about the child being sick and in need of going to hospital. And that’s when he decided to pick up and told me his friends are busy planning a braai for him and he will only come afterwards. When I (lied) about the critical condition of the child, he then decided to rush home. And that’s how I managed to get my car back. After a huge argument I drove him to his office to fetch his car and off I went to enjoy myself with the girls. Last night he only came back at 10pm.
I found two sealed condom boxes in my car. And I went through his phone (yes its wrong but I had to know) and found “thanks for dinner smses” from this one girl, that were sent on Friday. (The Friday that he told me his friends were taking him out). He decided to spend his birthday with his new girlfriend instead of us. His family is also upset that he wasn’t with them on his birthday, they probably think he was with me but nope he wasn’t.
Not even labour pains can be compared to the pain that I am in right now. But at the same time I am not sure who the source of the pain is. The free ride ex husband or the cheating husband. I haven’t slept well in days. I have this terrible tension headache. I have even lost count of how many adcodols I have taken this weekend only.
Thanks for reading, I needed to let it all out. Maybe I will feel better afterwards. Maybe not.
I have had it good in the last year. A new job, good salary, no debts, good family and a new marriage. However everything seems to be falling apart in the past week.
Let me give you a bit of a background. I have a child with my ex-husband and he is not helping me financially. My current husband is against filing for maintenance. His argument being, the child will grow up and make their own decision and see the truth. Which is all okay but the fact that the ex-husband is reaping all the benefits of having a child without losing any cent is killing me inside. Being a good wife, I can’t go behind my husband’s back and file for maintenance against the ex-husband. I have tried to reason with my husband about this but he is not budging. Every time the ex-fetches the child for the weekend, I die a little inside. Don’t get me wrong I have no feelings towards this ex, but he is living large, driving a new car every year. While we have to sacrifice to put the child through school and all other responsibilities that comes with having a child.
Another thing that is weighing me down is my husband. He is cheating. How do I know? In the past few weeks he has been acting strange. He is a business man, and in the few years that I have known him, he has never worked till late. Or had late meetings. Although that could explain why his business was suffering. In the past week, he partnered with a new partner and he has been signing new deals with this partner. Getting more business. Which is all great because there is more money coming in. however, he is working late. And doesn’t even sleep home some nights. This past weekend was his birthday, to be specific on Saturday. Friday he came back from work at around 1am (Saturday morning). Claiming that his friends took him out for a pre birthday dinner. Then come Saturday he had a funeral to go to. And he used my car to go there. I made plans to go celebrate his birthday with him, but he never returned. We spoke throughout the day and he was planning to come fetch me. But he never pitched. I had to cancel my dinner plans because he wasn’t picking up my calls anymore. The whole night I called, and he was on and off whatsapp but not taking my calls or responding to my messages. Sunday morning came and I had no means of transport, because he was still out with my car while his was left at his office. And he was still ignoring my calls still. I had to end up inventing a story about the child being sick and in need of going to hospital. And that’s when he decided to pick up and told me his friends are busy planning a braai for him and he will only come afterwards. When I (lied) about the critical condition of the child, he then decided to rush home. And that’s how I managed to get my car back. After a huge argument I drove him to his office to fetch his car and off I went to enjoy myself with the girls. Last night he only came back at 10pm.
I found two sealed condom boxes in my car. And I went through his phone (yes its wrong but I had to know) and found “thanks for dinner smses” from this one girl, that were sent on Friday. (The Friday that he told me his friends were taking him out). He decided to spend his birthday with his new girlfriend instead of us. His family is also upset that he wasn’t with them on his birthday, they probably think he was with me but nope he wasn’t.
Not even labour pains can be compared to the pain that I am in right now. But at the same time I am not sure who the source of the pain is. The free ride ex husband or the cheating husband. I haven’t slept well in days. I have this terrible tension headache. I have even lost count of how many adcodols I have taken this weekend only.
Thanks for reading, I needed to let it all out. Maybe I will feel better afterwards. Maybe not.
