I don't dance.

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I can't and I won't.

So ... I was invited into going to a typical Afrikaans dance club with a female colleague. We came via separate cars. She went with a girl friend.

We partied at her friend's place earlier this evening and the evening would have ended up very peachy if it hadn't been for her overbearing drive to ... dance.

Anyway, we got the club and continued chatting very nicely. We are close colleagues and naturally close friends (we all are), I know her most of her most intimate secrets.

But while we were talking her attention was diverted to another guy who wanted to dance with her. She's got her own free will so she skidded off to dance with him, at which point I downed my drink and left.

And here I am, 15 minutes later, posting this post.





This is the story of my life.

There are a few things I can not do ... and those things have had, and continue to have, a critical affect on my life ... and I can not compensate for it.
 
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Was in a similar situation, however things progressed well for a few weeks, then suddenly like BAM it was like I murdered someone. She moved on to a friend of mine and same thing, BAM they broke up. Now shes trying to date another older dude.....

After about a month I was just like, you know what, the friendship I have with her is not worth sacrificing over stupid feelings. I will still stand in front of a gun for this person even to this day, and I've really got to suppress my feelings for her.

Basically I would rather have a strong friendship than nothing at all. Must say I can now understand why when people who develop feelings for one another break apart need to stop contact for a while....
 
Picard said:
I can't and I won't.

So ... I was invited into going to a typical Afrikaans dance club with a female colleague. We came via separate cars. She went with a girl friend.

We partied at her friend's place earlier this evening and the evening would have ended up very peachy if it hadn't been for her overbearing drive to ... dance.

Anyway, we got the club and continued chatting very nicely. We are close colleagues and naturally close friends (we all are), I know her most of her most intimate secrets.

But while we were talking her attention was diverted to another guy who wanted to dance with her. She's got her own free will so she skidded off to dance with him, at which point I downed my drink and left.

And here I am, 15 minutes later, posting this post.





This is the story of my life.

There are a few things I can not do ... and those things have had, and continue to have, a critical affect on my life ... and I can not compensate for it.
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Well dancing is pretty lame if you haven't had enough drinks, I wouldn't harbor too much on it she's probably not worth it running off with another guy and all that. Shrug her off and save yourself the butthurt she's waving around.
 
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It's not your dancing dude, If she wanted to be with you she would have stayed and hanged on to every word you speak. Woman know who they want to be with.
But unfortunately it sounds like your in the ZONE!!! the friend zone

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They invited you because they feel safe around you she even tells you all her secrets. Does she also say things like
"why cant I ever find a nice guy like you"??
 
Picard said:
I can't and I won't.

So ... I was invited into going to a typical Afrikaans dance club with a female colleague. We came via separate cars. She went with a girl friend.

We partied at her friend's place earlier this evening and the evening would have ended up very peachy if it hadn't been for her overbearing drive to ... dance.

Anyway, we got the club and continued chatting very nicely. We are close colleagues and naturally close friends (we all are), I know her most of her most intimate secrets.

But while we were talking her attention was diverted to another guy who wanted to dance with her. She's got her own free will so she skidded off to dance with him, at which point I downed my drink and left.

And here I am, 15 minutes later, posting this post.





This is the story of my life.

There are a few things I can not do ... and those things have had, and continue to have, a critical affect on my life ... and I can not compensate for it.
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I used to be in this situation, except for the fact, that I actually wish I could dance. At one point in my life I just decided, you know what, I need to learn to dance, and signed up at a ballroom/latin dance studio. It wasn't the same as the afrikaans langarm sokkie thing, but it was loads of fun! It also introduced me to many new people and friends and gave my social new life if you can put it like that.

Looking back, best thing I have ever done, was to learn to dance. So much so, that I actually believe, dance is something every guy should learn to do, because it give you back much more than just the ability to dance.

Beerisgood said:
Well dancing is pretty lame if you haven't had enough drinks, I wouldn't harbor too much on it she's probably not worth it running off with another guy and all that. Shrug her off and save yourself the butthurt she's waving around.
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Thankfully, I disagree with this. Dancing is a great social time. More fun than sitting around, drinking and puffing and making silly jokes.
 
I don't dance.
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Neither do I. But then I'm not constantly seeking female approval either. If I was, I'd damn sure learn how to because dem hoes luv dat shït.

Picard said:
I can't and I won't.

So ... I was invited into going to a typical Afrikaans dance club with a female colleague.
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Like such a thing even exists anymore. This is SOUTH AFRICA ffs, don't you DARE suggest any South African things exist where people talk South African. Don't come here with your South African tendencies.

But the ridiculous state of affairs aside:

God dammit Picard, how much more of this **** are you going to take? How long are you going to continue being an emotional tampon for women, listening to their bull**** only to have them run off to rock some ******* dude's world? Singing Kumbaya and listening to intimate secret crap that you know, and they know you don't care about? How old are you already, what more have you got to lose?

Start here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVLUa0I009s
 
fish_man said:
It's not your dancing dude, If she wanted to be with you she would have stayed and hanged on to every word you speak. Woman know who they want to be with.
But unfortunately it sounds like your in the ZONE!!! the friend


They invited you because they feel safe around you she even tells you all her secrets. Does she also say things like
"why cant I ever find a nice guy like you"??
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This.

When a girl is into you is doesn't matter if the guy can dance like Patrick Swazy she will continue to talk with you.
 
Tinuva said:
I used to be in this situation, except for the fact, that I actually wish I could dance. At one point in my life I just decided, you know what, I need to learn to dance, and signed up at a ballroom/latin dance studio. It wasn't the same as the afrikaans langarm sokkie thing, but it was loads of fun! It also introduced me to many new people and friends and gave my social new life if you can put it like that.

Looking back, best thing I have ever done, was to learn to dance. So much so, that I actually believe, dance is something every guy should learn to do, because it give you back much more than just the ability to dance.


Thankfully, I disagree with this. Dancing is a great social time. More fun than sitting around, drinking and puffing and making silly jokes.
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Same here.

I used to dislike dancing, but after trying to dance a few times with my girlfriend (now wife) we started taking ballroom/latin American dance lessons.

This is in my opinion one of the best things I have ever done.

Now when going out to social events we can actually dance and even get compliments. Also boosted my self confidence when dancing.

And its a great way to lose weight. You will be surprised how fast an hour goes by when dancing.
 
Life's a dance. Learn the moves. It'll bring you more joy than you expect. And women love doing it with you.

Don't be like the Irishman who said "I'll never go inta the water until I've learned howta swim."
 
No He ain't no friend of mine joke references yet?
 
I don't dance, unless I am really drunk. Since I don't drink any more, that boat has sailed.

Then there was the one time at a trance party when people kept asking me to move away from them. :o
 
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