I don't dance.

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One, two, three, step .. one, two three, step.

See it's easy!
 
When in doubt just crunk.

[video=youtube;KetgSu5zlP4]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KetgSu5zlP4[/video]
 
Self-conciseness is a major problem that needs to be dealt with for one to progress in life. Pointless just been bemoaning your fate because you can over come it. I can't really dance and certainly not formal styles but, I'll give it a go which is usually enough to be able to have fun with women. On the other hand I do have rhythm so my mad improvised moves generally get me lots of the good kind of attention.

But, really women just enjoy being around men who are willing to have fun and don't give a **** what people think. You've got to take the initial risk of making a fool of yourself in public. After that having fun is easy.
 
Picard said:
I can't and I won't.

So ... I was invited into going to a [-]typical Afrikaans dance[/-] club with a female colleague. [-]We came via separate cars.[/-] She went with a girl friend.

We partied at her friend's place earlier this evening and the evening would have ended up very peachy if it [-]hadn't been for her overbearing drive to ... dance.[/-]

Anyway, we got the club and continued chatting very nicely. We are close colleagues and naturally close friends (we all are), I know her most of her most intimate secrets.

But while we were talking[-] her attention was diverted to another guy who wanted to dance with her. She's got her own free will so she skidded off to dance with him, at which point I downed my drink and left.[/-]

And here I am, 15 minutes later, posting this post.



This is the story of my life.

There are a few things I can not do ... and those things have had, and continue to have, a critical affect on my life ... and I can not compensate for it.
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Picard, there are a lot of things in the story that could be different. We all have our different views on the matter but i awnt to share some things i've found.

you know this girl/woman. for a lot of people the attraction starts BEFORE you go out that door to meet them. that is why they're arranging to meet with you.

attraction is gradual. you can't pop onto the dance floor, pulls moves like John Travolta and expect her to like you other than your dancing. what a lot of people find attractive is confidence, and you don't need to get up and dance to be confident, you could have even sat on the side having a conversation with people around you and she would have come back and noticed your confidence with strangers.

some members here can't dance at all. some members have been compared to epileptic ragdolls and squids on fire, but they're swimming in ponani.

i think the issue is bigger than dancing. i also cannot dance and i will never voluntarily go out and bust moves to impress people, but be silly, laugh at yourself, make people happy and talk talk talk, that is all you need to do in my eyes
 
Sometimes you just have to be the boss of dancing :

[video=youtube;SV_dJSS3mI8]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SV_dJSS3mI8[/video]
 
Also the original for extra inspiration :
jump to 3:16
[video=youtube;p6Eaz-1_3iA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6Eaz-1_3iA&feature=player_detailpage#t=196[/video]
 
Bobbin said:
I don't like dancing at all. I don't feel the need to express myself in such a..."primitive"...for lack of a better word... fashion.

Dancing is supposed to be suggestive. Like a mating ritual that animals might do. Anything else is just mindless moving of the body, some might call "letting go"...for what?

I don't want to express sexual innuendos in public among friends and family and I certainly don't have the need to have a "fit" to whatever beats per second is playing. It makes me feel silly.

<insert grumpy cat> :D

That said, I have to dance as best man at a wedding soon. *sigh
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Dancing is simply fun. It's not primarily suggestive or expressive. It's mindless but in a good way - like, why must everything be a cerebral activity? The best times you have dancing are when you switch off and forget about anyone else around you.
 
STS said:
i think the issue is bigger than dancing. i also cannot dance and i will never voluntarily go out and bust moves to impress people, but be silly, laugh at yourself, make people happy and talk talk talk, that is all you need to do in my eyes
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I agree, which is why we will still do things together in the near future.

This thread was just created out of frustration at the time which was in the middle of the night. Things were much clearer the next morning.
 
I love dancing but I'm the only one who thinks I got moves :(
 
Picard said:
But while we were talking her attention was diverted to another guy who wanted to dance with her. She's got her own free will so she skidded off to dance with him, at which point I downed my drink and left.

And here I am, 15 minutes later, posting this post.





This is the story of my life.

There are a few things I can not do ... and those things have had, and continue to have, a critical affect on my life ... and I can not compensate for it.
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You came to cry here on myBB? Jeez! You're worse than a woman on her period!
 
STS said:
Picard, there are a lot of things in the story that could be different. We all have our different views on the matter but i awnt to share some things i've found.

you know this girl/woman. for a lot of people the attraction starts BEFORE you go out that door to meet them. that is why they're arranging to meet with you.

attraction is gradual. you can't pop onto the dance floor, pulls moves like John Travolta and expect her to like you other than your dancing. what a lot of people find attractive is confidence, and you don't need to get up and dance to be confident, you could have even sat on the side having a conversation with people around you and she would have come back and noticed your confidence with strangers.

some members here can't dance at all. some members have been compared to epileptic ragdolls and squids on fire, but they're swimming in ponani.

i think the issue is bigger than dancing. i also cannot dance and i will never voluntarily go out and bust moves to impress people, but be silly, laugh at yourself, make people happy and talk talk talk, that is all you need to do in my eyes
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Well put.

Confidence = only single requirement to be successful with women. Just go with it, even if you can't do it to save your life, have fun, they have fun with you.
 
Tinuva said:
Confidence = only single requirement to be successful with women.
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One doesn't just wake up with confidence though.
Maybe sometimes, I guess. But not everyone has it easy when it comes to confidence.
 
googoodoll said:
One doesn't just wake up with confidence though.
Maybe sometimes, I guess. But not everyone has it easy when it comes to confidence.
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Which is why it's the single most important factor for anyone without confidence to work on.
 
Correct, confidence like any other attribute that humans have, is something you can work on and improve. It will improve your life as a whole.
 
Nick333 said:
Which is why it's the single most important factor for anyone without confidence to work on.
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And extremely difficult to work on by sitting at home reading books & watching how-to videos.
 
listen here, everyone can dance. if that dude who sings gangam whatever can dance that ridiculous dance, then everyone has a chance at looking better and dancing better than him.
 
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