Is everybody so "complex"?

Beachless said:
The aim is to get comfortable with who you are and that you have flaws like everyone else then you can live with jokes being made at your expense and not take it so personally.

Just be who you are and dont worry about other peoples issues.
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Thank you for trying to be constructive, but it's not that easy unfortunately.

There's just too much. I've lost too much. I've been broken too much. I'm not in a state of self pity, far from it, but it's physically and mentally impossible for me to just switch on the 'get over it' button.

It will take a few years. It took me almost 5 years to become human again after diagnosis and medicated reaction. Took me 2 years after I left my meds for a year to get back into the meds and function 'normal' again. It will take me realistically speaking another 3 years to become a self respecting, comfortable in my own skin individual that doesn't feel like the whole world is judging me constantly.

I am heading there, albeit slowly. I'm not psycho analyzing my life, but my meds give me the ability to reflect upon on my actions after a long day and see, oh, you did that wrong, try that next time, or you will never be able to do that, so rather focus on this etc.

Anyway. I've said enough. Nukefission, stop freaking out and have a cup of tea and a cigarette. Life's colourful with interesting folks like us around. We always get told to shut it, but who cares.
 
BobsLawnService said:
A lot of us are f**ked up in our own special way. A lot of us aren't. A lot of us are truly happy. A lot of us aren't.

There is no point to it all. We just are.
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Fair enough,but like I said,I cant stop thinking
jingaling said:
...with our own brand of awesomeness. :D
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Agreed,being awesome is awesome!
|tera| said:
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I am heading there, albeit slowly. I'm not psycho analyzing my life, but my meds give me the ability to reflect upon on my actions after a long day and see, oh, you did that wrong, try that next time, or you will never be able to do that, so rather focus on this etc.

Anyway. I've said enough. Nukefission, stop freaking out and have a cup of tea and a cigarette. Life's colourful with interesting folks like us around. We always get told to shut it, but who cares.
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ZOMG you are like an older version of me....I`m well aware that my delusions are just delusions and the world isnt actually so,but its far from a simple switch I can just turn off.
Agreed,its awesome being me(usually)

side note for statistically "normal" people,whats the difference between arrogance and confidence?
 
BobsLawnService said:
A lot of us are f**ked up in our own special way. A lot of us aren't. A lot of us are truly happy. A lot of us aren't.

There is no point to it all. We just are.
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As we all know, we are the masters of our own destinies on earth. No act or circumstance can hurt you mentally. You can only hurt yourself. Such is the curse of the human mind. As we have seen across the mental spectrum from Apartheid to abuse victims and the like, there is no kill switch. People can not simply get over deep set emotional trauma.

I am very interested in this field, and in my observations I have noticed that there are two distinct personality types when it comes to dealing with emotions: Those who can let go, and those who do not know how to let go. I am lucky enough to be able to write off bad experiences and carry on without letting them affect me adversely, but in the same breath I have had what I see as a normal life thus far. As such, I may not be able to relate closely to your exact circumstances, but I have had intimate relationships with people who have faced very challenging circumstances over long durations.

I think that if you want to take charge and win the battle in your mind, you need to know that there is no quick fix on a message board or in a pharmacy. Set yourself a goal, just a small one, like a stepping stone. Work towards this, and see what follows. At risk of discrediting myself, meditate on it. Not the whole ummmmm shebang, just sit in the dark before you go to sleep and think about how this particular obstacle is holding you back and hindering your happiness. If I want to overcome something that is bugging me, I rationalise it in my head. If there is nothing positive which could come from this thing, why would I want it whizzing around my head? Everybody wants a happy, simple life. So why hang onto all the negativity?

I know how you feel wrt being unable to get your feelings down on a page OP. But, That is why the only person that can resolve your issues is you. This post is just the stuff that popped into my head too. I hope it brings some kind of benefit to someone. For what it's worth, I have recently found meditation to be a very powerful psychological tool if you approach it with the right mindset. With time I really hope that you can conquer your complexities and find peace. Everyone deserves to be happy.
 
nukefission said:
I`m in the process of trying to get rid of my delusions...

Common stuff we all know
Everybody is unique
Everybody is damaged
Everybody is different
pretty common?

Me only? a few others too
I was abused a child
I was diagnosed with a number of mental issues
I was bullied
I was 'gifted' academically
I`m crazy(that`s what people say)

As a result I`m delusional,paranoid,insane,eccentric,etc I think

which is not so common....does that mean most of the population("the normal") hasn`t gone through what I have?(yes?)
statistically speaking,most of the population isn`t similar to me then?
thus most of the people I interact with("the normal") aren`t in the same mental space as me?
thus I shouldn`t talk to them expecting them to understand what goes on inside my head?
thus I don`t have to behave as if they think the same way as I do?

I think my issue is with theory of mind(tl;dr what I think isn't the same as everybody else thinks)
empathy too...

There are people out there with similar or even worse circumstances than mine
and they also have this "complexity"
but everyone deals with stuff differently...

note:complex isn`t the right word,but I`m using it as a substitute for the concept I`m thinking of
p.s. I find it hard to put my thoughts into words

All comment and input is appreciated
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Greatest myths on earth.

We Are Not Unique: There are more things in life we have in common than are different. We are all sexual beings, experiencing similar emotions, dreams, and love. We all wonder: what is my purpose in life? Why am I here? We are not (truly) unique.
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This one has bipolar and that one has anorexia and that one is bulimic and the one over there is depressed and this one is psychotic and this one has PTSD and that one has ADHD and this one has claustrophobia while that one has agoraphobia and then she is schizophrenic and he is obsessive compulsive and she is and addict and he is a pervert and that one is a sociopath and this one is a compulsive liar while that one is a kleptomaniac and look at the aspergers kid and the add kids and, oh look, anxiety disorder and body dysmorphic disorder.

You're completely normal, which is to say, according to some, we all have disorders of one sort or another (or will have disorders at some point in our lives, if not yet)

You're human. Vulnerable, sensitive, adaptive and tough.
 
NO you're not unique
You got problems because you want problems

I ain't got jack because I don't let jack bother me. I act on what I feel now and right now I want chocolate so chocolate it is, later I'll want lunch... I think it will be chicken. That's the extent of my problems figuring out what I want now and how to get it.

You keep thinking about some "damage" you might have had way back when... why not think about whats for lunch or if you put the Castle Lites in the fridge because that's a major concern! No one likes warm Castle lite!

You over complicate life meanwhile you don't enjoy it because you drink warm beer because of your own stupidity.
 
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Vegeta said:
NO you're not unique
You got problems because you want problems

I ain't got jack because I don't let jack bother me. I act on what I feel now and right now I want chocolate so chocolate it is, later I'll want lunch... I think it will be chicken. That's the extent of my problems figuring out what I want now and how to get it.

You keep thinking about some "damage" you might have had way back when... why not think about whats for lunch
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I take it you are quite young?
 
Vegeta said:
Not young at all, probably older than most here. Its the young ones that harp on about their emo sheat
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I agree about the young emo thing, but it is unusual to go through life without being damaged in some way at some point - without being hurt and scarred in some way.

Perhaps if you've led a very sheltered life, it's possible.

Or perhaps the damage done to you is indicated by your lack of empathy and compassion, this could be as a result of the hardships and hurt you've experienced in life.
 
nukefission- what is the purpose of trying to rid yourself of your "delusions"? And what makes them "delusions"?
 
Being "Normal" is a relative term, even when looking from a psychological view.

Attempt to look at the bright side off things, well that's what i am trying at least. If you are a complex person...it is just what you are.

I have a friend that's always into complex people, but do not understand why they have such complex issues.

It is simple, see what i did there :D ... simple people = simple issues
complex people = complex issues
 
Look most people will go through some hardship or the other. As soon as you realize that you actually understand that its in fact very NORMAL to have crappy things happen to you. It's also normal to have awesome things happen to you every now and again.

You don't act all "damaged" about the awesome things right? Why not understand that life is all about balance. Your dad beats you close to death as a child but as an adult you meet the most beautiful woman in the world that actually wants to marry you and give you beautiful young ones. To harp on and always live your life according to the bad things is not only ungrateful but it eliminates your ability to enjoy the amazing things.
 
Vegeta said:
NO you're not unique
You got problems because you want problems

I ain't got jack because I don't let jack bother me. I act on what I feel now and right now I want chocolate so chocolate it is, later I'll want lunch... I think it will be chicken. That's the extent of my problems figuring out what I want now and how to get it.

You keep thinking about some "damage" you might have had way back when... why not think about whats for lunch or if you put the Castle Lites in the fridge because that's a major concern! No one likes warm Castle lite!

You over complicate life meanwhile you don't enjoy it because you drink warm beer because of your own stupidity.
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Wish it was that easy
 
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