Is everybody so "complex"?

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I`m in the process of trying to get rid of my delusions...

Common stuff we all know
Everybody is unique
Everybody is damaged
Everybody is different
pretty common?

Me only? a few others too
I was abused a child
I was diagnosed with a number of mental issues
I was bullied
I was 'gifted' academically
I`m crazy(that`s what people say)

As a result I`m delusional,paranoid,insane,eccentric,etc I think

which is not so common....does that mean most of the population("the normal") hasn`t gone through what I have?(yes?)
statistically speaking,most of the population isn`t similar to me then?
thus most of the people I interact with("the normal") aren`t in the same mental space as me?
thus I shouldn`t talk to them expecting them to understand what goes on inside my head?
thus I don`t have to behave as if they think the same way as I do?

I think my issue is with theory of mind(tl;dr what I think isn't the same as everybody else thinks)
empathy too...

There are people out there with similar or even worse circumstances than mine
and they also have this "complexity"
but everyone deals with stuff differently...

note:complex isn`t the right word,but I`m using it as a substitute for the concept I`m thinking of
p.s. I find it hard to put my thoughts into words

All comment and input is appreciated
 
Move the damaged to uncommon. Not everyone is damaged.

I would say the only common denominator between people is that we're all pretty unique.
 
People like being 'damaged'. That's not to say there aren't people who have 'problems', there are just generally a lot of people who like making themselves out to have problems.
 
Most of my friends had issues in their childhood...

abuse mostly

I wonder if there is anyone without it...
 
Freaksta said:
Move the damaged to uncommon. Not everyone is damaged.

I would say the only common denominator between people is that we're all pretty unique.
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Oh,But I`ve noticed things in people that would indicate mild "damage"
care to elaborate on what is "undamaged"?
Pooky said:
People like being 'damaged'. That's not to say there aren't people who have 'problems', there are just generally a lot of people who like making themselves out to have problems.
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I agree
I think in my head 'damage' might mean something else than you guys
damage = something that has happened that causes a person to react really differently to a specific input(like shooting a spider because you`re scared of spiders)

satanboy said:
Most of my friends had issues in their childhood...

abuse mostly

I wonder if there is anyone without it...
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THIS IS WHAT I MEAN
I wonder if there is anyone without it...
BUT
the difference is that people react and deal with it differently?
 
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Your thread and words are my life as some may know.

What happened to you, happened to me too. What you were diagnosed with, so were I.

So let me expand.

I can't articulate my feelings or thoughts either. I have difficulty sometimes at work explaining different problems to colleagues and get 'rushed' or 'hushed' along, sometimes I get pointed at and laughed at.

I work in an extremely professional environment and have a managerial position, so I'm no pushover either.

What I've learned these past few weeks is this: go with it.

Be the laughing stock, but don't be a clown. Be professional at all times. But if you (I) don't have the correct words to say, then say what comes to mind and say it and be done with it. Did I just sip my juice and cough and it went into the wrong hole? Yes. Well say it as it is. Don't sugar coat it.

I think that's our mistake. Our minds are wired different and no matter how much counseling or consultation we get to tell us to try to get us to 'fit' in and let us know we are normal, we aren't. We just aren't.

I have no doubt about it. We think logical. We think straightforward. We actually think quite sober when everyone is quite wasted. When they forget, we remember. So on and so on.

It's a learning curve. I'm 29. Diagnosed for 5 or 6 years. It's new to me too. So I'm also learning to breathe. Give me the gap to do so.
 
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satanboy said:
Most of my friends had issues in their childhood...

abuse mostly

I wonder if there is anyone without it...
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We have touched on this before years ago but for older members the biggest damage we can suffer imo is conscription. Fighting for a bs cause that wasn't ours to begin with. And then being judged for it later. By ourselves. By others. By the system. By acrimonious threads here.
 
You're fine !
Stop trying to over analyze yourself or you will eventually find a problem you never actually had.
From being a self described "awkward penguin" (if my memory is any good) you seem to have embraced & adapted to your new environment pretty painlessly.
 
GreGorGy said:
We have touched on this before years ago but for older members the biggest damage we can suffer imo is conscription. Fighting for a bs cause that wasn't ours to begin with. And then being judged for it later. By ourselves. By others. By the system. By acrimonious threads here.
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+1
 
GreGorGy said:
We have touched on this before years ago but for older members the biggest damage we can suffer imo is conscription.
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Ooh
That one pains me, not for the conscription part, but the for the fact that I was writing my memoirs - regards killing someone - moments before completing & submitting my "dissertation" RPM went & locked the thread :D
 
Hamster said:
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Everybody is special,Everybody is unique,some are useful
GreGorGy said:
We have touched on this before years ago but for older members the biggest damage we can suffer imo is conscription. Fighting for a bs cause that wasn't ours to begin with. And then being judged for it later. By ourselves. By others. By the system. By acrimonious threads here.
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Derp
|tera| said:
Your thread and words are my life as some may know.

What happened to you, happened to me too. What you were diagnosed with, so were I.

So let me expand.

I can't articulate my feelings or thoughts either. I have difficulty sometimes at work explaining different problems to colleagues and get 'rushed' or 'hushed' along, sometimes I get pointed at and laughed at.

I work in an extremely professional environment and have a managerial position, so I'm no pushover either.

What I've learned these past few weeks is this: go with it.

Be the laughing stock, but don't be a clown. Be professional at all times. But if you (I) don't have the correct words to say, then say what comes to mind and say it and be done with it. Did I just sip my juice and cough and it went into the wrong hole? Yes. Well say it as it is. Don't sugar coat it.

I think that's our mistake. Our minds are wired different and no matter how much counseling or consultation we get to tell us to try to get us to 'fit' in and let us know we are normal, we aren't. We just aren't.

I have no doubt about it. We think logical. We think straightforward. We actually think quite sober when everyone is quite wasted. When they forget, we remember. So on and so on.

It's a learning curve. I'm 29. Diagnosed for 5 or 6 years. It's new to me too. So I'm also learning to breathe. Give me the gap to do so.
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Nice post,need to read properly

grantza said:
You're fine !
Stop trying to over analyze yourself or you will eventually find a problem you never actually had.
From being a self described "awkward penguin" (if my memory is any good) you seem to have embraced & adapted to your new environment pretty painlessly.
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Thats the issue,I cant stop thinking,I LITERALLY have to analyze something
I`m still SAP under certain conditions.I`ve dealt with it mostly.
now I`m trying to get rid of my delusions,but then again everybody is deluded

Question,if Everybody is unique and special,then what is this statistical "normal" that most of the population fits into?
There is no reality,only what is perceived...
 
|tera| said:
Your thread and words are my life as some may know.

What happened to you, happened to me too. What you were diagnosed with, so were I.
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The aim is to get comfortable with who you are and that you have flaws like everyone else then you can live with jokes being made at your expense and not take it so personally.

Just be who you are and dont worry about other peoples issues.
 
satanboy said:
Most of my friends had issues in their childhood...

abuse mostly

I wonder if there is anyone without it...
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RE damaged, I would not consider myself damaged? Unless I've completely blocked something out in my childhood which I doubt.

Maybe someone can explain more about damaged? I had a great childhood, had an awesome time at school, progressed through varisty as usual and now working towards a career!(22) so I guess I'm still young?

I have a really positive outlook on life, pretty much nothing gets me down, I enjoy spending time with people but I am more than able to keep myself occupied when I feel like it. I often feel as if people over react in a lot of situations. I don't really stress, spend lots of time with family and friends. Would consider myself responsible for my age.

Decided to stay at home while doing my articles so I can maximise savings while still being able to enjoy myself. Anyway gone OT.
 
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A lot of us are f**ked up in our own special way. A lot of us aren't. A lot of us are truly happy. A lot of us aren't.

There is no point to it all. We just are.
 
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