Is he a slut?

adinfinitum said:
Sadly I still don't think he was a terrible guy. I still sometimes think what-if? He was actually a great guy in the beginning and I was very happy. Then he started asking me to let him know where I was during the day. He would phone me at work and ask where I was all the time. If I didn't tell him where I was he would shout at me and tell me I didn't love him. I was a consultant then and sometimes you get busy so I would often end up in tears when I forgot. I didn't see the possessiveness he was exercising over me at the time. But then he wanted to get engaged. Alarm bells started going off. I don't know if he was just extremely jealous, or if he was a domestic abuse situation waiting to happen. Either way toxic.
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I had an ex exactly like that. I was 15 at the time though, he was 17. My parents saw the possessiveness but I didn't wanna see it. And then he proposed to me. I still have the ring :D
 
Akasha said:
I had an ex exactly like that. I was 15 at the time though, he was 17. My parents saw the possessiveness but I didn't wanna see it. And then he proposed to me. I still have the ring :D
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I gave back the ring. I really didn't want any ill will towards him. I just wanted to be away from him. Have nothing of his that would remind me of him.

LOL - so you saw the light at the point of engagement too? :p

But yeah - this is why I get the abused wife syndrome. People are so quick to say that the woman is an idiot cause she doesn't leave her domestic abusive partner. What they don't understand is the love that person has for their partner and the belief that it is their fault, and that he really does love them. Also the control is a way of stripping away the identity of the woman until she really believes that she would be worse off without him. I was this close to being that person.
 
At least the two of you are cruising better roads now.
 
Lager said:
At least the two of you are cruising better roads now.
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Thanks Lager. :)

Unfortunately many women are not that lucky. Sad thing is the guys that did this probably never intended be those kinds of men. Made me very cautious towards men after that.
 
adinfinitum said:
Thanks Lager. :)

Unfortunately many women are not that lucky. Sad thing is the guys that did this probably never intended be those kinds of men. Made me very cautious towards men after that.
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Understandably so. Also, who knows what type of roll models they had as kids. If ol' Johnny sees Daddy treating Mommy like crap all the time there's a very good chance he'll mimic that behaviour as an adult. Then there's the demon of insecurity and jealousy, being a control freak because of it. Completely fscks up any chance of a healthy relationship.
 
Sounds like that guy is a hoe. I don't see myself being a hoe, I don't think I could keep up with being a hoe... maybe in my dreams I will be a hoe :)

If you constantly sleeping around, maybe one guy / girl at a time, are you still seen as a hoe?

Strangelove said:
What's so bad about being promiscuous? Aside from religious influence, why is it so negative? If I slept with the entire human race (and used protection), what's it to you?
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I was gonna say I hope you got some protection on that, then I saw you stated it. Hahaha, then people would know you can't stay faithful :)
 
arr0w said:
View attachment 22111499.9% of gay dudes are hoes
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While I know some gay guys do like to have a new booty as often as possible, it's not 99.9%.

This is a stupid stereotype about gay guys, which I don't think will go away anytime soon.

Only reason gays get more sex is because it's easier to get it seeing that guys (doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is) are always horny.

On topic though. I think 4 boyfriends are a bit much, but that doesn't make him a slut. If they are legit boyfriends and not just there for the sex.

Some people are able to love more than 1 person at a time. People are different. "Morals" has nothing to do with it as this is just a man made concept.

This being said, I only have 1 boyfriend and not planning on getting more :p
 
So what if the guy is a loslappie. If he is having his adventures with consenting adult men and is safe then it is no ones business but his own and his sexual partners. Same goes for all the whores of Babylon and straight man-whores out there.
 
personal view, calling someone a slut is pretty freaking terrible,
it means your opinion on their sexuality is more important to you than their opinion of themselves.

that being said, i am a slut,
I have my SO, and no GF's at this point (applications are to be sent to my SO) but I have had my way around town, and I know I have done my fair share of work :D
also I have no issue calling meself a slut :P
 
adinfinitum said:
I have. And not because I was sleeping around mind you. Cause I dared break up with my ex and then starting dating someone else when he thought we'd get back together again. That's ok to call me a slut then apparently. :confused:
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I'm betting you didn't lose any sleep over that right?
 
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