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Lupus said:
Focus on the positive :-) not the negative. When my son was 6 months old he got Rosella which gave him a real bad case of the runs and I was at home looking after him and working. It felt like it wouldn't even end and I was just cleaning up after him endlessly and it felt like a downward spiral. But 6 years later I actually look at the other side of the coin, about me running around like a headless chicken carrying a child without a nappy to the bathroom, trying to clean up him and the floors/walls and and.
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I still remember mine was in a walking ring. It sounded like someone threw water out of a bucket. When we got to him he was riding around in it with the walking ring.

Such fond memories but in all honesty when looking back you can hardly remember those "bad" times.

You have a child and times will be tough but it gets better. It has many down turns but it will get better.
 
I’m not sure where you’re based, but I’d be happy out if you need a break. I’ve had three of my own, an
crocopede said:
Ye just ranting.
Parents came back from holiday to help out and im in talks with a nanny service.

Its hard though. I take my hat off to single parents. Its a lot to manage.

Its super hard. Also around my son om chill. I think of all that gets me the most is the inability to sit 5 minutes n smoke, to keep going.

I told the parents to go sleep. They were if great help yesterday i did actually get to sleep 4 hours.

I do get murderous rage fits though. Also im not reaching out to the internets. Merely a great platform to regulate pent up frustrations to keep as sane as possible
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Im based in Cape Town, and be happy to help out if you need a break. Understand what you’re going through. You are overwhelmed, but believe me, it only gets better!

Dad to five. Four boys and one little lady, ages 15 - 22.
 
Lupus said:
Focus on the positive :) not the negative. When my son was 6 months old he got Rosella which gave him a real bad case of the runs and I was at home looking after him and working. It felt like it wouldn't even end and I was just cleaning up after him endlessly and it felt like a downward spiral. But 6 years later I actually look at the other side of the coin, about me running around like a headless chicken carrying a child without a nappy to the bathroom, trying to clean up him and the floors/walls and and.
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I don't mind cleaning crap up so much even though it's very nasty, what I can't clean up is puke. My oldest had mild reflux, she threw up all over me a number of times. I ended up nauseous for at least 24 hours, sometimes longer. It was as if I couldn't get the smell out of my nostrils.

She also threw up all over the Jetta's back seat one sunday morning while driving through the huisriver pass. Another time all over my SO's polo's back seat, while driving that mountain road between Gordons Bay and Betty's Bay. She seemed to always wait for the worst possible times and then I ended up feeling sick for at least the rest of the day.
 
Cr419 said:
I don't mind cleaning crap up so much even though it's very nasty, what I can't clean up is puke. My oldest had mild reflux, she threw up all over me a number of times. I ended up nauseous for at least 24 hours, sometimes longer. It was as if I couldn't get the smell out of my nostrils.

She also threw up all over the Jetta's back seat one sunday morning while driving through the huisriver pass. Another time all over my SO's polo's back seat, while driving that mountain road between Gordons Bay and Betty's Bay. She seemed to always wait for the worst possible times and then I ended up feeling sick for at least the rest of the day.
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Yeah vomit is horrible to get out of things, but it's one of the "joys"
 
Duan said:
There are doctors who are more dangerous than a loaded gun, but whatever blows your hair back.

Both our twins are perfectly fine (no broken necks) and those techniques made it possible for everyone to get some much needed sleep.
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Sure but at least doctors are accountable. They are held to a legal standard and can be barred from practising. They have the paperwork and the science behind them.

Chiropractors are completely unregulated pseudo science. I have had some success with a chiro before but it was one individual and purely anecdotal.
 
Lupus said:
Yeah vomit is horrible to get out of things, but it's one of the "joys"
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You aren't parenting until you are thrown up on at least three times in quick succession at 3 in the morning while still virtually asleep.

:)

And even then it's more funny and joyous than terrible, except for the poor kid.
 
mrberland said:
I’m not sure where you’re based, but I’d be happy out if you need a break. I’ve had three of my own, an


Im based in Cape Town, and be happy to help out if you need a break. Understand what you’re going through. You are overwhelmed, but believe me, it only gets better!

Dad to five. Four boys and one little lady, ages 15 - 22.
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Bath time must be insane.
 
Both our kids were colic, the first one was quite an experience the first month because she had the same issue the OP mentioned with the reflux. Look it will get better just hang in there. A night nurse will be the best thing for you and you will at the very least get some much needed sleep.

I havent read through all the replies but if you havent already please look into getting a wedge pillow for the baby, its designed for babies that suffer with reflux, it will put baby slightly elevated and this will help with sleeping and the reflux - also if you allowed to alternate between breast milk and formula then look into Nan AR - its a thicker formula that helps stop the reflux after feeding.

All the best buddy and i promise it will get better.
 
I really enjoyed your rant, only because I can totally relate. It's really hard and parenthood sucks most of the time. However stay strong. All the hard work will pay of in the end, they don't stay small forever. I know your son will still bring you much joy and everything will be worth it :)
 
crocopede said:
We found an awesome night nanny. She used to work at unitas as a nurse in the NICU.
She is super good. Pricey but worth it for a good nights rest.

The only thing i do not enjoy is when i wake at 2am and i stroll into the room to see whats happening and he happens to be awake she tells me to go back to bed. Even if my son is awake and playing she is like say bye bye daddy. Until i leave.

Her reasoning is that we pay her to be here and do her work and that is what she is doing.
Wife has recovered and is back to her old self. I am struggling with this thought that this entire parenthood thing is basically a life long commitment. Holidays are no longer mine, on a whim decisions to go hiking for a day is out the window.

It will get better with time i know, but it is still difficult especially so early on where we cannot simply both go to the mall to pick up some groceries.
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Welcome to parenthood, also you can go to the shops, but it will be the three of you. Wait till other things start happening that affect your life, if you were a gamer that's now stopped for awhile, like to ride bikes or do something out the window, then when they are older your Saturday is now rush off to karate at 8am then rugby at 10am and when you get home at 1 you're like yaaaaah now I've still got to do my weekend duties.
 
Breeding problems :p

Been following the thread. Glad some sanity is being restored. Slowly slowly.

Good luck will keep following.
 
Lupus said:
Welcome to parenthood, also you can go to the shops, but it will be the three of you. Wait till other things start happening that affect your life, if you were a gamer that's now stopped for awhile, like to ride bikes or do something out the window, then when they are older your Saturday is now rush off to karate at 8am then rugby at 10am and when you get home at 1 you're like yaaaaah now I've still got to do my weekend duties.
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You want a suicide? Because that's how you get suicides...

Lie to him FFS!
 
crocopede said:
We found an awesome night nanny. She used to work at unitas as a nurse in the NICU.
She is super good. Pricey but worth it for a good nights rest.

The only thing i do not enjoy is when i wake at 2am and i stroll into the room to see whats happening and he happens to be awake she tells me to go back to bed. Even if my son is awake and playing she is like say bye bye daddy. Until i leave.

Her reasoning is that we pay her to be here and do her work and that is what she is doing.
Wife has recovered and is back to her old self. I am struggling with this thought that this entire parenthood thing is basically a life long commitment. Holidays are no longer mine, on a whim decisions to go hiking for a day is out the window.

It will get better with time i know, but it is still difficult especially so early on where we cannot simply both go to the mall to pick up some groceries.
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The nurse is right. Leave her to do her job. You pay her so you can sleep and know you can rest well as baby is well cared for. If you stay up you will still be tired when you need to work
 
Datura said:
You want a suicide? Because that's how you get suicides...

Lie to him FFS!
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Oh right sorry... No don't want that, look for all the hardships I wouldn't change it for the world. Even the 120 questions through every movie :-)
 
Lupus said:
Oh right sorry... No don't want that, look for all the hardships I wouldn't change it for the world. Even the 120 questions through every movie :)
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My dad used to over analyse movies. I never got to get a damn question in sideways.

Totally debunked ET. I was like, "Well... fsck!".
 
Datura said:
My dad used to over analyse movies. I never got to get a damn question in sideways.

Totally debunked ET. I was like, "Well... fsck!".
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Cause this is Halloween month I decided he's 7 lets watch the Mummy 1999 as it's not overly scary or gorey, ooooh my the questions I got. Even why did he kiss her, was he messing with her, does he like her, why would the mummy eat the bug, did he eat the bugs while buried, why is he still gooey...
 
Venomous said:
The nurse is right. Leave her to do her job. You pay her so you can sleep and know you can rest well as baby is well cared for. If you stay up you will still be tired when you need to work
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I can sort of understand how he feels. My wife and myself were so tired from work and taking care of the kids when they were young (we had them with very little spacing in between), but it was still extremely difficult to let them stay by her parents the first few times. We even kept them home from day care when we hard a day or so off. You almost feel guilty for having free time away from your kids.
 
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