just friends?

mooks said:
Excellent, so single friends are a remote possibility on the condition that they are entirely and eternally sexually unappealing. *makes notes furiously*
:p
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u cannot seriously think u can be alone all the time with a lady that you are attracted to and do nothing. and your girlfriend is far away. the first time she looks at you longingly you will be all over that...:whistle:
 
akescpt said:
u cannot seriously think u can be alone all the time with a lady that you are attracted to and do nothing. and your girlfriend is far away. the first time she looks at you longingly you will be all over that...:whistle:
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Except that I'm the girl in this equation, and I hardly expect to be spending 'all the time' alone with them. It would just be nice to be able to explore the new surroundings with someone who is also new to the city. Plus, there is simply nothing dodgier than a girl going out on the town by herself. Would be nice to have a wingman for the weekends when my SO is not around.

But yes, I am hearing the masses and I can see how that might be cause for concern. Will re-evaluate my stance (while muttering something about men being hyper conservative when it suits them ;) ).

Thanks for the input y'all.
 
Let me round this up for you.

Your SO is going to bitch and moan and say she will break up with you if you befriend a single female.

However, in the not too distant future, she is going to befriend a single male, and when you complain or reference this issue about her not wanting you to befriend a single female she will tell you that you are being too controlling and don't trust her.

Either way she will probably cheat on you, if she hasn't already. The reason it's a deal breaker is because she probably already has, she has seen how easy it is and is feeling horribly guilty and that's why she doesn't want you hanging around anyone that you can cheat with.

Stop spending all your money going to see your cheating SO and go spend it on a nice girl that can appreciate you.

No need to thank me ;)
 
I think Lycan got it right first time. The trust is broken and you're probably going to cheat anyway. Break it off and move on.
 
Nick333 said:
...and you're probably going to cheat anyway...
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Hang on a second. I can understand judgements on past behaviour, I can understand how that will effect opinions going forward, but to make a statement like that is a bit presumptious ( I really want to say arrogant, but I wouldnt want to be offensive).
 
mooks said:
Hang on a second. I can understand judgements on past behaviour, I can understand how that will effect opinions going forward, but to make a statement like that is a bit presumptious ( I really want to say arrogant, but I wouldnt want to be offensive).
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Arrogant is probably about right. :D Maybe I was a little harsh. I just don't believe you're going to stop seeing this other guy regardless of what your SO wants. He's miles away how's he going to know? I mean honestly now. I'm right aren't I? Then you'll start telling yourself what a jealous douche he is and resenting him until when you are faced with the temptation to cheat you'll almost feel as if you're entitled to because he's such an ******* really.

Honestly. Am I wrong?
 
mooks said:
Except that I'm the girl in this equation, and I hardly expect to be spending 'all the time' alone with them. It would just be nice to be able to explore the new surroundings with someone who is also new to the city. Plus, there is simply nothing dodgier than a girl going out on the town by herself. Would be nice to have a wingman for the weekends when my SO is not around.

But yes, I am hearing the masses and I can see how that might be cause for concern. Will re-evaluate my stance (while muttering something about men being hyper conservative when it suits them ;) ).

Thanks for the input y'all.
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discovering the city together will lead to shared experiences..you will have lunch at a nice cafe..dinner at a restuarant and this usually leads to sex.. something i learnt from the movies so its the absolute truth! just to clarify... your SO is male right? doesn't really matter since your type of sandwich is your preference....new shared experiences is a no no...bonding will ensue..then according to the movies..yes..more sex..
 
akescpt said:
discovering the city together will lead to shared experiences..you will have lunch at a nice cafe..dinner at a restuarant and this usually leads to sex.. something i learnt from the movies so its the absolute truth! just to clarify... your SO is male right? doesn't really matter since your type of sandwich is your preference....new shared experiences is a no no...bonding will ensue..then according to the movies..yes..more sex..
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trust him he watches movies and the history channel

and PICS OF THE OP
 
If you want a really informed opinion you're going have to provide pics mooks

thanks :))
 
akescpt said:
what? :wtf:
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What he said about the username thing. Huh?

Nick333 said:
Arrogant is probably about right. :D Maybe I was a little harsh. I just don't believe you're going to stop seeing this other guy regardless of what your SO wants. He's miles away how's he going to know? I mean honestly now. I'm right aren't I? Then you'll start telling yourself what a jealous douche he is and resenting him until when you are faced with the temptation to cheat you'll almost feel as if you're entitled to because he's such an ******* really.

Honestly. Am I wrong?
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Haha, ok fair game ;)

Let me ask you this though, how arrrogant would I, a confessed adulterer, sound if I turned to you and said that you're wrong? ;) I think you certainly have a valid argument there and I can stretch my mind to believe that people would use that excuse should the situation arise. That said, if you ARE looking for an excuse, any will do. In this instance, I learned the hard way what the consequences would be, and I really don't want that to happen again. I am not looking for an out, I am not looking for another warm body for the bed, I was just looking for a friend in a new city where I barely even speak the language.

All that said, I love my SO (jealous douche that he is) and I dont want to lose him, so I guess I'm just gonna have to rent a friend for the next year until he moves here.

Just for the record though, I DO still believe men & women can be friends. But maybe I need to persue those friendships in a space and way that doenst make my SO froth at the mouth.

Peace.
 
mooks said:
What he said about the username thing. Huh?




Haha, ok fair game ;)

Let me ask you this though, how arrrogant would I, a confessed adulterer, sound if I turned to you and said that you're wrong? ;) I think you certainly have a valid argument there and I can stretch my mind to believe that people would use that excuse should the situation arise. That said, if you ARE looking for an excuse, any will do. In this instance, I learned the hard way what the consequences would be, and I really don't want that to happen again. I am not looking for an out, I am not looking for another warm body for the bed, I was just looking for a friend in a new city where I barely even speak the language.

All that said, I love my SO (jealous douche that he is) and I dont want to lose him, so I guess I'm just gonna have to rent a friend for the next year until he moves here.

Just for the record though, I DO still believe men & women can be friends. But maybe I need to persue those friendships in a space and way that doenst make my SO froth at the mouth.

Peace.
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Ja, listen I believe men and women can be friends. Hell, I believe you should be allowed to have fcck buddies while you're there. I mean a year without sex? But, on the other hand if you care about this guy you'll deal with it. Is it that important to have friends of the opposite sex?

Actually, it might be.
 
LOL @ definition of mook :/ let that be my lesson about limited vocabulary ... I actually just chose it because it's my pets name. I'm original like that.
 
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