So I trust you will blame yourself if you were to run and something were to happen to your family there? Perhaps a victim of crime. Perhaps a victim in a car accident. Perhaps a victim of drug addiction. Perhaps... perhaps... perhaps... If you never left these things might never have happened. You would never forgive yourself..... You see how life works?
Now that's just a specious argument. There is a direct correlation between living in SA and increased exposure to violent crime. Obviously X thing happens in Y places, but the higher the frequency of X in a given location, the higher the chance of encountering X. I am trying to lower the risk of my family being exposed to X, in this case violent crime. In doing so they will actually have reduced incidence of being exposed to car accidents as well.
And really you shouldn't be getting down. I'm not trying to convince anybody. Whether you choose to live in SA or not is your business, as is my position on many other things such as religion. I shan't criticise you but for you to trivialise my exposure to violent crime and murder is testament to you having grown up or having spent too long in this country.