Love Woes

[Noob-Noob]

That's the problem, she really wants the Bad Boy because he gets her insides all mushy, but she wants to be treated well so she goes out with Mr Nice Guy only to find she's just not getting what she thinks she needs..... Ai.. been there... sorry man...

Naa no worries
Friday night i went to the pub with a few mates, met a girl and tested the above theories, acted cocky and down right like an ass, ended up going home with me
But apparently not being nice the whole time also does not work, have not heard anything from her since Sunday :-/

Picking up woman is not really that hard, not really a problem i have ever had, even though the last year has not been my best. I think the problem with me and lots of other guys is, when you meet someone you REALLY like, you just want to impress her/them and show them what a wonderful person you are, showering them gifts and compliments, giving her security, being a gentleman the whole time, and yeah, that's where our big mistake is being made, we have to be our-self's from the start. The Reason we do this is because of the numerous previous relationships which has failed, when that one person comes by which makes you go WOW, you just wanna impress them by any means necessary.

Sure one can act like someone he is not, get me a biker jacket with a tattoo of a dolphin eating children, (reminds me of Finch in the new American Pie), but at the end of the day she will get to know me, and she will realize me being a bad boy is just a show, so why really bother?, why waste both our time? We are who we are, and we will find someone who appreciates and loves us for us and who we are. If a woman is impressed by a guy who cheats, verbally abuses her or even treat her like siht, well then that's her problem, not mine.

But think i'm done with woman for now, or rather for a few months at least, they are honestly to much work.

 

[Ocali]

Naa no worries
Friday night i went to the pub with a few mates, met a girl and tested the above theories, acted cocky and down right like an ass, ended up going home with me
But apparently not being nice the whole time also does not work, have not heard anything from her since Sunday :-/

Picking up woman is not really that hard, not really a problem i have ever had, even though the last year has not been my best. I think the problem with me and lots of other guys is, when you meet someone you REALLY like, you just want to impress her/them and show them what a wonderful person you are, showering them gifts and compliments, giving her security, being a gentleman the whole time, and yeah, that's where our big mistake is being made, we have to be our-self's from the start. The Reason we do this is because of the numerous previous relationships which has failed, when that one person comes by which makes you go WOW, you just wanna impress them by any means necessary.

Sure one can act like someone he is not, get me a biker jacket with a tattoo of a dolphin eating children, (reminds me of Finch in the new American Pie), but at the end of the day she will get to know me, and she will realize me being a bad boy is just a show, so why really bother?, why waste both our time? We are who we are, and we will find someone who appreciates and loves us for us and who we are. If a woman is impressed by a guy who cheats, verbally abuses her or even treat her like siht, well then that's her problem, not mine.

But think i'm done with woman for now, or rather for a few months at least, they are honestly to much work.

well put there bud..

 

[Tinuva]

Naa no worries
Friday night i went to the pub with a few mates, met a girl and tested the above theories, acted cocky and down right like an ass, ended up going home with me
But apparently not being nice the whole time also does not work, have not heard anything from her since Sunday :-/

Picking up woman is not really that hard, not really a problem i have ever had, even though the last year has not been my best. I think the problem with me and lots of other guys is, when you meet someone you REALLY like, you just want to impress her/them and show them what a wonderful person you are, showering them gifts and compliments, giving her security, being a gentleman the whole time, and yeah, that's where our big mistake is being made, we have to be our-self's from the start. The Reason we do this is because of the numerous previous relationships which has failed, when that one person comes by which makes you go WOW, you just wanna impress them by any means necessary.

Sure one can act like someone he is not, get me a biker jacket with a tattoo of a dolphin eating children, (reminds me of Finch in the new American Pie), but at the end of the day she will get to know me, and she will realize me being a bad boy is just a show, so why really bother?, why waste both our time? We are who we are, and we will find someone who appreciates and loves us for us and who we are. If a woman is impressed by a guy who cheats, verbally abuses her or even treat her like siht, well then that's her problem, not mine.

But think i'm done with woman for now, or rather for a few months at least, they are honestly to much work.

Oh boy...

1. You are spot on, being a bad boy works for one night stands, but doesn't last. You also right being a overly nice guy also doesn't work, its worse than being a bad boy. So what you really need to be, is better than a bad boy, eg. a real man. One with confidence to not be afraid what you want to say. One that know what he wants out of life. Women like guys like that, they want a guy that is confident, even if he isn't rich, even if he isn't nice, even if he doesn't buy them gifts the whole time, just someone that makes their life interesting.

2. Women is not hard work, they are fun. Really. You need to change your mindset, and they will come flocking after you. When a woman meets a real man, they can't help but be attracted to them. I am not a bad boy, and I am not rude to my gf, yet she can't help being crazy in-love with me. She still throws her little tests every now and again, but it never gets to me, because I learned to just not worry about it. I know she loves me, and thats that. It just works.

You should learn to enjoy the experience imho

ps. I do tease my gf a lot, it really gets her going, and then I get to laugh at her sillyness, which is fun!

 

[STS]

Naa no worries
Friday night i went to the pub with a few mates, met a girl and tested the above theories, acted cocky and down right like an ass, ended up going home with me
But apparently not being nice the whole time also does not work, have not heard anything from her since Sunday :-/

Picking up woman is not really that hard, not really a problem i have ever had, even though the last year has not been my best. I think the problem with me and lots of other guys is, when you meet someone you REALLY like, you just want to impress her/them and show them what a wonderful person you are, showering them gifts and compliments, giving her security, being a gentleman the whole time, and yeah, that's where our big mistake is being made, we have to be our-self's from the start. The Reason we do this is because of the numerous previous relationships which has failed, when that one person comes by which makes you go WOW, you just wanna impress them by any means necessary.

Sure one can act like someone he is not, get me a biker jacket with a tattoo of a dolphin eating children, (reminds me of Finch in the new American Pie), but at the end of the day she will get to know me, and she will realize me being a bad boy is just a show, so why really bother?, why waste both our time? We are who we are, and we will find someone who appreciates and loves us for us and who we are. If a woman is impressed by a guy who cheats, verbally abuses her or even treat her like siht, well then that's her problem, not mine.

But think i'm done with woman for now, or rather for a few months at least, they are honestly to much work.

i have the opposite, i have a few women always trying to get involved in my life and take over it. i'm happy where i am in my life, but i have a constant barrage of women contacting me and wanting to "get to know me", despite me being an ugly **** and virtually no shared interests. i sometimes imagine that a lot of people get involved in the most difficult of relationships or go for damaged people(and i'm very damaged ). 10 years ago i would have killed to have an awesome girlfriend or just to have girls interested in me, now that i'm over it and have gotten past that stage of my life, it has become a nuisance. it's as if some people exist only to sniff out your happiness and want a part of it

P.S: Not all women are the same, it's not a biological thing but a state of mind. there are plenty of awesome, intelligent and no-bs fueled women out there, however they most likely do not hang out in pubs or flirt with every cock that comes past, just as some men do not flirt with every pair of huge tits that enters the room

 

[Noob-Noob]

i have the opposite, i have a few women always trying to get involved in my life and take over it. i'm happy where i am in my life, but i have a constant barrage of women contacting me and wanting to "get to know me", despite me being an ugly **** and virtually no shared interests. i sometimes imagine that a lot of people get involved in the most difficult of relationships or go for damaged people(and i'm very damaged ). 10 years ago i would have killed to have an awesome girlfriend or just to have girls interested in me, now that i'm over it and have gotten past that stage of my life, it has become a nuisance. it's as if some people exist only to sniff out your happiness and want a part of it

P.S: Not all women are the same, it's not a biological thing but a state of mind. there are plenty of awesome, intelligent and no-bs fueled women out there, however they most likely do not hang out in pubs or flirt with every cock that comes past, just as some men do not flirt with every pair of huge tits that enters the room

Speak for your self
Unfortunately i do not have a barrage of woman calling me,
I know there are plenty of awesome, intelligent and no-bs fueled women out there, but like you said, they don't hang out in pubs, that's why i generally try to pick up woman on online dating sites, unfortunately what woman say they want on their profiles are not what they actually want, would be fun if each person on a dating website could get an EX toe write their profile

 

[zolly]

I started writing a post and realised it was turning into an essay on how I got my heart broken. The TLDR was I was young, didn't know any better when it came to girls, and treated a girl who was really into me very nicely. We were both part time workers, but we usually worked different shifts, so even though she had a "No guys from work" policy she liked me enough that I thought I could take it slow (I had already told her how I felt about her at this point).

Then along came a guy who was 5 years older than me (I was 23) and 9 years older than her (she was 19). She caught his eye so he started to flirt with all the other girls and act like a dick to the girl I liked. A few of the girls knew what he was up to so they ignored him, but it still had enough of an effect that the girl I liked started to follow him around like a little puppy dog.

When she started sleeping with him... well it was devastating at the time. This was one of the first big lessons I learnt about girls.

 

[UsernameLadiesMan217]

Well, i guess im not asking advice, just ranting...
So a while back i met this girl, now in my 30 year life span this was the 1st time i met someone with every single feature I’m searching for in a woman, she was smart, petite, witty, HOT, soft, funny, loved my type of music and we had similar interests, there was an instant attraction and we clicked from the word go, to be honest so was perfect in every aspect, when we started dating we kicked off with a bang, she was crazy about me, she told me what a Nice guy i was, how hard it is/was meeting a man like myself, how i made her smile and how she loved the way i spoiled het, she actually went as far as to asking me out and telling me we are in a relationship, it was awesome!
I bought her flowers/chocolates or random small things almost every second day, i still hand wrote her love notes because she like that type of stuff, and so did i... i took her out on very expensive dates which she loved, This past Saturday everything was still perfect, we made out before i left her house, and she texted me how much she missed me after that, yesterday morning she send me a message like she does every day, but i noticed something different, her tone was different, besides that she did not text me every hour throughout the day like she used to, me not being a over attached boyfriend did not say anything, maybe she is busy... at around 15:00 yesterday not hearing a single word from her, i send her a text and asked if she wanted to get some Sushi, which she agreed to instantly, we went there, we ate but i noticed she was different, no longer would she stretch out her hand for me to hold, again i said nothing and acted like i did not notice, after dropping her of last night i get the dreadful message “its not working, the spark is gone, hope i find someone who loves me the same way..blah..blah...blah”....i mean FFS, i did absolutely nothing wrong, i treated her like a queen, i took her to different places, i complemented her every day, her parents and brother loved me, i did everything right for a change because i wanted this one to last.
So what have i learned from this?, well for one don’t try to be a good guy and a wonderful boyfriend, be a insensitive dick, they seem to like that.

She's a **** mate and you deserve better.

Best not to over-analyse this one, lest you lose your mind.

 

[UsernameLadiesMan217]

Lament, the thing is, if I may put it bluntly, you were too nice. You became predictable and boring.

You have already said she was in to 'bad boys'. These kinds of women want to have an uncertainty in their relationships. They want to feel a constant power struggle or want you to be the dominant one.

I was and still am like you, to an extent. You need to stop being the nice guy and start being the good guy. Stake out some ground for yourself. Develop your personality more (for you, not her).

That said, I no longer go after these types of women. Way too much work and life is too short to try and please a woman that high maintenance (emotionally and/or financially).

Good luck going forward.

Are you ****ing kidding me.

No relationship should ever have a constant power struggle - those type of women(and men) can just go **** themselves.

Being too nice is never a legit reason to be dumped. And if it is, you were better off without that woman anyway.

 

[smallearth]

Naa no worries
Friday night i went to the pub with a few mates, met a girl and tested the above theories, acted cocky and down right like an ass, ended up going home with me
But apparently not being nice the whole time also does not work, have not heard anything from her since Sunday :-/

Picking up woman is not really that hard, not really a problem i have ever had, even though the last year has not been my best. I think the problem with me and lots of other guys is, when you meet someone you REALLY like, you just want to impress her/them and show them what a wonderful person you are, showering them gifts and compliments, giving her security, being a gentleman the whole time, and yeah, that's where our big mistake is being made, we have to be our-self's from the start. The Reason we do this is because of the numerous previous relationships which has failed, when that one person comes by which makes you go WOW, you just wanna impress them by any means necessary.

Sure one can act like someone he is not, get me a biker jacket with a tattoo of a dolphin eating children, (reminds me of Finch in the new American Pie), but at the end of the day she will get to know me, and she will realize me being a bad boy is just a show, so why really bother?, why waste both our time? We are who we are, and we will find someone who appreciates and loves us for us and who we are. If a woman is impressed by a guy who cheats, verbally abuses her or even treat her like siht, well then that's her problem, not mine.

But think i'm done with woman for now, or rather for a few months at least, they are honestly to much work.

Trust me, you can be a nice guy and give her what she wants. I know.

That very first time you pull her her head back forcibly by the hair and whisper 'You dirty little .... .' to her... she's yours... if she likes bad boys... if she doesn't you may just ruin the friendship...