Love Woes

[Ancalagon]

Unfortunately not going to happen, If she however decided to make contact again, then yes, you can bet your ass that's what i'll do.


*Let me just add this as well, since my social circles sucks, i never meet woman, so i am on the Internet dating scene, now, my profile describes me like i am, a sweet guy who is a hard-ass, i am 100% honest in my profile, and woman LOVE it, i get loads of responses and its ALWAYS the same : "You sound like such a real and trustworthy man, you are funny and say things like they are, all the other guys on this website only wants sex, they send us dick pics and are rude" And i promise you 99% of all the replies i receive goes like that.
So saying i'm confused is a understatement, they want sex but don't like to admit to it?, so i should go on with my game, being nice and everything, lure them in, and them start giving them sexual gestures?
i'm getting to old for this schit, this was much easier when i was in my early twenties.

Women want sex on Tuesdays except when its raining in Argentina, sometimes on Saturdays when the moon is in line with Venus and the dollar is currently going up.

Jokes, seriously, most women need the context before sex becomes an option. So they want to know who you are before they even consider you sexually. It sounds obvious, but it really just means dont send dick pics until you know they are into you. Which means, they do want sex, but they want to get to know you first (I know, pretty obvious!).

However, you still need to take societal pressure into account, which says that women who want sex are sluts. So, they aren't going to admit it to you. And even more important, they want you to tell them that you want to have sex with them. Why? Ego and all that. They want to feel wanted and sexy. Telling them you want to sleep with them - so long as there is context and they feel the same way - makes them feel wanted and sexy. If they tell you that they want to sleep with you, they don't feel wanted and sexy (at least not initially), because what they want is for you to compliment them by expressing your desire to copulate with them.

 

[Nick333]

Unfortunately not going to happen, If she however decided to make contact again, then yes, you can bet your ass that's what i'll do.


*Let me just add this as well, since my social circles sucks, i never meet woman, so i am on the Internet dating scene, now, my profile describes me like i am, a sweet guy who is a hard-ass, i am 100% honest in my profile, and woman LOVE it, i get loads of responses and its ALWAYS the same : "You sound like such a real and trustworthy man, you are funny and say things like they are, all the other guys on this website only wants sex, they send us dick pics and are rude" And i promise you 99% of all the replies i receive goes like that.
So saying i'm confused is a understatement, they want sex but don't like to admit to it?, so i should go on with my game, being nice and everything, lure them in, and them start giving them sexual gestures?
i'm getting to old for this schit, this was much easier when i was in my early twenties.

Geez, talk about an over response. Like I said above. Women just want to know that you're not only looking for a quick fcck. Not sending d!ck pics or being rude is hardly being dishonest - it's just basic respect and manners. In case you're not getting this - of course they want sex- they just don't want to be used for sex by some random dude off the internet. It doesn't have to be an either or scenario.

I don't get what's so hard to understand.

 

[STS]

or, women could want a connection with a guy first before they have sex? doesn't mean they have to want to get married to him, they just want to make sure a creep isn't shoving his dick deep down inside of them.

both genders are often abused by prospective mates and as society places emphasis that opposite genders can't be friends, it makes it harder for people to socialise with people of the opposite sex because they're "different" when in fact, they're not that different at all. men and women want the same things. and as to how much they desire those things or what they are, differ from individual to individual

 

[Noob-Noob]

Women want sex on Tuesdays except when its raining in Argentina, sometimes on Saturdays when the moon is in line with Venus and the dollar is currently going up.

Jokes, seriously, most women need the context before sex becomes an option. So they want to know who you are before they even consider you sexually. It sounds obvious, but it really just means dont send dick pics until you know they are into you. Which means, they do want sex, but they want to get to know you first (I know, pretty obvious!).

However, you still need to take societal pressure into account, which says that women who want sex are sluts. So, they aren't going to admit it to you. And even more important, they want you to tell them that you want to have sex with them. Why? Ego and all that. They want to feel wanted and sexy. Telling them you want to sleep with them - so long as there is context and they feel the same way - makes them feel wanted and sexy. If they tell you that they want to sleep with you, they don't feel wanted and sexy (at least not initially), because what they want is for you to compliment them by expressing your desire to copulate with them.

Geez, talk about an over response. Like I said above. Women just want to know that you're not only looking for a quick fcck. Not sending d!ck pics or being rude is hardly being dishonest - it's just basic respect and manners. In case you're not getting this - of course they want sex- they just don't want to be used for sex by some random dude off the internet. It doesn't have to be an either or scenario.

I don't get what's so hard to understand.

Thanks, I get it guys

 

[SoulTax]

"You sound like such a real and trustworthy man, you are funny and say things like they are, all the other guys on this website only wants sex, they send us dick pics and are rude" And i promise you 99% of all the replies i receive goes like that.

They don't want dick pics up front because that is downright rude and distasteful. That doesn't mean that they are not open to receiving the big D after having a date or two or five. Especially if they like you. Sex isn't some big reward at the end of the road. It is merely a more personal property of the compatibility matrix as a whole. Waiting too long to discover the answer to that question, can be an answer in itself.

Living together is something that takes time and consideration. Sex, unless you are dating the traditional "Wait until I am married" type, is something that needs to be explored sooner rather than later. Even if that exploration happens to be a conversation about a time frame of abstinence. Whatever it is, don't let it hang there unanswered for too long, it will start to stink and play on her mind.

 

[Goliath]

Sounds so familiar!

Had similar incident, most recently the girl almost got me arrested(she was stone drunk, I took her keys so that she can't drive and then she stopped the police and told them I stole her keys and handbag and that she don't know me) but luckily the bouncers of the place came to my rescue! After that incident I told her she welcome to contact me for work related issues but besides that I don't want to hear from her.. (work in same company, luckily not same town)

To top it off, I later heard from a friend of hers that she burns through guys like a fat kid on a cupcake and best rather to stay away!

Hang in there, you'll get through it Lament

 

[reactor_sa]

 

[Nick333]

Sounds so familiar!

Had similar incident, most recently the girl almost got me arrested(she was stone drunk, I took her keys so that she can't drive and then she stopped the police and told them I stole her keys and handbag and that she don't know me) but luckily the bouncers of the place came to my rescue! After that incident I told her she welcome to contact me for work related issues but besides that I don't want to hear from her.. (work in same company, luckily not same town)

To top it off, I later heard from a friend of hers that she burns through guys like a fat kid on a cupcake and best rather to stay away!

Hang in there, you'll get through it Lament

Wait, what did I miss? How is this all that similar to Laments story?

 

[TelkomUseless]

Wait, what did I miss? How is this all that similar to Laments story?

womenz= crazy

 

[-Prismo-]

How do you key a car ?

 

[Nick333]

How do you key a car ?

 

[Noob-Noob]

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Gave me Goosebumps

 

[-Prismo-]

Gave me Goosebumps

+1 ... That's insane, " love " is bringing out all the wrong actions in that chick :/

 

[Goliath]

Wait, what did I miss? How is this all that similar to Laments story?

Hehe ok ok not similar, apologies! Just brought flashbacks

 

[Gunner182]

Are you sure she wasn't just using you for free food?

These **** ain't loyal

 

[Hamster]

Well, i guess im not asking advice, just ranting...
So a while back i met this girl, now in my 30 year life span this was the 1st time i met someone with every single feature I’m searching for in a woman, she was smart, petite, witty, HOT, soft, funny, loved my type of music and we had similar interests, there was an instant attraction and we clicked from the word go, to be honest so was perfect in every aspect, when we started dating we kicked off with a bang, she was crazy about me, she told me what a Nice guy i was, how hard it is/was meeting a man like myself, how i made her smile and how she loved the way i spoiled het, she actually went as far as to asking me out and telling me we are in a relationship, it was awesome!
I bought her flowers/chocolates or random small things almost every second day, i still hand wrote her love notes because she like that type of stuff, and so did i... i took her out on very expensive dates which she loved, This past Saturday everything was still perfect, we made out before i left her house, and she texted me how much she missed me after that, yesterday morning she send me a message like she does every day, but i noticed something different, her tone was different, besides that she did not text me every hour throughout the day like she used to, me not being a over attached boyfriend did not say anything, maybe she is busy... at around 15:00 yesterday not hearing a single word from her, i send her a text and asked if she wanted to get some Sushi, which she agreed to instantly, we went there, we ate but i noticed she was different, no longer would she stretch out her hand for me to hold, again i said nothing and acted like i did not notice, after dropping her of last night i get the dreadful message “its not working, the spark is gone, hope i find someone who loves me the same way..blah..blah...blah”....i mean FFS, i did absolutely nothing wrong, i treated her like a queen, i took her to different places, i complemented her every day, her parents and brother loved me, i did everything right for a change because i wanted this one to last.
So what have i learned from this?, well for one don’t try to be a good guy and a wonderful boyfriend, be a insensitive dick, they seem to like that.

Such a sad ****ing story! It's my university days all over again. Bitches bro - damn bitches

/gives hug

 

[Ocali]

Fecking sad stories up in here..

i thought i should add mine.....

my first true love to be honest, we were studying different campus's in Durban, we met via mutual friend. long story short.. best four years of my life honestly.. but we had to deal with alot of long distance.. as the last 2 years.. iv been working outside SA on a rotational basis, every few months i would come home for a few weeks. and basically after a a lovely holiday in November last year, i literally just got back to work.. a week back at work we have an tiff, on getting married.. i apparently rejected her,been stringing her along and all sorts of ***. all i wanted was to get married when im working full time back in Sa.. any yeah that weekend of the weekend she sed it was over, deleted me from her life pretty much didnt take my calls etc etc. when i went to SA in January, didnt give me the light of day, on the fone or person to maybe try and work things out. any yeah thats that pretty much.

I acknowledge this was my fault.. was the best 4years of my life though. currently still single, not ready to go through that long distance crap ...

cheers.

 

[-Prismo-]

Fecking sad stories up in here..

i thought i should add mine.....

my first true love to be honest, we were studying different campus's in Durban, we met via mutual friend. long story short.. best four years of my life honestly.. but we had to deal with alot of long distance.. as the last 2 years.. iv been working outside SA on a rotational basis, every few months i would come home for a few weeks. and basically after a a lovely holiday in November last year, i literally just got back to work.. a week back at work we have an tiff, on getting married.. i apparently rejected her,been stringing her along and all sorts of ***. all i wanted was to get married when im working full time back in Sa.. any yeah that weekend of the weekend she sed it was over, deleted me from her life pretty much didnt take my calls etc etc. when i went to SA in January, didnt give me the light of day, on the fone or person to maybe try and work things out. any yeah thats that pretty much.

I acknowledge this was my fault.. was the best 4years of my life though. currently still single, not ready to go through that long distance crap ...

cheers.

To be honest I'm surprised you guys made it last for 4 years ..

Very unsettling that she took such a drastic decision after the said years on faulty intuition.. Price of flawed communication I guess, did you clearly stipulate that you were waiting to be in the country full time before marriage talks ?

Depending how long ago this break up happened I think you gave up too easily, you could get her back ...

 

[Ocali]

I was very clear, about my intentions... i initially was working in SA when we started dating, and things were fine, however due to some family issues, i had to looking for a better paying job else where, hence my situation...

Her family obviously did play a part in this, as they wanted her married as soon as possible.. i wont be happy being married and having to leave my wife for months at a time.. especially a newly married couple.

this breakup happened in November/December 2013... i had literally tried everything, i even spoke to her mother, that just wanted me to leave her daughter alone, even tried her sisters(much older and married).. no1 wanted to help me to be honest. maybe i did give up to easily.. i had high hopes and big dreams for us.. i dunno.. anyway thats what 5months ago now, i stopped trying to contact her in January, my last trip home couple of weeks ago, i did think of trying to contact her but decided against it. anyway.. thats that.. i dunno maybe il regret not contacting her, nothings stopped her from trying to contact me either, maybe shes found some1 else who knows..

 

[smallearth]

She told me her ex was a "bad boy", she admitted she thought she could change him but failed miserably, he was a personal trainer who cheated on her for months...According to her i was the direct opposite.

That's the problem, she really wants the Bad Boy because he gets her insides all mushy, but she wants to be treated well so she goes out with Mr Nice Guy only to find she's just not getting what she thinks she needs..... Ai.. been there... sorry man...