Love Woes

[Noob-Noob]

All these years the answer has been right in front of me, i should follow my male dog's example, constantly try to bite or hump the other females.

 

[FrankCastle]

You're too nice.

looks like she wants excitement and adventure.

suggest something outrageous and then see her reaction.

 

[PhireSide]

You're too nice.

looks like she wants excitement and adventure.

suggest something outrageous and then see her reaction.

Buttsecks?

 

[TJ99]

You must read the entire thread, it has been determined that we men think we know what woman want, Woman dont know what woman want, but as a general rule of thumb they like excitement, which we nice guys cannot provide them, they love drama and being treated like crap.

It's not nearly that simple though. You have to treat them like crap, but not too much like crap. What exactly constitutes the right amount of crap is varies with the individual woman, the temperature, location, phase of the moon, current events, past events, feelings and a lot of other stuff. It's almost as bad as trying to figure out when a Vodacom special kicks in.

Same thing applies to the always trying to hump them. If you don't do it they freak out and think you don't find them attractive (not to mention they see that they can't manipulate you and turn you into a sex slave), but if you are too insistent about it that's also a no-no.

Edit: Yup, dogs have this mating thing down. Humans are supposed to be the most intelligent species but those four legged bastards have us beat there. They probably wonder "WTF is wrong with these humans? Why do they make everything so complicated?". Just sniff crotch, bite some males/females/whoever is nearby and get down to business.

 

[semblance]

So lets sum everything up for future sad SOB’s like myself
1.Dont shave, have to look like a man.
You don't have to stop shaving to be a man dude.
2.Buy her chocolates every second week, but cheap stuff, don’t want her thinking you actually give a damn.
Buy her chocolates, sure, but understand why you're buying them. Is it to win her over? Why can't you do this with your personality alone?
3.Constantly try to hump her.
Show interest, but don't be obscene. Use tact.
4.Try to ignore her most of the times, but be Nice about it, when and if she texts, make sure you read it but don’t reply.
No need to play games. Focus on you and then her. Don't you have other things to do besides think about her? Study? Work? Friends? Family?...
5.Dont try and understand her, rather try and hump her.
Find out who she is personality wise as this will matter.
6.No free food, she pays her own bill.
Your call man.
7.Girls like being treated like crap, don’t feel bad about it.
Not sure. I don't think you need to create a 'did I treat her like **** today?' schedule. Stand up for your beliefs though. Don't let her boss you around. She can walk if she disagrees, so can you if you try the same to her.
8.If you do have manners, try to hide it, don’t want her thinking you are a wuss.
Manners are good always, but don't go overboard. You don't have to open her car door for example.


Am i missing something...

Wow have i been totally missing the plot all these years....But I think i'll rather stay single then, like someone said, i'm not going to change because woman's brains are wired incorrectly.

Dude you're focusing too much on changing your own behaviour. There's nothing wrong with being nice, but there is an extreme.

Balance my friend. Balance.

 

[bokdrol]

Some of them don't take well to surprise butt sex. Trust me.

Or even planned. I don't know what makes men think women like that. Gross, they must be desperate.

 

[Pho3nix]

Where is Nick333 when you need him?

And there is a post here that spoke the truth. About being a good guy rather than a nice guy. No one like a push-over. Women are weird. Especially the younger ones(18-24ish)

 

[reactor_sa]

All this **** is made more complicated by the fact that not all women are the same, hence one cannot treat them in the same way. Ffs. Lol

 

[Stokstert]

Candy is dandy but liqueur is quicker.

 

[tsume]

Sounds like you put her on a pedestal

 

[SauRoNZA]

Well, i guess im not asking advice, just ranting...
So a while back i met this girl, now in my 30 year life span this was the 1st time i met someone with every single feature I’m searching for in a woman, she was smart, petite, witty, HOT, soft, funny, loved my type of music and we had similar interests, there was an instant attraction and we clicked from the word go, to be honest so was perfect in every aspect, when we started dating we kicked off with a bang, she was crazy about me, she told me what a Nice guy i was, how hard it is/was meeting a man like myself, how i made her smile and how she loved the way i spoiled het, she actually went as far as to asking me out and telling me we are in a relationship, it was awesome!
I bought her flowers/chocolates or random small things almost every second day, i still hand wrote her love notes because she like that type of stuff, and so did i... i took her out on very expensive dates which she loved, This past Saturday everything was still perfect, we made out before i left her house, and she texted me how much she missed me after that, yesterday morning she send me a message like she does every day, but i noticed something different, her tone was different, besides that she did not text me every hour throughout the day like she used to, me not being a over attached boyfriend did not say anything, maybe she is busy... at around 15:00 yesterday not hearing a single word from her, i send her a text and asked if she wanted to get some Sushi, which she agreed to instantly, we went there, we ate but i noticed she was different, no longer would she stretch out her hand for me to hold, again i said nothing and acted like i did not notice, after dropping her of last night i get the dreadful message “its not working, the spark is gone, hope i find someone who loves me the same way..blah..blah...blah”....i mean FFS, i did absolutely nothing wrong, i treated her like a queen, i took her to different places, i complemented her every day, her parents and brother loved me, i did everything right for a change because i wanted this one to last.
So what have i learned from this?, well for one don’t try to be a good guy and a wonderful boyfriend, be a insensitive dick, they seem to like that.

I don't know hey, sounds to me like you overcooked it.

Too much too often too quickly.

You sure you weren't the one sending the messages every hour of every day?

 

[killerbyte]

Sorry Lament. It does suck man and I feel for you.

I know I will get backlash for this but let me just say it... AF BB (Alpha *****s, Beta Bux)
Which simply means that from the Alpha she wants the sperm and from the beta she wants the money and support. The crap thing is that I have seen it in basically every woman I know including family.
Time to swallow the Red Pill and learn how to play the game better than girls like her do.
I would not be surprised if she goes back to her ex simply because he didn't give her all his attention, he made himself the prize and made her work for it... and guess what, she loved it.

AWALT

 

[Noob-Noob]

Or even planned. I don't know what makes men think women like that. Gross, they must be desperate.

I dont even know why men will like this.

 

[Noob-Noob]

Where is Nick333 when you need him?

And there is a post here that spoke the truth. About being a good guy rather than a nice guy. No one like a push-over. Women are weird. Especially the younger ones(18-24ish)

She was 32
And i understand this, not even a guy would like a push-over girl, there is a huge diffrence in having manners plus being a gentleman than in being a push-over.

 

[Noob-Noob]

I don't know hey, sounds to me like you overcooked it.

Too much too often too quickly.

You sure you weren't the one sending the messages every hour of every day?

i agree i did overcook it, but at no point did she complain or even remotely looked like she did not like/appreciate everything.
And no, i'll send 1 message and will not send another until she replies, i do this with all woman. I have had girls irritating the crap out of me with their constant messages, so thanks to them i have learned to give people space, if i like someone and they constantly send me texts, i will respond, but i wont be the weird guy sending them the whole time.

 

[PhireSide]

 

[Ancalagon]

i agree i did overcook it, but at no point did she complain or even remotely looked like she did not like/appreciate everything.
And no, i'll send 1 message and will not send another until she replies, i do this with all woman. I have had girls irritating the crap out of me with their constant messages, so thanks to them i have learned to give people space, if i like someone and they constantly send me texts, i will respond, but i wont be the weird guy sending them the whole time.

Of course she isnt going to complain! At this early stage in the relationship, things are very delicate. Just because she didnt complain, doesnt mean she wasnt thinking to herself, wow thats coming on a little strong.

 

[googoodoll]

I feel sorry for men. **** I'm a girl and I don't get along with other girls.

Girls sounds kinda like a btch who doesn't know what she wants. Really. The spark is gone? Get real woman. "Love" isn't about having butterflies in your tummy all the time. Sure its nice but **** she's going to have a bad life if that is all she's after.

 

[Ancalagon]

I feel sorry for men. **** I'm a girl and I don't get along with other girls.

Girls sounds kinda like a btch who doesn't know what she wants. Really. The spark is gone? Get real woman. "Love" isn't about having butterflies in your tummy all the time. Sure its nice but **** she's going to have a bad life if that is all she's after.

In this case I actually think she did the right thing.

She wasn't feeling it. OP is too nice and too easy, and didn't turn her on. She was honest with you.

Think of the alternative - you don't turn her on and she feels no spark, but she dates you anyway because she wants someone to look after her and provide for her. That, to me, is far worse. I'd far rather that a girl be honest than use me.

 

[seanyp00h]

Jamie Foxx said it best: "She's a gold digger".

Seems to me she used you man.