Love Woes

Nice guys finish last unfortunately. Many women like the bad boys because they are unpredictable and keep things interesting. Nice guys are too easy to figure out and a lot of women don't want someone they can control too easily emotionally. It makes a relationship boring. She sounds like one of these ladies. Every woman wants a nice guy - as a friend. Too much nice guy killed the spark here because that spark needed a connection on a naughty sexual level as well.

Lament I hope you're doing ok. It's been a while since I've been through this but it sounds a lot like something that happened to me. My attitude to relationships changed a lot after that and for the best.
 
All that money wasted and you didn't even try to score a shag :wtf:

Life is not all that complicated. Next time try using your balls.
 
ShaunSA said:
All that money wasted and you didn't even try to score a shag :wtf:

Life is not all that complicated. Next time try using your balls.
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The way I see it he was just pissing her off every time they went out. Think about it, he set everything/the situation up and then had her go home with wet panties, dying of anticipation.
 
Lament said:
This past Saturday everything was still perfect, we made out before i left her house, and she texted me how much she missed me after that, yesterday morning she send me a message like she does every day, but i noticed something different, her tone was different
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THERE. You were at her house and she was thinking to herself, "OK finally he's going to make a move and shag my brains out. WTF is he taking so long? Am I not hot enough? We'll see tonight."

Then she still didn't get her shag and she just thought - screw this! This guy is just beating around the bush when he should be in my bush. Boring.
 
Sensorei said:
THERE. You were at her house and she was thinking to herself, "OK finally he's going to make a move and shag my brains out. WTF is he taking so long? Am I not hot enough? We'll see tonight."

Then she still didn't get her shag and she just thought - screw this! This guy is just beating around the bush when he should be in my bush. Boring.
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I highly doubt that, this is not my first rodeo...haha, when a girls want you to make love to her, she will let you know indirectly, touch you in a kinda way, or kiss you in a kind of way....was not getting those signals, normally i would try my luck in any case, but like i said i wanted to wait, i was wrong. So much for that :-/
 
Haven't read all of this. Sorry this happened to you. No need to feel embarrassed: this has happened to most of us. My feminine intuition says that ex reappeared on the scene. Some women have issues of low self-worth and some men know how to use it. She may feel she isn't good enough for you. In any case, consider it a lucky escape and move on. Good luck and don't become bitter. The right one is out there somewhere.
 
The point is that you should not be waiting for her to initiate sex, or even hinting that she wants it. In her needs, you need to be that horny dog, to make her feel wanted and desired.
 
I had a very similar relationship with someone a few months ago, honestly I think the fact that she was divorced and going through a dry patch and I didn't jump her bones ASAP. She already started checking out other guys in the second week. I made it easy for everyone and jumped ship before it reached the bottom of the ocean.
Seriously, with some women you can actually wait too long thinking you're just being decent /nice. Doesn't help that some of us guys are blind to the signals.
 
reactor_sa said:
I had a very similar relationship with someone a few months ago, honestly I think the fact that she was divorced and going through a dry patch and I didn't jump her bones ASAP. She already started checking out other guys in the second week. I made it easy for everyone and jumped ship before it reached the bottom of the ocean.
Seriously, with some women you can actually wait too long thinking you're just being decent /nice. Doesn't help that some of us guys are blind to the signals.
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Also doesn't help that the signals are different from person to person. She might be firing things off at you thinking you must be getting the hint... You are sitting there going... Why isn't she sending me signal X Y or Z? Meanwhile she is sending 73 59 and 2582.
 
Listen to the advice you're being given above. It might not be what you want to hear but it's plainly obvious what's going on. The signals were there.
 
So lets sum everything up for future sad SOB’s like myself
1.Dont shave, have to look like a man.
2.Buy her chocolates every second week, but cheap stuff, don’t want her thinking you actually give a damn.
3.Constantly try to hump her.
4.Try to ignore her most of the times, but be Nice about it, when and if she texts, make sure you read it but don’t reply.
5.Dont try and understand her, rather try and hump her.
6.No free food, she pays her own bill.
7.Girls like being treated like crap, don’t feel bad about it.
8.If you do have manners, try to hide it, don’t want her thinking you are a wuss.

9.Try and hump her all the time. *Added by DeadManza
10.If its Surprise Buttsex, warn her *Added by Ninja'd
11.Be spontaneous and unpredictable (i.e. try and hump her) * wabbit16

Am i missing something...:D

Wow have i been totally missing the plot all these years....But I think i'll rather stay single then, like someone said, i'm not going to change because woman's brains are wired incorrectly.
 
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Lament said:
So lets sum everything up for future sad SOB’s like myself
1.Dont shave, have to look like a man.
2.Buy her chocolates every second week, but cheap stuff, don’t want her thinking you actually give a damn.
3.Constantly try to hump her.
4.Try to ignore her most of the times, but be Nice about it, when and if she texts, make sure you read it but don’t reply.
5.Dont try and understand her, rather try and hump her.
6.No free food, she pays her own bill.
7.Girls like being treated like crap, don’t feel bad about it.
8.If you do have manners, try to hide it, don’t want her thinking you are a wuss.

Am i missing something...:D
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9 - Try and hump her all the time.

Have to add it in for emphasis.
 
TJ99 said:
This is really the true lesson here.
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To be honest I think that depends on how much one is willing to compromise to make it work. It's a personal judgement call on how much one is willing to compromise/change (still debatable if or how much one can change).
 
reactor_sa said:
To be honest I think that depends on how much one is willing to compromise to make it work. It's a personal judgement call on how much one is willing to compromise/change (still debatable if or how much one can change).
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One CAN change, sure. There's a whole community of men dedicated specifically to changing themselves into what women want. They're called PUA's.

The point is, why would you want to? It's exactly that, compromising yourself. If you want to change something about yourself, it should be to make you a better person, not to meet womens insane ideals.
 
Lament said:
So lets sum everything up for future sad SOB’s like myself
1.Dont shave, have to look like a man.
2.Buy her chocolates every second week, but cheap stuff, don’t want her thinking you actually give a damn.
3.Constantly try to hump her.
4.Try to ignore her most of the times, but be Nice about it, when and if she texts, make sure you read it but don’t reply.
5.Dont try and understand her, rather try and hump her.
6.No free food, she pays her own bill.
7.Girls like being treated like crap, don’t feel bad about it.
8.If you do have manners, try to hide it, don’t want her thinking you are a wuss.
9.Try and hump her all the time. *Added by DeadManza
10.If its Surprise Buttsex, warn her *Added by Ninja'd

Am i missing something...:D

Wow have i been totally missing the plot all these years....But I think i'll rather stay single then, like someone said, i'm not going to change because woman's brains are wired incorrectly.
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To this day, I still don't get it..

What's up with this ? ---> Go for the one who couldn't care less about you ?

I mean... seriously :/
 
Gary M said:
To this day, I still don't get it..

What's up with this ? ---> Go for the one who couldn't care less about you ?

I mean... seriously :/
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You must read the entire thread, it has been determined that we men think we know what woman want, Woman dont know what woman want, but as a general rule of thumb they like excitement, which we nice guys cannot provide them, they love drama and being treated like crap.
 
11. Be spontaneous and unpredictable (i.e. try and hump her)
 
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