I was kvlt and tru in high school. If it wasn't blackened death metal or black metal, I thought it was **** and didn't even consider listening to it. Thankfully, my musical journey has opened my eyes to the million other genres out there, and a few non-metal ones, too. I still think some genres are absolute dog**** (is screamo dead yet?), but I keep that to myself mostly.
There are always going to be people who don't agree with our taste in music. Sadly, it'll usually be our own people. There's a metal "elite" out there (at least they think so) - it's best just to ignore them, cause no matter what you say or who you listen to, they'll always be more metal than you. Just remember: to everyone else out there in pretty unicorn land, you're as metal as ****, and that's all that matters. \m/