money & relationships

M

mooks

Senior Member
Joined
May 29, 2012
Messages
897
Reaction score
0
How is your relationship structured financially and does it work for you?

When SO and I first got our own place, the expenses were split about 60/40 (with him paying the 60). Then I moved to NL and started earning less and simultaneously taking on more family related financial responsibilities. As a result I have remarkably less disposable income and he usually lands up footing the flight/train costs so that we still see each other regularly (not to mention that any luxuries in my life are courtesy of Mr Mooks these days).

I have always been fiercely independent in relationships but also a complete mess when it comes to managing money. So, if it wasn't for SO, I'd be in a constant state of pennilessness. It's not a situation I'm completely comfortable with, and while he has never expressed any issues about the €€ setup, i still feel guilty about leaning on him when I do.

What's your set up?
 
Korn1 said:
Don't feel bad man,you would do the same for him right?
Click to expand...

Yeah of course, but he is quite together and stable so I struggle to imagine a time where I'd be able to repay the (financial) favour.
 
Shouldn't matter either way. Don't
mind supporting and wouldn't mind being supported either. :D
 
I don't think the trains run from here to The Netherlands or to Australia.

I earn 100% of our income. She spends most of it.
 
ChilliGirl said:
Why did you move and not him too?
Click to expand...

Because I have family obligations that I am fulfilling here. He will move in about a year, depending on when a work project wraps up. He has a really good job in London (plus he doesnt speak Dutch) so we want to make sure he can secure a job on an equivalent career trajectory before just upping and moving simply because the wheels on my family-wagon came off a bit ;) (I say that with love).
 
I moved in with my SO about a month ago. Since I still have to pay rent till the end of the year I can't contribute as much now as I will next year. But from next year it comes down to I have to buy the electricity and all the groceries.
 
My husband and I have a business together.

He goes out to the clients and I work from home doing the admin, research and finance side of the business.

The business account is in his name and most of our debt gets paid from that account. I run the finances. I also pay myself a salary out of the business which I use for personal expenses (clothes, hair, etc).
 
I actually learnt our method of money management from a poster on mybb. We both put together what we earn. We pay all our accounts and bills, put some of whats left over into savings and there share whats left 50/50. Right now I earn more than my wife, but that will probably change next year.
 
In this house, I earn the money and the wife spends it. Of course I am allowed my toys as well. Having been married 40 years you get used to your partner manages their financial affairs.

I have a 63 year old unmarried male friend looking for a rich Jewish widow, not too old and with malleable kids, who has a nice flat in Sea Point, will leave him to his thing, maybe give him R20k a month spending money, a new car now and then. Sex is available, not a pre-condition. Prospective widows will be provided with an email address to which they can reply.
 
chrisc4290 said:
In this house, I earn the money and the wife spends it. Of course I am allowed my toys as well. Having been married 40 years you get used to your partner manages their financial affairs.

I have a 63 year old unmarried male friend looking for a rich Jewish widow, not too old and with malleable kids, who has a nice flat in Sea Point, will leave him to his thing, maybe give him R20k a month spending money, a new car now and then. Sex is available, not a pre-condition. Prospective widows will be provided with an email address to which they can reply.
Click to expand...

This isn't the jokes thread :D.
 
mooks said:
How is your relationship structured financially and does it work for you?

When SO and I first got our own place, the expenses were split about 60/40 (with him paying the 60). Then I moved to NL and started earning less and simultaneously taking on more family related financial responsibilities. As a result I have remarkably less disposable income and he usually lands up footing the flight/train costs so that we still see each other regularly (not to mention that any luxuries in my life are courtesy of Mr Mooks these days).

I have always been fiercely independent in relationships but also a complete mess when it comes to managing money. So, if it wasn't for SO, I'd be in a constant state of pennilessness. It's not a situation I'm completely comfortable with, and while he has never expressed any issues about the €€ setup, i still feel guilty about leaning on him when I do.

What's your set up?
Click to expand...

If you are both working equally as hard i don't think the money split % matters so much because salaries can have quite different effort/reward ratios which can change over time. He might earn more now and you later. The main thing is you are both contributing your fair share. If he is fine with it, then you should be fine with it. :)

Ghoti's system seems pretty good.
 
my money is mine. sorry - i said MINE. i'm not sharing. hubby pays everything. other than that we are very happy :D. won't be having it any other way. :twisted:
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top
Sign up to the MyBroadband newsletter
X