Please excuse the terrible drawing, but it equates to something like this:
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Your "3 position selector switch" can be something like this:
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The 3 position is so that you have:
1 - Mains
0 - OFF
2 - Gen
The OFF position allows safe switching in order to avoid spikes on any equipment - and to avoid any possibily of mains and gen ever coming into contact. This sometimes happens on 2-position switches.
Keep in mind that this selector must be rated to take your full mains capacity as it will be a permanent fixture.
The "Mains ON" / "Gen ON" indicators can either be a 230V buzzer or a lamp, or both in one like this:
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I added protection circuit breakers for it - which comes in handy if you want to switch off a noisy buzzer. But the buzzer / lamp helps you see when you have mains or gen power at the inputs of your selector switch. If you don't go for a buzzer (or maybe even a buzzer that you can silence) you can leave the lamps on.
You can choose to have a permanent cable running to your Gen's output, or a dedicated socket that leads from the selector switch to your gen and nowhere else.
So if Eskom loadsheds you, you:
1) Start the Gen.
2) Check the status lamp to see that you have gen power.
3) Switch the selector from 1 "Mains" to 0 "OFF".
4) Wait a few seconds to allow fridge motors etc to stop completely.
5) Switch the selector from 0 "OFF" to 2 "Gen".
When you see the "Mains ON" lamp or buzzer activate, you can use the selector to switch back to Mains. Keep in mind that it's worth waiting a few minutes to see that the mains is stable...also allow a few seconds "OFF" to allow motors and such to stop completely before activating the mains.
EDIT: I forgot to change the title of SW4 to whatever your main circuit breaker in your DB is called. SW5 and SW6 are 2Amp circuit breakers - not used for anything other than monitoring the availability of each supply.