My gf is weird?

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Your gf isn't weird. She's just being female.

No way Acid, not every girl is in a rush to get married and start a family. Not every girl is as as crazy as her too... :rolleyes:
Although there are quite a few girls who come pretty darn close! ;)

Just thinking abut marriage at the moment makes me nervous... It would take a LOT to make me consider that step. No rush to settle down thank you very much

That girl seems to have forgotten that it takes two committed people for a successful marriage to take place. And the desperation thing must be such a turn off. Why is she begging him to sleep with her? That's pretty pathetic. As someone mentioned, she sounds like the kind of girl who would 'forget' to take her pill just to trap the poor guy. Lame :mad:

Damn if some guy started telling everyone I was marrying him before he even asked me it would be the biggest warning sign ever that he is an absolute weirdo and I'd bail straight away! Desperation is never sexy
 
*points at M_H* He's desperate...

Though you've passed puberty hey?.... oh well he'll find someone eventually :p
 
No way Acid, not every girl is in a rush to get married and start a family. Not every girl is as as crazy as her too... :rolleyes:
Although there are quite a few girls who come pretty darn close! ;)

Just thinking abut marriage at the moment makes me nervous... It would take a LOT to make me consider that step. No rush to settle down thank you very much

That girl seems to have forgotten that it takes two committed people for a successful marriage to take place. And the desperation thing must be such a turn off. Why is she begging him to sleep with her? That's pretty pathetic. As someone mentioned, she sounds like the kind of girl who would 'forget' to take her pill just to trap the poor guy. Lame :mad:

Damn if some guy started telling everyone I was marrying him before he even asked me it would be the biggest warning sign ever that he is an absolute weirdo and I'd bail straight away! Desperation is never sexy

You find it pathetic that she has to beg him for sex? I find it pathetic the oke won't nail her.

Seriously What kinda gay boy turns down a female constantly throwing herself at him while dating her.

No no some serious sausage issues going on here with him i reckon.
 
You find it pathetic that she has to beg him for sex? I find it pathetic the oke won't nail her.

Seriously What kinda gay boy turns down a female constantly throwing herself at him while dating her.

No no some serious sausage issues going on here with him i reckon.

Maybe she's 11?
 
You find it pathetic that she has to beg him for sex? I find it pathetic the oke won't nail her.

Seriously What kinda gay boy turns down a female constantly throwing herself at him while dating her.

No no some serious sausage issues going on here with him i reckon.
:D:D

I laugh she is actually a poster on this forum. She sounds like she could be :D
 
Lmfao. You ppl. Anyway Im 20 and shes 19 and shes studying and Im Woking full time.Shes liked me for over 5 years and says I can do anything to her and she even made me meet her parents and they like me.

Im not gay im just trying to treat her like a human being and I have only been with 1 other girl sexually.This girl seems like she will make the perfect mother always talking about kids.

She has this strange fantasy about me picking her from her home and running off together and because of her jelousy I lost all contact with other females and certain males and I don't go out anymore although I prefer it that way too, shes paranoid.She acts mature on the phone and mxit/fb but in person shes really shy and really immature and that got me scared what if she doesn't really love me what if she going through some phase.

She says that she always thought of me when she went out with other guys although she didn't do much with them.Even her mom and dad says shes shocked her daughter actually brought me home to meet the parents cause thats never happened.
 
because of her jelousy I lost all contact with other females and certain males and I don't go out anymore although I prefer it that way too, shes paranoid.

This is not a healthy relationship. You need to have a life outside of her however much you love her.

Appeasing her and cutting off your friends will only make things worse. Unless you have given her a reason to distrust you she really has no right to even have an opinion on you seeing your mates.

Do not mistake control for love... This girl is clearly insecure and is doing everything possible to make you hers and hers alone. Isolating you from your mates is only the first step.

True love is wanting your significant other to be happy whether it's with you or independent of you i.e. in your career, with your family and your mates. Your SO should be an important part of your life, not dominate your very essence.

Do you really prefer not seeing your friends?

I'm being competely blunt now but please grow a pair!
 
Lmfao. You ppl. Anyway Im 20 and shes 19 and shes studying and Im Woking full time.Shes liked me for over 5 years and says I can do anything to her and she even made me meet her parents and they like me.

Im not gay im just trying to treat her like a human being and I have only been with 1 other girl sexually.This girl seems like she will make the perfect mother always talking about kids.

She has this strange fantasy about me picking her from her home and running off together and because of her jelousy I lost all contact with other females and certain males and I don't go out anymore although I prefer it that way too, shes paranoid.She acts mature on the phone and mxit/fb but in person shes really shy and really immature and that got me scared what if she doesn't really love me what if she going through some phase.

She says that she always thought of me when she went out with other guys although she didn't do much with them.Even her mom and dad says shes shocked her daughter actually brought me home to meet the parents cause thats never happened.
you my friend is heading for disaster :eek:
 
you my friend is heading for disaster :eek:

+1

Not having other female friends because of her? Losing some guy friends. Nah come on dude.

As others have said before, run! (fast) and never look back hehe.
 
No way Acid, not every girl is in a rush to get married and start a family. Not every girl is as as crazy as her too... :rolleyes:
Although there are quite a few girls who come pretty darn close! ;)

Just thinking abut marriage at the moment makes me nervous... It would take a LOT to make me consider that step. No rush to settle down thank you very much

That girl seems to have forgotten that it takes two committed people for a successful marriage to take place. And the desperation thing must be such a turn off. Why is she begging him to sleep with her? That's pretty pathetic. As someone mentioned, she sounds like the kind of girl who would 'forget' to take her pill just to trap the poor guy. Lame :mad:

Damn if some guy started telling everyone I was marrying him before he even asked me it would be the biggest warning sign ever that he is an absolute weirdo and I'd bail straight away! Desperation is never sexy

lol, okay, sit back and relax.... enjoy the moment of wisdom I'm going to throw at you:

Women, when in love and (in this particular case) feel they're going to lose the guy because of the virginity thing (and him respecting it by not trying to have sex with her, which lead to the fear in the first place), will always bring up marriage.

Yes. Even you.

Why? Simple, you're smitten. It's natural to make suggestions to being married, be it subtle or down right "I'm going to marry you" statements being flung around.

However, when the guy starts responding to this, the fear of losing him (or the smitten feeling combined with this fear, or just the smitten feeling....) will dissipate and the "nervous" feeling you talked about will sink in.

Things like, "I'm too young to get married" and "What if he's not the one" to "I haven't had that many boyfriends before, maybe I should date more people first" and "I still want to travel, if I get married now, then he'll want to have kids and we'll never be able to do this while I'm still young and able to enjoy my life!"

The last part in the case of my ex had a hidden "and I want to **** other guys before settling down" as well, even though I was more than willing to compromise, hell, I didn't even MENTION marriage, she was the one... and then got cold feet and dumped me (many other reasons too) because of her own meanderings... but I'm drifting off topic...

So even though what is happening is natural in all women the varying degrees do change. Some women get pregnant to "lock him in". Some want to get married ASAP to show him how true she is to him (and wants him to acknowledge the same because physically he's not making any advances)

Now in this case, because he's not making any physical advances trying to take her virginity, is whats setting off this entire "crazy" vibe towards him.

She's not crazy. She's a woman.

Women want to know they're sexually attractive to you even though they don't want you to have sex with them. That's what most guys don't understand and can't tell where the line is.

"But she dressed up and put on make up just to go out with her girl friends!!?"... yes... because she still want to be sexually attractive and hit on, but not to such a degree where it spoils her evening with the girls.

"I want to" with as much as "I don't want to"

Like my dad says, "Boy, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.... you'd need to learn what the balance is to keep 'em happy"

So to the OP.

Welcome to the wonderful world of women.

Try to bone her. See how far you can take it. Even if you do respect her wishes don't stop trying till she says it's not okay to go any further!

Mkay? That way it stifles her need to be married to you for the sake of having sex so that she knows you won't stray (which is a false sense of hope because those things don't guarantee anything)

She'll calm down once you go down. KK? ;)
 
Oh and just to add onto this topic, seeing as though it seems you're not allowed to have female friends (and lost contact with other males)

My guess is those males are known to hang around with pretty girls (or players) so the influence of them on you made her nervous because, she's not giving you any, and you being a man, wants some (in her mind) so she's more than willing to find fault in those people and start fights just so she can remove outside temptation in an attempt to keep you from straying.

Same way she's doing now by mentioning the marriage thing. She feels if you're not getting sexually satisfied by her, that you will try and find it somewhere else.

So like I said in my reply just now. Try to bone her. Take it as far as she wants you to go. Don't think "I have to stop now just in case"

And if she gets mad because you're trying to have sex with her? Avoid the fight. Just admit something like, "But you make me so horny" when she starts crapping you out because you should KNOW she wants to stay a virgin till marriage.

It should be enough to defuse the bomb and try again later.

Making her think you want her physically AND mentally will stop the crazyness. You can then start hanging out and going out more often because she trusts you won't stray...
 
If you too scared to pop it, send it my way for the weekend, I'll return it with candy.

but bottom line, (after reading ur most recent post) shes a nut case, Ive seen this happen to 1 or 2 of my friends & maybe 1 uncle, save yourself. Run for the hills.
 
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