Non religious support groups, For men

It's because we don't talk about Fight Club...

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surface said:
This is currently not possible in a country that mostly (79% ?) identifies as Christian and where people drop jesus/saviour in conversations/whatsapp statuses like it gets them some browny points.
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You seem bitter.
 
MagNorthDigital said:
So you're saying he is more like a 90% bitter? Or straight cacao, with high acidity?
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I do not have experience with the depths of high % cacao products to be any further value in this interaction. They/them do seem like a bitter interwebs profile though...
 
Harmonic said:
On a serious note, I get where you're coming from. It might help to include what type of support you're looking for? Single dad, divorce etc
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Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..
FiestaST said:
Tinder struggles?
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One day, but ironically we met on tinder,
rh1 said:
If he needs a PK, I can assist. Only in Cape Town.
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marbro said:
Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..

One day, but ironically we met on tinder,

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I feel for you, marbro. Condolences on the loss of your wife.

As someone with a general dearth of close friends, and having gone through an emotionally brutal break-up earlier this year, I found it a very lonely time. Bar one amazing friend and confidante, most of my social group, male and female, were either at a loss as to how to openly lend their support or simply glossed over things entirely.

Time and a great deal of introspection helped me.

I don't really have a solid suggestion for you. I just wanted to reach out to say that I hope you find a healthy outlet for your emotions. One step at a time.
 
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marbro said:
Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..

One day, but ironically we met on tinder,

:(
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**** bud - wish I could give you a hug right now.
 
marbro said:
Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..

One day, but ironically we met on tinder,

:(
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Sometimes life just suck. Sorry for your loss.

Remember that grief is just love with no place to go...

Don't get me wrong, the anger will not go away, but use it to kick the shyte out of a punching bag or politician....
and then channel that love into yourself, your kids and friends/family.
 
marbro said:
Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..

One day, but ironically we met on tinder,

:(
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Fok bra I'm 100% with you on that one. My wife was taken by cancer at age 35 three years ago.
I promised her on her death bed that I would live the best life I possibly could and I meant that promise. Fulfilling it is what got me through and it still drives everything I do to this day. That is what worked for me.

Another avenue of support would be to make use of the services offered by a hospice organisation. In Cape Town I was supported through everything by St Lukes Hospice (https://stlukeshospice.co.za/) and they offered trauma and grief counselling and it was at no direct cost to me. It was very useful and they were also non-religious and were very supportive in acknowledging the true reality of the situation which is what you need right now.

And yeah I don't want to start a debate but after that my view is that even if god exists I will never forgive him for what he did to my wife and me. I'd rather go to hell out of principle than kiss that evil and sadistic tyrants boot. So you feck god and I'm sure you can get through this. Dark roads and tough times ahead but you can do it.
 
AlmightyBender said:
Fok bra I'm 100% with you on that one. My wife was taken by cancer at age 35 three years ago.
I promised her on her death bed that I would live the best life I possibly could and I meant that promise. Fulfilling it is what got me through and it still drives everything I do to this day. That is what worked for me.

Another avenue of support would be to make use of the services offered by a hospice organisation. In Cape Town I was supported through everything by St Lukes Hospice (https://stlukeshospice.co.za/) and they offered trauma and grief counselling and it was at no direct cost to me. It was very useful and they were also non-religious and were very supportive in acknowledging the true reality of the situation which is what you need right now.

And yeah I don't want to start a debate but after that my view is that even if god exists I will never forgive him for what he did to my wife and me. I'd rather go to hell out of principle than kiss that evil and sadistic tyrants boot. So you feck god and I'm sure you can get through this. Dark roads and tough times ahead but you can do it.
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We have been intouch with Cansa, They have some counselling etc,
My wife was 33, turning 34 in feb, so yeah ....very close to what you went through
 
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