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Non religious support groups, For men
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Harmonic
Executive Member
Sorry for your loss but honestly, do you think the world owes you something?
pinball wizard
Honorary Master
AA is pretty good. You might get the odd bint arriving, but there are also men only groups.
pinball wizard
Honorary Master
All you are doing is showing your limited and naive understanding of the gospel.Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..
One day, but ironically we met on tinder,
No, the world owes me nothing, But support would be appreciated, in the form of a group or something similar. Not only for me, but men in general. Without the need to impose religious beliefs on it...
Im not actually sure how to respond to that, Really.. I could be snotty, but that would lean towards proving your "point", I could ignore it, or I could ask you to enlighten me.... Explain how the loss of a wife and mother makes the the bigger picture better please.
pinball wizard
Honorary Master
It's not about your loss or some purported bigger picture.
It's about the gospel of Christ. It's not about you, it's about Him.
Sworaxe
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MagNorthDigital
Expert Member
Firstly, condolences. Cancer is the farthest thing from a reasonable disease / affliction.Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..
One day, but ironically we met on tinder,
May I offer a word of comfort. Take solice in the fact that you were her gift on this earth, and that she gave you three in return.
Life is not fair in the slightest. We all travel through our own versions of "the lowest lows".
Our experiences shape us both inside and out. And now, you have the opportunity to continue what she helped you build.
All the best.
pinball wizard
Honorary Master
Well, feel free to worship that. That's not Christ though.
Tim_vb
Expert Member
What a nasty comment, reminds me why again why people banging on about their religion are to be kept at arms length at all times
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pinball wizard
Honorary Master
My apologies.
Strongs, is it?
BTW, it was the guy I responded to who was shitting on God.
Sir. You don't need religion. You simply need to consider all of them together as pointing towards something. How far you decide to pursue this is entirely your choice. Each religion will try to pull you onto a path. Ignore them, at least for the time being.
Now, when you wake up in the morning, whatever tricks your mind will try to play on you about how much life sucks , or how hard is is to carry on without that warm comfort you're accustomed to, ignore them. They are primal obsessions of the mind. I promise you that she is still with you in every moment. Every impression she ever made on you to make you who you are, still exists in you right now. Any mannerism you might have picked up from her; they didn't go anywhere. When you look at your children, she is staring you straight in the face, every day. As they grow, they will share features with her. When you see them at their happiest, they will remind you of her.
By the time you die, these could either be your most beautiful moments, or your greatest sufferings. Nobody on a message board can choose for you. All that can be done is to look behind the veil of your own suffering and emotional attachments and see the truth of what life is really about, how amazing your time together was, and how beautifully you can continue to live your life in honour of the love you shared with her.
Some people spend the rest of their life suffering after such heavy losses, slowly teaching themselves to hate the pain of remembering their loved ones, until the memories eventually fade from the mind, and all that remains is a hollow vessel. It breaks my heart to see how heavy it weighs on them.
Perhaps there is a better, deeper way. Instead, look for her in a blade of grass blowing in the wind. Look for her in everything that you do. I promise you she's there. She's everywhere. Waiting for you to see it too.
And when you do, heaven immediately becomes a place on earth.
Good luck King. Feel free to message me.
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Gone Fishing
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Gone Fishing
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I am sure God is big enough to look after himself, without you having to white-knight for Him.
Wow...
Thank you.... I am blown away by this, Thank you for the kind words, Really..
I will do my best to take this approach, it seems the best way forward. Thank you again
Nerfherder
Honorary Master
When I die and it turns out god is real, he will ask me why I didn't believe or wasn't a christian... I'll give this as an example.
No matter how bad I was in my life - at least I was never as **** as posting this when someone asks for help.
If this means going to hell, then I welcome it. As far away from people like this as possible.
RedViking
Nord of the South
I'm sorry for your loss, but your anger is misplaced.Recently widowed.. Cancer, So far all religious bullshit points to a divine plan,
Honestly, if the plan involves leaving two kids (13 and 10) without a mom, me without a spouse, Its a ****en kak one..
One day, but ironically we met on tinder,
Really sorry about your spouse. Cancer is horrible.
pinball wizard
Honorary Master
Exactly what I said. Except that ricoffy makes you more eloquent.
No need to justify your post, its the internet. You dont need to be a decent human.
You go pray to that all powerful, all knowing being that could end every bit of pain and suffering, but chooses rather to test us constantly after giving us free will.
It dawned on me earlier today, The reason why Support groups and religion are so close together, Religion prays on the weak, takes vulnerable souls and promises them happiness and joy, If it can deliver on those promises, who knows...