Nothing ever stays the same

[heartbroken]

how dafuq did that happen?

That is the million dollar question.

I only have one friend left from high school, he went from being my best friend to someone I now play Battlefield with a couple of times a month.

Made lots of friends at varsity, but then they decided to move to the big city and I stayed behind. I suppose that is no reason to end a friendship. But I find that people get absorbed into their new environment, doing new things, meeting new people and that just sort of makes the old friendships fade. Likewise, I think the out of sight out of mind metaphor applies to me. I start of strong chatting a couple of times a week, which fades out to once every couple of months or not at all.

It does not happen intentionally, more a case of "life happens" and in my opinion the biggest cause of people drifting apart is that life happens differently to everyone.

 

[CamiKaze]

My circle of friends changed the second my gf moved in...

 

[genetic]

My circle of friends changed the second my gf moved in...

And what's kark about that is when you and your GF decide to split. Then you have no one.

 

[AlphaBravo]

The only constant is change

This is the way the world manages to survive.

 

[mooks]

It does not happen intentionally, more a case of "life happens" and in my opinion the biggest cause of people drifting apart is that life happens differently to everyone.

Yup. I've moved countries 3 times recently. It means starting over again each time. Connecting with colleagues, making new friends finding new places to go for a beer or watch a movie. MY SO's one best mate moved to Canada, the other to Japan and his girlfriend (that would be me ) to the Netherlands all within the space of a year. He too finds himself at a loose end some days.

It's also an age thing though. Being 20<n<30 means many peers are getting into serious relationships, getting married, having kids while some are taking that 6mnth / year long trip around Asia or South America because all of a sudden the reality that we're not young forever starts to hit home. If you're not doing similair things with your life at similair times to those around you, it's easy for life to get in the way of relationships that used to mean a lot.

 

[azbob]

That's how it should be. As soon as you get comfortable, move and change.

 

[mooks]

That's how it should be. As soon as you get comfortable, move and change.

I dont know that I agree with that. I think consistency can also be very rewarding. Having a foundation and security is important for many people. You cant stay in almost constant motion your whole life and then expect to turn 60, 70, 80 and be sipping cough syrup with your life long buddies at the ou toppies home. Because, well, essentially, you wont have (m)any... And who wants to get old alone?

 

[azbob]

I dont know that I agree with that. I think consistency can also be very rewarding. Having a foundation and security is important for many people. You cant stay in almost constant motion your whole life and then expect to turn 60, 70, 80 and be sipping cough syrup with your life long buddies at the ou toppies home. Because, well, essentially, you wont have (m)any... And who wants to get old alone?

My advice doesn't apply if you intend to reach a ripe age.

 

[mooks]

My advice doesn't apply if you intend to reach a ripe age.

Well aren't you just a chipper charlie. "Die young and avoid any lasting relationships! Woo!" Do you need a hug?

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Well aren't you just a chipper charlie. "Die young and avoid any lasting relationships! Woo!" Do you need a hug?

woosa, abzo, woosa!

 

[w1z4rd]

Change is certain, learn to enjoy it.

 

[DerpiesFreud]

Change is certain, learn to enjoy it.

Bump
not even I stay the same.....3-6 months ago I considered people who smoke weed to be degenerate junkies,last week I got baked.
Originally I planned to work part time as an IT techie,now I`m going to roll in money(for my age/circumstances) as a software dev.
I`m withdrawing from old habits(sports,socializing etc)
At the same time I have the urge to push myself(confront my fears,do stupid retarded yolo stuff,try out new things,perhaps get arrested)

The last time I felt like this was when I hit pubery....wtf maybe I should take psychiatric meds
I can feel myself slowly going insane...

 

[googoodoll]

Learn to be a lone ranger like me...

 

[DerpiesFreud]

Learn to be a lone ranger like me...

Unfortunately my psychological makeup means I try and seek social contact with people....to the point that I`d even hangout with them if they`re abusive to me.

 

[STS]

Unfortunately my psychological makeup means I try and seek social contact with people....to the point that I`d even hangout with them if they`re abusive to me.

Shut up whore and come and visit me

 

[DerpiesFreud]

Shut up whore and come and visit me

only if you have cookies and sweets

I`m well aware of my weaknesses and try to counteract them with hostility and simulated psycho/sociopathy.
however even then,I still fail

 

[STS]

only if you have cookies and sweets

I`m well aware of my weaknesses and try to counteract them with hostility and simulated psycho/sociopathy.
however even then,I still fail

and i'm the opposite, i hate leaving my house :twisted:

 

[googoodoll]

I`m well aware of my weaknesses and try to counteract them with hostility and simulated psycho/sociopathy.
however even then,I still fail

I think that is the reason why you fail....

 

[DerpiesFreud]

I think that is the reason why you fail....

what do you mean?

 

[googoodoll]

Counteracting weakness with hostility. Can't end well. Ever.